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Problem with my Polish boyfriend


PennBoy 76 | 2,437
29 Dec 2011 #31
we already talked about that and both came to the decision that i shouldn't visit till next september.. but the reason he went home was because his flat is run down (in the old quarter of przemysl) and he is working on it, it's just him and his mum at home..

Stop calling him don't chase after him. Like the saying goes 'if you love something let it go, if it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't, never was' You obviously got feelings for him and it's hard but do it and in a week or two he'll call you himself.
Wedle 16 | 496
29 Dec 2011 #32
i shouldn't visit till next september

Any reason?

Dew123, are you black or of mixed race?
ShawnH 8 | 1,508
29 Dec 2011 #33
Zbigniew Izdebski, whose 2011 survey showed that one in five Polish men had cheated on their wife in the past 12 months.

And how does that compare to other nations? Burlesconi alone must have nudged the Italian statistics a few notches above that of Poland, surely.
PennBoy 76 | 2,437
29 Dec 2011 #34
A cheating map of Britain has been drawn up revealing Devon as the capital of the country for unfaithful partners.

Britain's largest survey of sex and marriage has revealed that the coastal county is the UK's most unfaithful, with a staggering 47 per cent of spouses currently playing away.

dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1260584/Infidelity-map--Devon-exposed-cheating-capital-Britain.html
Wroclaw Boy
29 Dec 2011 #35
A cheating map of Britain has been drawn up revealing Devon as the capital of the country for unfaithful partners.

Shut up Notebook watcher.
youtube.com/watch?v=S3G3fILPQAU
Seanus 15 | 19,706
29 Dec 2011 #36
Drew, do you believe in 'what you don't know doesn't hurt you'?
Harry
29 Dec 2011 #37
A cheating map of Britain has been drawn up revealing Devon as the capital of the country for unfaithful partners.

Britain's largest survey of sex and marriage has revealed that the coastal county is the UK's most unfaithful, with a staggering 47 per cent of spouses currently playing away.

Funny that you ignore the part which says:

Nationally, three per cent of spouses admitted to be currently cheating, and a further seven per cent disclosed that they had cheated on their current wife or husband previously.

So that's 10% total, as opposed to Poland where it is 20% of men and one in nine women.
Seanus 15 | 19,706
29 Dec 2011 #38
Statistics are there to be ignored. Ask yourself why there are often such disparities. To the OP, put the ball right back in his court and state what you want. If he doesn't respond then he'll show how much of a boor he is. It might hurt but it may give you peace of mind.
PennBoy 76 | 2,437
29 Dec 2011 #39
Shut up Notebook watcher.

I don't watch that sh1t I was mocking it silly boy.

Funny that you ignore the part which says:
Nationally, three per cent of spouses admitted to be currently cheating, and a further seven per cent disclosed that they had cheated on their current wife or husband previously.

I know Britain has a low infidelity rate some sources say it's even lower 1%. I just wanted to pin point what part of Britain they're from maybe that would answer some questions. In the US it's much higher 22% of married men cheated at least once.
Seanus 15 | 19,706
29 Dec 2011 #40
Penn, I wouldn't take surveys as an accurate guide. For example, reconcile your stats with the stats of Eric Clive (highly prominent legal writer) that just over 1 in 3 marriages in Scotland end in divorce. That's verifiable as it's recorded in official registars, not by any agency with an agenda. The fact is that so much goes on that we don't see (no, duh!) and that people don't admit to. We should simply accept that it exists but does it really matter to what extent?? Humans are not infallible, period!
peter_olsztyn 6 | 1,098
29 Dec 2011 #41
but i really dont need to hear that he is with someone else

I suppose he is rather reluctant to leave Poland again than has someone else at the moment.
sa11y 5 | 331
29 Dec 2011 #42
Drew, if you are anything like I was at various points of my ever failing relationships, then all you want to hear is that everything will be ok, and that he is just taking time off. Unfortunately, as history showed to me this is not always true. I wasted quite a lot of time being dillusional. Don't make my mistakes. Go out. Enjoy yourself. Don't call him. Have a drink or few. Have a cry if you need to. LOOSE YOUR PHONE. But whatever you do, give him time to get to miss you. If he does not, than cut your losses. If he loves you, he will be back to UK in no time once you give him sensation that he might lose you. Good luck.
Wroclaw Boy
29 Dec 2011 #43
I don't watch that sh1t I was mocking it silly boy.

come on man open up to your feminine side, ive seen that film i didnt actually remember the title till you said it. It was alright, i mean generally speaking its not my type of film but i liked it. Its one of those films the girlfriend or wife just makes you watch from time to time.

I'm only taking the p1ss buddy, its OK if you liked it.
carrie655
29 Dec 2011 #44
Read what Sally has written, make the most of your time without him, catch up with the girls, go dancing and forget to text him for at least a week, when you do, mention what a great time you are having!!!! If you have been so involved with him that your female mates haven't asked you out and about much recently just lie and say you have been having a great time anyway.

