Child support in remarriage and child support increase for adult children in Poland

My husband has two daughters from a previous marriage, his daughters are 16 and 19. The 19 year old recently sued him for more child support. I have two sons, 5 and 2 years old. My husbands salary is less than mine as he is a rhythmic teacher. His salary pays our rent and child support and he is left with enough for fuel. I generally take care of education (one of my sons is autistic and the other is on day care so that I can work), food, clothing and everything else as I have a better paying job.

My question is, is my money a determining factor in his daughters child support increase?
And if I divorced, what are the child support terms for both the girls and my sons?
If the petition is passed, I will be paying the rent too, and I see no point anymore.

Yes, your money can be taken into consideration by the court to help your husband pay his alimony.

Read the lawyer`s answer to a similar case.
e-prawnik.pl/porady-prawne/podwyzszenie-alimentow-a-dochody-drugiej-zony.html


If you divorce, you won`t have to share your own income/assets with your husband`s previous children.

@pawian thank you, I will check the link. I meant will the child support be reviewed for all 4 children or my sons will be viewed separately? He threatened to kill himself if I divorced him. I don't mind taking care of our boys, if it comes to that. I just want all the knowledge I can get to prepare myself.

Sorry, I don`t understand. I thought you were talking about an official divorce to avoid being charged with paying your husband`s alimony but that you are going to stay with him anyway. Now it sounds as if you wanted to dump your husband althogether. Right?

@pawian, I honestly don't know what to do. The court hearing for child support increase is this Tuesday. Even if I applied for divorce now, it's a long process. I suggested divorce but he told me he will kill himself, as he cannot imagine paying child support for 4 children. That's why I said I don't mind taking full responsibility of our two sons if we divorce, so he can pay only for the daughters if it means, he won't be strained some more. I am trying to weigh in on an option that suits everyone.

I see I probably wasn`t specific/accurate enough before. :):)

So, give us a resolute answer to a simple question: do you still love your husband and want to stay with him or not?

@pawian, he is a good father but our marriage has been a struggle. I have always been put second, esp the first year of marriage. I tried to be supportive, I still am but it always goes back to being second. The ex has more power, she can blackmail him and extort but he does nothing. He always seems afraid... I can't fight his battles. No, I don't love him but I am horribly empathetic...

This is nicely twisted. :):) I smell a rat but never mind, someone else might want to deal with a similar problem in the future.


I see. You must be a very good person. :)


Alimony isn`t automatic, an ex spouse has to demand it officially to have it granted by the court. If you are so empathetic, you can simply abstain from demanding it from your husband so he will only pay his old alimony. :):).

Or if the judge is a fair judge he might just rule that since he took two children and you only wanted two then the burden shall be equal in which you pay him child support since he is paying you alimony.

I bet your empathetic wouldn't be quite what it is now would it.

I dont know why you would allow him to escape from his obligations to your kids. If one is autistic then that will have serious financial effects later so do not create a permanent problem by a too quick temporary solution to this.

His obligation to his kids from first marriage finishes when they are 24 (i think) so it will get less over time.

Cant he look for a better paying job that will help him support 4 kids ? Or do some part time or overntime ?

And dont take out your frustration on the ex - she is also in a very difficult position.