Problem with my Polish boyfriend

Hi everyone!

i need your help please.

...im having problems with my boy friend. He left to go back to Poland in November and should be back in February.

We spent 8 lovely months getting to know each other, but since he's been home it's like we are living two separate lives. He told me that we would talk every night but that's just not happened.

He's taken to ignoring my calls/texts and even saying he has left his phone at home or at his sisters... iv asked out right if he is with someone else but he say's no.

The thing that's really upsetting me is that when I ask what he's been up to or plans for the evening he just say's he with his friends, he wont tell me their names when I ask.. I just find that weird.

I called him the other night and he did not answer, but I got a text saying that he was at his friends and would I mind if we talk tomorrow as he was in bed watching titanic and playing on the computer at his friends house...

I know for a fact that he would not be happy if I did that to him... it's like one rule for him and another for me.

i just feel like im hitting my head against a brick wall!

So treat him the way he treats you. He doesn't exactly sound like much of a catch, at best.

There's quite a bit of that around, the suit-me suit-me approach. Casual flings seem to be on the increase.

stop the calls, stop the texts, stop all contact from your side and don't even think about sending a new years text or making a new year call.

You cant convince somebody to do something they dont want to, try the above for a couple of weeks as see if anything comes back, if it does great, if not hes probably not interested.

watching Titanic around his friends house!! who does that?

watching Titanic around his friends house!! who does that?

you just made me smile for the first time in a couple of days thanks!!! (that's what i was thinking!!)

looks like he has someone back home

watching Titanic at a friend's house are not the actions of a heterosexual male

Titanic is for girls, period!

im a girl... and i don't like it.

Did you get that sinking feeling?

The advice you have been given by Harry,Seanus and WB is the way to go, as an add on - He has just slotted back into his past, old friends male and female, family, Parties and being the man about town. Polish men are mummy's boys they like to get someone else to do the dirty work, Nov - Feb - seems like a brush off to me, out of sight out of mind.

Good luck with whatever decision you make.

ok, thanks..

and yes i did get the sinking feeling.

you didn't mention that special call at christmas. if you didn't get the call....

He is probably in the lap of his polish kochanka.

Yup, southern is right. They need to get their end away (as the saying goes) and cheating will do just nicely for them :( :( Sad but true!

yes i did get the call at christmas, thanks for your reply's but i really dont need to hear that he is with someone else.

i may have not been Special to him, but he is to me.

Appreciate your comments but I think I will just leave it at that as it is very upsetting for me.

Thanks again.

actually im going to disagree.. i dont think he is cheating on me. he is not like that.
we have made plans for next year and they are going to happen.

i think we are just a problem at the moment thats all.

You mean he doesn't have a penis?

Sorry to break this to you but men cheat and Polish men do even more so than the average man.

People can surprise you in many ways, drew. Many people could never imagine me going to a woman of the night but.....(it's in my past).

We tell ourselves the best of lies (Nightmare, The Dreamtime, Motorhead)

Another wonderful generalisation from the Master Troll.

Agreed.


Source?

magdalena - are what do you think.. are the guys on here right?

If youre an annoying over possessive women, constantly texting and calling etc.. he might just be trying to get some freedom back.


Thats not a good thing to say.

Plus theres always two sides to a story.

i understand that and yes i probably have.

Drew123, We may have got it all wrong, if you want to know if there is a chance with the relationship, just book a return ticket to Poland, here are the links to two cheap airlines from the UK:

wizzair.com
ryanair.com/en

You would most likely do it for about 50-60 UK pounds return, tell him you will be arriving on the dates and ask how, he wants to do it, if he starts to make excuses and hole you up in a hotel, away from his family and friends, you know the real deal.

You can tell us which town/city he lives in and we can advise on the nearest airport.

Good luck

i was just trying to be possative thats all.

He may return to you if you offer better services than his Polka.

Zbigniew Izdebski, whose 2011 survey showed that one in five Polish men had cheated on their wife in the past 12 months.

your not very nice.

can't you take anything seriously. drew123 is upset.

nah thats such a bad idea at the moment, just play it cool (no contact) and see what comes back, give him back some of his own medicine. If that doesn't work maybe try Wedle's plan.


If you got nothing constructive to add Southern go and do us all a favor and slice some more doner kebab meat for a few hours.

Yea might as well be watching the Notebook.


Well you shouldn't jump to conclusions or stalk him that will make him like you less. It all depends on whether or not he'll come back to the UK. Does he look at you like he sincerely likes you and is into you? Or just faking it?

we already talked about that and both came to the decision that i shouldn't visit till next september.. but the reason he went home was because his flat is run down (in the old quarter of przemysl) and he is working on it, it's just him and his mum at home..

quote=PennBoy]Well you shouldn't jump to conclusions or stalk him [/quote]

guess not.. but being intrested in what someones doing wrong?


he isn't faking it. he's one of my best friend's.. that's why it's confusing