Doesn't every girl want to meet prince charming, get married and all that?
Is it possible that the relationship went to sht and some of these women take the stance you've described to save face? Like "that's what I wanted anyway"?
And all these catholic Polish grandmas are a part of this insidious plot?
If that's what the woman wants from the beginning, wouldn't it be easier to just go to a sperm bank?
Yes to the saving face. Face is very important. (Another branch of this is the 'never say sorry/thank you' doctrine which is practised by many - absolutely extraordinary - but that is another post ...).
The Polish grandmas: they are very very quick to turn. They will have been highly suspicious at the outset, of the taking of a foreign man. They will feel much more comfortable now that he is out of the way.
But ... I am not saying that the woman wanted this from the beginning. If so, why go for the English guy? No, I am not saying that this was some 'plot', planned and executed. Not at all. The romance and, to some degree, glamour of dating an English guy (is 'glamour' too strong a word?!) (the novelty value, then) ... all of that I would imagine definitely played a part. And maybe she enjoyed someone being so nice to her, and so easy to manipulate, for a while. But there came a point where this role-play just didn't work for her, and she couldn't be doing with it. And it is at this moment that he became nothing, and she just carried on regardless.
Do I feel sorry for her? No, and I doubt she feels sorry for herself. There is nothing to feel sorry for. She is ok. She is extraordinarily tough by British terms, but actually she is just a normal Polish gal getting on with it.
Now we have two extreme possibilities
I'm afraid I think the possibility I have painted is most likely the norm, even if seemingly extreme ...
Dziękuję bardzo!!!!!!!!!!!
You're welcome, although I am very sorry for you that it is like that.
Like I said; you are an honest woman. What a wonderful trait.
Thank you, too. I try. Well, in fact, I don't try: it all just comes out of my mouth. Can you even begin to imagine the havoc I cause among Polish society ... ; )
Oh and just have to comment on this:
So many women 'feel' that the above advice is correct even though it's an obvious double-standard. They do not see inconsistency because their center begins with gender bias. They are taught that in a variety of ways; gender courses, women's mags, women's organizations, and other entities like the domestic violence industry.
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So many women 'feel' that the above advice is correct even though it's an obvious double-standard. They do not see inconsistency because their center begins with gender bias. They are taught that in a variety of ways; gender courses, women's mags, women's organizations, and other entities like the domestic violence industry.
This is such a subject ... vast ... and yes, a minefield ... and so difficult for a 'man' to comment, given the nature of the subject ... (an aside: don't you think there should be a mechanism whereby people could write papers, have their voice, etc, without declaring their sex?) ... (that would be true equality ; ) ... but:
The point about Polish women is that they have, in general, had a very different programming re: what a woman is. The US/Western machine turns us out as victims before we've even started, whereas the Polish system (propulgated by grandmas over many a cup of crazily strong coffee) produces women equally convinced of their rightness, but through bullishness and being the dominant one. Taking no prisoners. Western women take prisoners and then feel bad about it and aren't quite sure what to do - make the prisoner a cup of tea - give him a blowjob - and then call the Police ...
That is why I have always refused to label myself a woman. I realised from my teenage years that the term had very mixed connotations. I am simply myself. : )