i never got a penny out of my sons father, even though we were together 7 years.
That's really bad for you and Roz, the CSA were really hard on me, threats that I would be taken to court etc...... and that was 3 weeks after my ex contacted them, I hadn't even objected to paying for the weeks he was with them!! I can't understand the way things work here, one law etc....It was the same with legal aid, the ex wanted full residency but me and the two boys wanted shared residency, I had to pay all my own legal fees bar £500 during the court case for residency and the ex got legal aid!
Fortunatly I won the case but still had to pay solicitor's fees etc... Have to say the legal team kept costs to the bare minimum and often 'forgot' to charge me for advice, some solicitors ARE HONEST and do want the best for their clients! The only explanation my solicitor had was that they were trying to come down hard so that other women would realise that they had to pay child support if necessery or that they wanted to claw back money because he didn't work!! Never fails to horrify me how people get sh-- if they try to the right thing but wasters get away with everything!
The woman I am assisting is relieved to hear that she may be eligible for legal aid but hopefully it won't come to courts etc.... Hope you do get some justice about this both of you but at least we can all hold our heads up and say we supported our kids!