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Advice Please! Meeting my Polish boyfriend's parents!! Gifts, customs...


convex 20 | 3,978
20 Aug 2010 #31
Be yourself, don't try to impress. If it's meant to be, it'll make your life much much easier. Don't be someone that you're not. Reasonable people respect honesty.
shewolf 5 | 1,077
20 Aug 2010 #32
Are you in the U.S.? You should buy them a small gift from wherever you live so that they can have something from your hometown.
Wroclaw Boy
21 Aug 2010 #33
Is it me or does anyone else find it strange that someone would come to a forum before meeting the future in-laws to ask questions from a bunch of randoms?

It is you as youre an individual so is he, were all different.

And before anyone jumps on me, I dated someone Hungarian for over a year and never once frequented a Hungarian forum...I dont feel the need to share my life with the world and his wife! If I wanted to know something about Hungarian language or culture I asked him.

Thanks for sharing that piece of information with the world and his wife.

If hes nervous and wants to make a good first impression, visiting a relevant forum for extra tips is a great idea, i wouldn't do it neither would you but he has. Are you still with the Hungarian? no. Perhaps you should have....

As for my reply just be yourself their probably just as nervous as you, perhaps a shot of vodka or a beer when you meet may not be a bad idea for all to loosen up the tension.

Try to avoid talking about yourself to much, talk Poland in a positive manner, mention Robert Kubica (formula 1 driver) Adam Malysz (ski jumper) say you love Polish food and traditions, compliment them on a lovely daughter.
trener zolwia 1 | 939
21 Aug 2010 #34
visiting a relevant forum for extra tips is a great idea

Of course it is.

Try to avoid talking about yourself to much, talk Poland in a positive manner, mention Robert Kubica (formula 1 driver) Adam Malsyz (ski jumper) say you love Polish food and traditions, compliment them on a lovely daughter.

Good advice here.
MareGaea 29 | 2,752
21 Aug 2010 #35
dont worry about it, if you're white you should be ok

Great remark :)

As for the topic: you better not slap them in the face, tell them their food is disgusting and if there is any place you can get some decent fish and chips, not the crap they just served you, better not tell them that your previous gf was black, also don't tell them you regard their daughter as an easy lay and that you keep her while the laying is good, but that you're looking for sth better, that you plan to keep her on the side after you found your true love because the sex is so darn good. Also, you might not wanna mention you've euthanised your granny as you thought she was getting old anyway and hey, you needed a house, so what else could you do? Perhaps it's better not to tell them that your brother is homosexual and that you yourself are actually in doubt, but that you're at least full blown bi-sexual. Oh and you don't want to mention that you absolutely hate Catholics to the point that your preferential place of peeing in public is against the walls of a Catholic Church, and don't tell them you used to be a Communist and in fact still think it's a very good system as you're Jewish and proud of it. If you follow these guidelines, you should be ok.

>^..^<

M-G (always glad to help)
Ironside 50 | 11,131
22 Aug 2010 #36
absolutely hate Catholics

Communist and in fact still think it's a very good system

well, maybe they hate Catholics and are communists themselves!

I-S (stereotyping is bad for kidneys)
MareGaea 29 | 2,752
22 Aug 2010 #37
Maybe they're into blacks and euthanasia as well? Maybe they know their daughter is the born slave girl. Who knows? Not me.

>^..^<

M-G (tralala)
holiday
15 Nov 2010 #38
Merged: Meeting the parents in my Polish boyfriend's house (Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner)!

I am invited to Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner to my Polish boyfriend’s parents house.
It will be the first time for me to visit them at the house and I want to know what are the ‘proper’ gifts to bring.

They are Polish immigrants and very traditional. Both parents are in their 50’s.
Thank you so much for your help!
Atosha 3 | 42
15 Nov 2010 #39
Ask your boyfriend, that way you can be sure they get something useful. I hope you have a nice time, how long are you going for?
holiday
15 Nov 2010 #40
Thank you -He says “you don’t have to bring anything” but I can’t go visit his parents with empty hands!
We live in a same city so it will be a day visit 
Is it proper to bring desert when his mom is cooking? Or should I just bring flowers or box of chocolates?
pgtx 30 | 3,156
15 Nov 2010 #41
bring a dessert for the Thxgiving dinner and a Xmas bouquet for the Xmas dinner...
enjoy :)
Marynka11 4 | 676
15 Nov 2010 #42
A bouquet for the mother is always a good idea. And some sort of liquor for the father if you go for the first time.

