Tanya Nikii
30 Nov 2008
Love / Dating a Polish guy for the first time ever in my life [22]
I have a similar situation. I'm not a model or a gold-digger, but it is hard. My mom thinks my guy should treat me like a queen. But he swears up and down that he's broke. He makes twice as much money as I do, and he doesn't need to pay rent (his job covers that) but he never offers any monetary support. And if I ask, the answer is "no." And yet he says he wants to get married and have kids. But marriage and parenting is about love, sacrifice and yes, money. Right now we can't talk about anything money-related without getting into an argument. Plus, I can't stand it when he tries to sell me things he's had for years. These items could have been given to him for free, but still, he tries to make a buck off me. I've definitely spent a whole lot more on him in the past two years than he's spent on me.
I can't tell you what to do, in your situation. But I know it's difficult, at least when you make less and live in an expensive city. It's just hard when you have to put down the majority of the cash in the relationship. And sometimes it hurts. Money is such a sore subject with him. I just wish he could relax about it. Money comes and goes. That's the way it works. It's okay. But the harder you try to hold onto something, the more likely it is to slip through your fingers.
I have a similar situation. I'm not a model or a gold-digger, but it is hard. My mom thinks my guy should treat me like a queen. But he swears up and down that he's broke. He makes twice as much money as I do, and he doesn't need to pay rent (his job covers that) but he never offers any monetary support. And if I ask, the answer is "no." And yet he says he wants to get married and have kids. But marriage and parenting is about love, sacrifice and yes, money. Right now we can't talk about anything money-related without getting into an argument. Plus, I can't stand it when he tries to sell me things he's had for years. These items could have been given to him for free, but still, he tries to make a buck off me. I've definitely spent a whole lot more on him in the past two years than he's spent on me.
I can't tell you what to do, in your situation. But I know it's difficult, at least when you make less and live in an expensive city. It's just hard when you have to put down the majority of the cash in the relationship. And sometimes it hurts. Money is such a sore subject with him. I just wish he could relax about it. Money comes and goes. That's the way it works. It's okay. But the harder you try to hold onto something, the more likely it is to slip through your fingers.