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How do I get a shy Polish man to make a move?


Berryade24 1 | 2
6 Sep 2017 #1
Hi I'm English and I've been working a few shifts with a lovely Polish man. It's clear he likes me but he's incredibly shy or unsure of himself (not sure which). I'm not a forward person and don't date much so I really don't want to ask him out first, I'm quite old fashioned and would prefer him to.

Everytime I think he's going to say something about going out he goes as red as a tomato and stutters a lot. Does anyone have any advice? I'm only asking on here because of cultural differences I know he's a man just like any other. Thank you!!
mafketis 23 | 7,882
6 Sep 2017 #2
I really don't want to ask him out first, I'm quite old fashioned and would prefer him to.

Forget that crap. Do what a Polish woman would do. If he doesn't make the first move then make it yourself.
DominicB - | 2,703
6 Sep 2017 #3
Forget that crap.

Exactly the word I was going to use. "Old-fashioned" sounds like a euphemism for "cowardly".

Why ever would you think there is something not right in asking him out yourself? Or you could wait forever until he builds up the courage to ask you first. Both of you need to take a course in assertiveness training.

This isn't a cultural difference.
OP Berryade24 1 | 2
6 Sep 2017 #4
You're right. I should be braver but I was concerned he'd think I was tarty.
mafketis 23 | 7,882
6 Sep 2017 #5
No. Polish women can be very up front about what they want.
Roger5 1 | 1,458
6 Sep 2017 #6
If you are both shy, this could turn into a long courtship. Take the bull by the horns and tell him you need help fixing the leg of your bed. Alternatively, ask him what he's doing at the weekend and suggest going somewhere together. He'll probably be as delighted as he is relieved.
peter_olsztyn 6 | 1,098
7 Sep 2017 #8
he goes as red as a tomato

My sister used to say this is a good symptom ;)

Are you extremely hot? If so recommended solution is to make the first move. You will save plenty of time ;)
advice5
15 Sep 2017 #9
I'm a Polish woman, the only graceful way for you to propose anything is along 'friends' lines. But honestly, do you want to go out with the coward?


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