T_V
5 May 2008
Love / I just met a Polish lady & we like each other, but its complicated. [26]
I'm from the UK but I'm currently in a relationship that I feel has fizzled out over the last yr for various reasons. I met this Polish lady in work & we never really talked until recently.
She asked me how old I was & we are roughly the same age (early 30's) & we just got chatting. When I mentioned my gf her smile dissappeared. Then a few wks later she looked really sad so I asked her what the problem was & she just said that she couldnt tell me now but maybe one day. This really puzzled me & I thought it was a strange thing to say to someone.
The next time I saw her we chatted & I found out that we liked similar styles of music & just seemed to get on very well. Then I asked her what she meant by her strange answer & she just wouldnt say. I assumed that she wouldnt say because she liked me but didnt know how I felt.
This was playing on my mind for a few days because I found that I was also attracted to her but was in a relationship, & I also needed to know that I wasnt just reading the signs wrong.
The next time I saw her I asked if we could talk outside of work as I didnt want any rumours getting around. We met up outside of work & I asked her how she felt about me. She said that I knew how she felt but couldnt say anything because of my current relationship. We chatted for a few hrs in town & felt the same about a lot of subjects. I needed to know whether she was gonna be around for long because I didnt want to start anything & then she goes & leaves me. She said she doesnt want to go back to Poland & she cant because she lost her card or something so she would have to go to London in order to get a new 1 if she wanted to go back.
I said I wanted to meet her again, so we met at her flat. We had Tea & biscuits & we chatted some more.
We met again at hers & again just chatted. She explained to me that she is quite used to being on her own but doesnt want to be played because her last bf cheated on her, & she sometimes felt that us meeting was wrong, but I tried to explain to her that we werent doing anything other than talking. I explained to her that I needed to get to know her & she needed to get to know me a little better & that I would never attempt to be intimate with her until I had sorted out my current relationship.
I just dont want to keep her waiting for too long just in case I lose her, but I need to make sure that she feels the same way as me & isnt going to just use me & move on.
What should I do?
I'm from the UK but I'm currently in a relationship that I feel has fizzled out over the last yr for various reasons. I met this Polish lady in work & we never really talked until recently.
She asked me how old I was & we are roughly the same age (early 30's) & we just got chatting. When I mentioned my gf her smile dissappeared. Then a few wks later she looked really sad so I asked her what the problem was & she just said that she couldnt tell me now but maybe one day. This really puzzled me & I thought it was a strange thing to say to someone.
The next time I saw her we chatted & I found out that we liked similar styles of music & just seemed to get on very well. Then I asked her what she meant by her strange answer & she just wouldnt say. I assumed that she wouldnt say because she liked me but didnt know how I felt.
This was playing on my mind for a few days because I found that I was also attracted to her but was in a relationship, & I also needed to know that I wasnt just reading the signs wrong.
The next time I saw her I asked if we could talk outside of work as I didnt want any rumours getting around. We met up outside of work & I asked her how she felt about me. She said that I knew how she felt but couldnt say anything because of my current relationship. We chatted for a few hrs in town & felt the same about a lot of subjects. I needed to know whether she was gonna be around for long because I didnt want to start anything & then she goes & leaves me. She said she doesnt want to go back to Poland & she cant because she lost her card or something so she would have to go to London in order to get a new 1 if she wanted to go back.
I said I wanted to meet her again, so we met at her flat. We had Tea & biscuits & we chatted some more.
We met again at hers & again just chatted. She explained to me that she is quite used to being on her own but doesnt want to be played because her last bf cheated on her, & she sometimes felt that us meeting was wrong, but I tried to explain to her that we werent doing anything other than talking. I explained to her that I needed to get to know her & she needed to get to know me a little better & that I would never attempt to be intimate with her until I had sorted out my current relationship.
I just dont want to keep her waiting for too long just in case I lose her, but I need to make sure that she feels the same way as me & isnt going to just use me & move on.
What should I do?