A word to the wise about relationships with Polish men, this comes from having lived with one for the last two years and long discussions with his sister and mother. Polish men like their freedom in as much as they like to spend time with their male friends drinking and spouting rubbish!!! They can be flirtatious and will rarely be angry if another woman chases them BUT it doesn;t mean that they will be unfaithful, if they are happy in a relationship they are usually too lazy to go elsewhere, it takes at least 2 minutes of drinking time to sh-- the local t-rt!!!! Some are unfaithful but that goes for all nationalities and the figure of 1 in 5 is probably accurate for most nations also for women!!!!!!

You will need a strong set of female friends if your relationship is to survive but I personally think this is essential whatever the nationality of your partner!!! The one thing that British women can be rightly proud of is the friendships they have with other women, it means we are never dependent on men emotionally or otherwise!

I can't speak about women living in Poland, I only know two (who are great to be fair) but I know quite a lot of immigrant Polish women, don't get too involved, female friendships don't seem to be that sincere in comparison to the friendships that British girls form, although there will be the occasional woman who you will be able to make a real friendship with.

Plenty of love and affection and good food, the occasional reminder that other men still find you attractive and have your own life too and you should be fine, if he is one of those men who are philanderers, bin him and quick!!!! If he doesn't introduce you to the family within the year get rid too! Some people have mentioned ethnic differences here, forget that, although I'm Cardiff born and bred and have a British passport, I am ethnically a Portuguese Jew, this has made no difference to his family at all, infact his mother is rather proud of it and tells everyone what good partners we make!!!!!!! She;s been planning the civil wedding for the last year !!!!!

This won't be the easiest relationship that one can choose but it has a lot to reccomend it if you can be flexible, I hope all goes well for you.
shewolf 5 | 1,077
30 Dec 2011 #45
actually im going to disagree.. i dont think he is cheating on me. he is not like that.
we have made plans for next year and they are going to happen.

Then you have nothing to worry about. Why are you worrying? You'll be with him again in February. You have a future together. Right?
Meathead 5 | 470
30 Dec 2011 #46
The guy probably has a wife back in Poland.
mariobros
30 Dec 2011 #47
The truth is women don’t know what they want. They are always changing their minds about everything. Even when things are just the way they want it, they still keep changing their minds. It still amazes me how most women don’t come to their senses until their 60

98% of women are just complete emotionless, stuck-up, selfish mongers. That other 2% is the REAL women. Nowadays, women either want a guy who rich or hot, & if your neither then your gonna be leaved behind.

I hate women
Wedle 16 | 496
30 Dec 2011 #48
women either want a guy who rich or hot

Thats fair most men want a woman with big t1ts that goes like a train and is as dumb as fcuk. So why shouldn't women have a wish list as welll...
OP drew123 1 | 15
30 Dec 2011 #49
are you black or of mixed race

no im white
Seanus 15 | 19,706
30 Dec 2011 #50
I don't mean to be overly suggestive here, drew, but have you tried more intimate texts? It's private, I know, so the response is purely at your own discretion as privacy should be respected. However, the logic is that guys (and girls too) tend to respond to more erotic messages. We are all adults here so I feel that you might just grab his attention with a somewhat spicier text (well, 14-year olds can type here but....). Just a thought!
mariobros
30 Dec 2011 #51
women=heartbreak
stay away from them!
Seanus 15 | 19,706
30 Dec 2011 #52
Straight from Generalisations R Us, Mario?
bullfrog 6 | 603
30 Dec 2011 #53
women=heartbreak
stay away from them!

Good for you Mario your dad did not stay away from your mum!
PennBoy 76 | 2,437
30 Dec 2011 #54
I'm only taking the p1ss buddy, its OK if you liked it.

Not my kind of film either I saw some because the girl I was seeing said she'd like to have a life like they do in the movie, curious to see what she meant. To have a life they they had in that movie the girl must be living in Lala Land.

no im white

keep it white keep it tight ;)
Drew baby, everytime you show a little too much attention to a guy (or girl) they think you're chasing after them and you're not going anywhere no matter what they do. Ignore him let him come to you. It's gonna make him start thinking omg! is something wrong? did she find someone else?, am i ugly?..he'll be back.
Seanus 15 | 19,706
30 Dec 2011 #55
The key is balance :) If a sexy text doesn't work then I'd just ignore him.
OP drew123 1 | 15
30 Dec 2011 #56
i really dont think it's that simple anymore.. i have had difficult boyfriends before. but this is different
Seanus 15 | 19,706
30 Dec 2011 #57
How so? It's only as complicated as you make it.
OP drew123 1 | 15
30 Dec 2011 #58
sorry.. im lost this isn't the place to talk. maybe im just a over complicated person.. like a lot of people have said on here.. im just being a typical female.. or he has a wife/girlfriend back home. i was just the stand in for when times were bad
Seanus 15 | 19,706
30 Dec 2011 #59
Don't beat yourself up for the bad ways of others. Anyway, it's not for sure that he is cheating. Have some wine and forget about him.
OP drew123 1 | 15
30 Dec 2011 #60
always easy to say.. but to do is another matter. thank you for your advice and kind words.


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