Moved back from Canada to Poland:). Here are the reasons why.

I miss Canada too.

I think the "critical gene" is a Polish wide phenom. You are still adjusting, don't worry. I have lived here for 9 years and some things still infuriate me. Case and point.

On Friday we were at a restaurant. There was a family in my direct view- I couldn't stop watching them. Two kids- a boy about 9 and a girl about 8. The boy was not feeling well, and of course like all Polish boys he was a big sucky baby- unbelievable. The mother was feeding him and hugging him desperately. It was like watching a train wreck- I couldn't stop. He would cry and then lay his head on the table in the restaurant.

First of all if your kid is sick- go home and put him to bed- don't go to a restaurant. And furthermore stop imasculating the kid and let him feed himself- this is a restaurant!!

Not to mention that I don't want to get sick- my kids either.

Boys are sucky babies in this country. Their parents put tights on them and spoon feed them till they are 12. This is not a generalization- this is true. I have two hockey playing strong girls that could kick the panties off any of these sucky boys.

The feeling is not mutual.

talking about your hubby ?

actually no, I fixed that.

pip: I miss Canada
The feeling is not mutual.

vous êtes un idiot stupide. Je suis né au Canada. Je ne suis pas polonais.

Do you mean dresiarz?

Since you mentioned it. I agree. Boys in Poland get away with things, so do girls- children here are spoiled for sure and way too attached to their parents.

Its a cultural issue IMO. Strong family values etc.. Its a good thing, i mean better that than the middle ground or opposite - right.

of course it is, although I understand Pip's point of view since too since I am familiar with how Canadians raise their children and it is cultural thing as well.


It depends on the case. I guess it is good to be close and attached when they are small and dependent, not when they are 9 years old and are in public place having a fit and parents don't react.

However, I don't children, so I am not willing to get involved in a discussion about raising them. Middle ground is the best IMO, so it cutting the cord at one point.

I recently was a witness to parents saying Goodbye to their child going to uni and this child will have a hell of a time since she is still attached way too much to her parents, therefore instead of having a great time in her life she is too stressed out with all the novelties. I was raised in a similar way and I don't see anything good about it.

We are making observations here, don't we?

Maybe this is the reason polish girls are so mazlivy they crave for toughing.

This is very much a typical NA female trait: "my kids are tougher than your kids"...maybe focus on how constructive your children can be be as opposed to destructive.

no, I don't mean family values or culture. We have a very close family- we enjoy spending time together. my kids don't turn into t.v. or video game zombies- we do stuff.

This is my observation after being married to a Polish guy for 13 years, having 2 girls and living in Poland for 9.

Mothers baby their boys. They think they are doing them a favour but they are creating sucky, whiney, bratty boys that cry at the drop of a hat. In Canada you would NEVER see little boys running around in tights. boys wear long johns. tights are for girls. You do not see 9 year old boys being spoon fed by their mothers. never.

as soon as my kids could sit up by themselves they were feeding themselves. This was a huge battle between my mother in law and me. She would spoon feed my kids. The Polish mentality is that they want the kids to eat and be healthy- but they are taking away the desire for independence by not allowing a child to feed themselves.

I do understand that many parents now, generation x'ers like me, remember communism and they want to give their kids the best, but ultimately what they are creating are spoiled, whiney, bratty, unlikeable kids who have no respect for anybody.

The best thing you can do for your kids, besides love them, is to help them to become independent critical thinkers. My eldest was being harassed by a bratty spoiled boy in her class- he would hit her, kick her, throw her stuff around- she fought back with words and made him cry. Now she doesn't get picked on by him and she sticks up for others when they are being bullied.

There is a sense of pride in oneself in knowing that you have a strong character and you are able to stand up for yourself.


that is not what I mean. My kids are in no way destructive but they can be certain that if they are picked on they will be able to stand up for themselves instead of crying in a corner.

my kids are not violent nor aggressive. That is not what I mean. We are teaching our kids to want to succeed and strive for more. Be it in sports, education or whatever. I have nice kids and that is something that I am most proud of. Every teachers meeting the teachers compliment us how nice our kids are and how they treat others.

That is all I can hope for. to be conscious of the world around them.

sorry----back to topic.

agree with that 100%. Parents will not always be around for their kids to defend them and kids need to have a healthy self esteem but the time they go to school.

