emilyrm
14 Feb 2016 / #1
hi everyone, thank you for helping me out.
alright, so.. i'm an american and my husband is polish. born and raised in poland and now living in the usa, and so are all his friends and family. they're nice people but recently i've gotten into a bit of a scuffle i guess you could say with his friend's wife, ania.
so ania offered to help me get some old, used baby clothes and strollers and such from her husband's sister. we go to the sister's house and all the stuff is in her garage in trash bags just gathering dust. my baby is 9 months old and this woman had baby clothes that were too small for my baby but she said to take them anyways regardless of them being practically useless to me. i took them and i was on my merry way. later on i sort everything out and ask my husband and ania if they know anyone with a baby girl on the way. both answers were no. so i decide to sell the things i can't use for my baby and make a little cash. after all, babies are expensive and bills are piling up. a few days later my husband comes to me saying ania is upset and thinking i'm rude for trying to sell these clothes. i'm honestly shocked...why would she care? she's not the one who GAVE them to me nor were they of use to her at all! and ania's husband's sister doesn't know i'm selling it, therefore ania is purely upset on her own. my husband is telling me that this isn't custom in poland and that i need to give it all back, but i'm thinking people are offering me $300 and we need that money. bad. so my question for you all is, am i really being rude in their eyes? should i give the stuff back and appease ania or sell it? everyone i've asked thinks i'm in the right, but they're all american...
thank you again, and sorry for the length!
alright, so.. i'm an american and my husband is polish. born and raised in poland and now living in the usa, and so are all his friends and family. they're nice people but recently i've gotten into a bit of a scuffle i guess you could say with his friend's wife, ania.
so ania offered to help me get some old, used baby clothes and strollers and such from her husband's sister. we go to the sister's house and all the stuff is in her garage in trash bags just gathering dust. my baby is 9 months old and this woman had baby clothes that were too small for my baby but she said to take them anyways regardless of them being practically useless to me. i took them and i was on my merry way. later on i sort everything out and ask my husband and ania if they know anyone with a baby girl on the way. both answers were no. so i decide to sell the things i can't use for my baby and make a little cash. after all, babies are expensive and bills are piling up. a few days later my husband comes to me saying ania is upset and thinking i'm rude for trying to sell these clothes. i'm honestly shocked...why would she care? she's not the one who GAVE them to me nor were they of use to her at all! and ania's husband's sister doesn't know i'm selling it, therefore ania is purely upset on her own. my husband is telling me that this isn't custom in poland and that i need to give it all back, but i'm thinking people are offering me $300 and we need that money. bad. so my question for you all is, am i really being rude in their eyes? should i give the stuff back and appease ania or sell it? everyone i've asked thinks i'm in the right, but they're all american...
thank you again, and sorry for the length!