let's see. I will ask my native speaker husband if he thinks the language is rude and abrupt. And then I will ask my native speaker children.
Actually, I don't need to. I already know the answer.
no matter what I write you will disagree with me and that is fine. I am not going to change my mind based on your words. 11 years of living in Poland, speaking Polish, dealing with Polish people on a daily basis has formed my opinion.
Actually, I do understand quite a bit about foreign languages. Sadly, my French has fallen aside since learning Polish, however, I am not unilingual.
Spoken Polish often sounds rude, harsh and abrupt. This is a fact. It is not just my opinion. But don't worry, you are not alone. There are other harsh sounding languages.
Which means that you and your children do not speak Polish like true native speakers... You must have transferred your non-native intonation to your children...
yes, I often get compliments how well mannered and polite my kids are.