I teach kids and the other day I saw one of my fav students missing classes. She would cry when she came in and just a week before she loved being in the class. I noticed it and talked to her mother. She recognized that her daughter is not taught enough and allowed her to handle the situation herself. One of the boys was bullying her in my class and one day during the lesson she lightly pushed him away. The bullying stopped, she is happy coming to class. I informed the mother about what happened. The girl handled the situation herself without her mother's and mine interference. We both monitored her, but left her some room to resolve the conflict. I had a short but to the point convo with the boy too. He got the message, yet we both tried not to be overprotective. After a year she is much happier and more confident girl, who likes to help others.

Kudos to the mother, who is a teacher too. So there are all kinds of parents in Poland IMO.

looks like it has been quiet here for a bit and I hate when people take their crap and argue on my thread.

Since I have nothing to say, or perhaps too much to say, I will say nothing because I cannot be bothered and I would rather go shopping anyways, since I have nothing to eat.

In the meantime I will be posting random stuff on my thread since I can go off topic and fek all I can.

So, to many members of PF:

If you didn't hear it with your own ears or see it with your own eyes, don't invent it with your small mind and share it with your big mouth.

he, he.....

"It's quiet out there."
"Yeah, too quiet."

Ah no worries we can all start drawing map of kosovo... from memory, involuntarily tapping our feet to a Celin Dion tune in complete silence as we wear giant woolen slippers that makes us look like we stuck our feet in a sheep's ass... then we can jump up and burst in to tears, hold our hands together and sing PF's remake of Ray Charles classic - Serbia on my mind.

Poland definitely exercises an influence.

you are on your own;). The woolen slippers was a turn off for me.


when in Rome......

anywho.

I am attending an Italian evening with my mature students tonight, so I had to fill the fridge with some yummies from Italia made in Poland.

Lots of garlic from China will do the trick and nicely mask the Polish mayo taste in the bread dip. I found it on the website and I am not sure it is an Italian recipe, but I will be selling it as such. My students will follow me anywhere I go since they hang on my every world - total power lol

You're starting to scare me ;)

eh, tam

today is Barborka or Barburka aka Barbara' name day in Silesian:

Tak jest!

One of the most attractive German names with Brunhilde.

Is this the one?

In this case the name surpasses the face.

Hildegret is also a melodic name.

Let's find one....this is Kornelia Ender. Cute face. Attractive body. I would be in love now if he wouldn't wear this confusing swimwear.

Latest highlights:

1. Starbucks opened in Szczecin 5 min from my work!!!!!!
2. There is still no snow
3. X-mas Market in Berlin is 2 hours away

"Lowlights"
1. the day is really short at this time of the year and the sunset is at around 3:30 pm
2. Have not done my x-mas shopping
3. Have not done my x-mas baking

It really is the little things. I had a chai tea latte yesterday. heaven. In Canada living is easy and you forget all the conveniences you have until you move to a country like Poland. I still have to drive to the closest Starbucks in Warsaw...which is good and bad because I don't really want American business taking over my neighbourhood but at the same time- I love me a good latte!!

Here we go again,patronizing biatch.I am assuming everyone in Canada has Starbucks within 200 yards from home.Am I right?Doubt it.I am in the US and I would have to drive to nearest Starbucks 7 miles but I don't because I don't buy overpriced ****.Royal Farms has a great coffee for $1.39 for a 20 oz cup.What is the fascination with Starbucks anyway?You people don't have internet at home or what?Even Dunkin Donuts coffe is better than Starbucks,you know America runs on dunkin.

well actually Tim Hortons coffee is amazing but there are probably only a few of us on here who know what it is but I don't think Tim Hortons will set up in Poland.

patronizing. got a job yet, no, didn't think so.


have you been to Vancouver?, no, didn't think so.

my point is- in Canada, because the original poster lived in Canada and I directed it to her. In Poland, where I live and you don't, it is not as easy as living in Canada. It is the little things of which you don't know because you don't live here.

maybe you should spend your time looking for a job.

i think there are three, but quite close to each other.

i'm in berlin at the moment. if you are coming today, bring a brolly

not today, but within a few days:)

alas, i fear we shall pass like ships in the night. i leave thursday morning.

it is cold and wet here though. however, berlin is a good place to be whatever the weather. i'm sure you'll enjoy it.