Polish girlfriend going back to Poland if I dont buy engagment ring

2 years of togethership. Already considered a long time marriage for them. Ring or paperwork? Who cares them.

Seriously though. All these unhappy relations everywhere whether marriage or togethership. Has only one reason. Stupidity based on false criteria.

Not amongst English people it doesnt, but Im sure in some countries these pressures are still there...quite sad really.

I didn't mean Western Europe. But your right, it's sad.

People have to stand up for their opinions and feelings. But it's not so easy if you have your family against you.

that's just rubbish..


agreed... and that's why my opinion is that she needs to go.. i wouldn't put up with an ultimatum. that is NOT love.

Love mentioned here? Say it sex and the money.

Middle ground solution:

Buy her a ring
Tell her it's an eternity ring
Stress that's how long she'll have to wait for you to show any commitment.

lol.. that'll go over well.


good point

Remember, there are three rings!!!!
1) The engagement ring.
2) The wedding ring.
3) The suffer-ring

LOl - don't forget the bicker-ring

of course this ultimatum isn't about the physical ring itself but the promise of marriage; we might be cynical but there aren't THAT many gold-diggers in Poland who would wait 2 years to demand an Elizabeth Duke special (someone mentioned Argos.)

But this odd social pressure to get married is something that, as a man trying to have a relationship with your average Polka, you will have to either fight stolidly against or give in to at some point. I'll die fighting, but you might have a less negative attitude towards marriage than I do. If she's worth it, give her what she wants to feel secure. If she's not, let her go and find someone else so that she can find her own doormat Polish husband to settle down and abuse for the rest of her life.

Oh, and the badge-ring too, ;) ;)

This is a favorite of women :)

True - but then we all make up and get a rodger-ring so it's OK;)

We get or they get? Sth you are not telling me, my Scouse friend? ;) ;)

I seem to get the badge-ring and the peste-ring at the same time :)

The guy thinks this sort of attitude is especially 'Polish'

The girl wants some commitment - and if you can't make you're history. That goes just about anywhere in the Western World

You think so.They keep coming back.

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i bought my polish girlfriend engagment ring but she says it was to cheap

bought engagment ring for my polish girlfriend she says it too cheap

yikes, that is not a good sign, best of luck

It depends.If you get her a ring for 20 zł and you get 3000 zł per month it's really too cheap.And it's not about the money-it's about how much you value her love.If it was expensive for you then you should run away as fast as you can.

Polish girls have much more respect for themself than any others - the diserve only the best jewlery. No matter how expensive it was if you didn't starverd for months to get it - it will be to cheap in her opinion :D

If you are seriously meaning this and posting on this forum for advice ... you're far from prepared to getting married my friend - don't spoil your future ... go out with at least 20 girls before making your next proposal :)

Never mention it again. Don't buy a more expensive one and don't dump her. Just carry on enjoying the good things about Polish girls and know that you now have the perfect answer to the complaint "You never want to get married": "No, you didn't. I asked you but you said no."

Sounds like a fair exchange to me.

maybe ring was really cheap. Anyway, never mind as long as you penis works properly. But, if you aren`t sure in your sexual potentials, then this is just the beginning of troubles

Materialistic madam !

End the romance.

I like the idea of getting nice, big cubic zirconia or another stone engagement ring and then, years later, when the couple is more comfortable financially, replacing the stone with a real diamond.

if it starts like that, I suggest to replace your girlfriend man lol

That is a bad bad start...

I agree. A ring is just a symbol of marriage. There are more important and valuable things in life than how much you paid for a stupid ring. She is materialistic, you will have financial problems with her in the future. If she loved you, she would accept whatever you give her as a symbol of love and understand that it is the love that counts not a piece of jewelry.

If the ring was expensive for you, and if the ring is all she really cares about, then I'm sure you'll be better off without her.


..and ofcourse that's also true.

:)

my advice:
If ring is really expensive, sent it to me ...
if is cheap, well, can you afford broadband to pester us about your problems (real or not) nobody care about....now go back to school for a spelling lessons !