Sorry things have turned out this way for you Worriedanita but good you see this now rather than waste any more time on this selfish, sad excuse for a man.
There is no better way of dealing with streses, then geting dead drunk.
Everyone has stress and deals with it, usually without becoming an alcoholic in the process, somewhere along the line this guy had his reasons why he turned to Alcohol, you can never truly know what is in someones head, or what they are desperately trying to blot out, unless they tell you truthfully.
worriedanita: he says alcoholics can never stop drinking and that I have the problem not him.
Absolute bullsh*t.... of course he can stop, with help and support but like others have said, he has to want to. There's always Esperal implant too if he seriously wanted to quit.
he informs me that he is now the boyfriend of'the girl' who was chasing after him,
I wouldn't take this personally.....she is merely a roof over his head and drinking partner and I would take pleasure in telling her that she is welcome to your used goods :)
Gumishu -the best advice is to keep you move/transfer secret Anita - if you let him in from time to time but not allow him to stay for the night you may avoid outbursts of violence - you need to use your judgement wisely
I agree, you need to be careful because sooner or later (hopefully later then you will be gone) he will realise what he has thrown away and things could get nasty.
Good luck x