Hi Alan. Yes this forum is indeed very weird, welcome to our world :)) You won't find many Polish girls here, or indeed many Poles at all. Most posters are men and a mixture of Polish diaspora of various kinds, very few of whom live in Poland or assorted ex-pats living in Poland, some married to Polish women. This is seasoned with a few Russian trolls and assorted random nutcases of various nationalities. Apart from the Jew-hating, Muslim hating etc, there's quite a bit of woman-hating too. There are regular posters here who think women are too stupid to be allowed to vote and are all sluts and gold diggers, so don't waste your time responding to them. There is one very nice, sensible Polish girl called Kaprys who posts here from time to time so she might be along at some point and could possibly advise. In the meantime I'll have a go.
Ok, so Alan, I'm Irish, married to a Polish man whom I met in Ireland and we're now living in Poland. Here's my opinion for what it's worth.
I know this is over the top, but i have a tiny glass wish jar,
Go for it. You say she wants a gesture and that will do the job nicely.
Basically with Polish women, this is how they appear to me, as an Irish woman, and you know what we're
like :)) (some of us aren't too bad!). Bear in mind of course that it's a generalization.
First of all Polish women are not quite as demure and pure as you might imagine. Despite all that traditional Catholic stuff they're every bit as casual about sex as a lot of Irish women, in fact more so, and they will sleep with a guy without an expectation of a relationship.
Secondly, once they're in a relationship they like the romantic gestures and being made to feel special. They can be very affectionate and attentive to their men but they can also be more moody and demanding than Irish women, who are more easygoing. Irish women tend to be more forthright and will tell you straight out if they're annoyed with you or not happy about something. Polish women will go silent on you and sulk and you'll be wondering what on earth you did wrong. I also find that Polish men and women tend to be much more jealous and possessive than Irish. Maybe it's because we have the pub culture in Ireland where the sexes mingle and socialize very casually together. We have a more fluid and less couple oriented way of socializing.
Being one of a couple in Poland means that you do a lot of stuff together and your individual friendships and outside interests can take a bit of a back seat. Visiting each other's families at the weekend would be common, you know, going for Sunday lunch, that kind of thing. You know in Ireland, if you live near your parents, you might drop in for a cup of tea, but you wouldn't be spending half the day with them and you wouldn't necessarily bring your girlfriend. You might call in to your parents on the way to your girlfriend's place.
Next, romantic though they can be, Polish women are very practical when it comes to relationships. If they're in a serious relationship they expect it to lead to marriage. After two or three years, they expect the proposal and if they don't get it, they'll move on. And they don't go in for long engagements either. So if you get involved with this girl, you can be expect to be married to her within four years. Also, they don't like to delay having children nor do they like to leave long gaps between children. Polish people, even very well educated professional people, tend to marry and have kids a lot younger than the Irish. You'll see women just shy of thirty with a Masters Degree, already married with a kid and another on the way. Once a Polish woman is heading for thirty, she won't waste time on a guy who's not offering marriage.
Now, as I say, that's just what I've observed and others may disagree.
Ok, finally, there's the question of where you're going to live. At some point, she may want to return to Poland. Are you ready to move to Poland and raise your children there, as Poles, because they will be more Polish than Irish if they grow up in Poland. Equally, from her point of view, her kids will be more Irish than Polish, if you stay in Ireland - and many Polish women are happy in Ireland until
they have kids.
So now Alan, there's plenty for you to chew over! Good luck :))