Divorces are not that easy to get
Its not so bad now, it's only when one muppet wants to show it's the other persons fault. Then it's a long drawn out process wasting a whole load of tax zlt. Daft system if you ask me but I'm not Polish.
As an alternative, and you have to move fast with this one, scoot on home and start a divorce from your own country. Voila, you are in the driving seat and you will definately get a fairer deal. This assumes she has not started the divorce in Poland and your home country is Brussells II signatory. It works on the court first seised having juristiction. You will problably have to stay home though, as it could be considered as shopping for a better settlement. If she has started the divorce, you may still have time as the Polish process is incredibly slow, so even if she has started it is entirely possible the court would not be seised until a couple of months have passed.
Of course a Polish lawyer will tell you you can't get divorced outside of Poland but thats only because they are not aware of, or have not read Brussells II or cannot rationalize it with Polish law. It's there in Black and White though and it works.
Might be worth remembering this information for some forumites. Ya never know.