Also, don't forget to say "Bardzo smaczne" (very tasty) to whatever you eat. Polish mothers like that.
Atosha 3 | 42
15 Nov 2010 #43
I totally agree flowers for mum and booze for dad, a winning combination.
henryson - | 17
15 Nov 2010 #44
I don't agree with the bottle idea unless it's wine to be shared at dinner. Flowers or desert will be welcomed.
pgtx 30 | 3,156
15 Nov 2010 #45
i agree...
don't bring a 2 galon vodka bottle...
convex 20 | 3,978
15 Nov 2010 #46
If I had a son, I'd rather you stayed far away from him.

Flowers have always worked for me. I've started bringing a small bag filled with fruit, nuts, and a small box of chocolates (my variation of a gift bag I received after visiting someone!).
Zed - | 195
15 Nov 2010 #47
A girl bringing vodka? No. Wine...... not even. He should bring wine/vodka and you a home made dessert like others said. Try Murzynek..... very easy to make. :-) Good luck!
holiday
15 Nov 2010 #48
Thank you so much for all your answers. So sweet of you guys! Awwww
What is the correct Pronunciation for "smaczne" in a English version?
Ashleys mind 3 | 455
16 Nov 2010 #50
Flowers, booze and kindness. Something uniquely english if they are just visiting... Brandy marmalade or something?
Havok 10 | 912
16 Nov 2010 #51
I am invited to Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner to my Polish boyfriend's parents house.

yeah, i can relate, it was an awful experience. Now we live in TX and my parents live in VT, 2500 miles away.

good luck,
Wroclaw Boy
16 Nov 2010 #52
Something uniquely english if they are just visiting..

Its thanksgiving nothing English about that, the poster is a yank i would say.
Ashleys mind 3 | 455
16 Nov 2010 #53
Then I have no idea... not offay with thanksgiving references.

Eggnog?
Albanaich 2 | 31
10 Jan 2011 #54
Merged:Meeting Polish girlfriend family

Hi

Ok, posted to this board a year or so ago. Well it looks like its on.

I've been invited to Southern Poland by my Polish 'Girlfriend'. There's a big age gap between us, but we've talked it over and although we are both pretty scared the invite is on.

We knew each in the UK, sort of dated, now she wants to move onto a different level so I've been invited over for the weekend - I've no idea what is going to happen or where things are going to go from there.

I've got a feeling I'll be introduced to the parents.

We are both Catholics. . .so that's not an issue.

Any advice?
SeanBM 35 | 5,808
10 Jan 2011 #55
Learn some polite phrases in Polish.
Yuostitia 1 | 5
11 Jan 2011 #56
Yes, Learn a few words and do not be scared!!! If her parents see she is happy with you they will not mind!
irishlodz 1 | 135
12 Jan 2011 #58
don't touch beer. you will be force fed vodka so just stick to juice (they drink them separately)! polish women LOVE flowers, so them for the mother. a bottle of pure vodka for the father from the airport or some good scotch. try all the food, no matter how bad. You may discover the joys of pickled herring, hhhmmmmm tasty.
Albanaich 2 | 31
18 Jan 2011 #59
I'm from Scotland - the last drinking party I had with a bunch of Poles I was pretty much last man standing :-) I know the routine (and all about Biba) .

I definitely impressed my Polish hosts. "You Scots drink like Poles"

No self respecting Scot contaminates Whisky with anything other than water.. . . .

I've kicked about with Poles and Lithuanians in the UK (even as a child) so I'm not completely unfamiliar with the culture.

I'm just not familar with the family environment.

And I know flowers impress. . . . . the whole attitude changed when I sent her flowers.

We are both quite 'high' about meeting again
poland_
19 Jan 2011 #60
So what is the age difference?


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