I wouldn't try that without expert legal advice and guidance. Courts do not deal kindly with selfish, greedy clowns trying to pull evasive shenannigans. Could backfire unless done exactly right.
Firstly it is impossible to do without a lawyer, as the lawyer will draft the contract. A separation of assets would be deemed normal in this case or any other case where risk is concerned, if you have no experience in this area its much better to keep schtum on the matter DomonicB.
The court will not even listen to anything having to do with to "emotional stress", especially to third parties like the OP and her children
It is apparent from the OP's concerns the matter is causing her stress, as a mother she must defend her position.
By far the wisest thing to do. Or at least not alienate then even more
Mediation should always be the first, many a Celtic warrior has gone to grave for the sake of pride.
She's still living with her parents and working in their shop, she has no intentions to leave this village. Her expenses hasnt increased significantly. I wasnt stupid to marry him or have a baby with him
calinbeag, it is not the responsibility of the grand parents to finance your husbands son the grand parents may be working for their retirement.
the child hasnt a clue and wasnt affected by it and she probably has told the child that my husband has never paid her..a few years back when my husband was talking on the phone to them she told the child not to call him dad but by is name..
The child must have been affected if he refuses to acknowledge or accept gifts on the day of his communion.
she expects alot from my husband
It sounds like she expects very little & he should accept he has had it very easy from her up until now. I suspect it was your wedding in Poland and the disrespect he showed her by using money as emotional blackmail.
Reading some of the stories on failed Pol/Foreign relationships on PF, I realize in most of cases it all comes down to cultural differences & lack of responsibility.