Most importantly, be very confident in yourself: be sure of your goal, understand that you will reach it sooner or later, be happy about that, think about the good things that it will bring, about how it will change things for you and why you want it, and again that you're happy about it - then you're more than half the way there.
It took me years to figure that out. To some fortunate people it comes naturally.
My goal is just to have a beautiful girlfriend and be happy.
Sometimes i think that i should go for some average girl, but the amount of mediocre and ugly looking guys with a beautiful girlfriend is simply too high to think that they
all have something that compensates their poor looks. To some extent it must have something to do with hot girls having a very bad taste, for example, accepting that the guy is ugly just because he is big and muscled or because he's intelligent.
- People has different tastes, one is attractive for you may not be attractive for others
- Appearance is something more important at first sight, might not be important for many after you get to know each other,
- Most people are not going clubs to get laid but to have good time, So it is very normal a girl dance/talk with someone who she thinks she may have fun (even he is not attractive), this is not a contest
I'm sure most single persons not just go to clubs to have a good time. Maybe some single girls are not interested in meeting guys, but at least 90% of single guys go to clubs to meet women, not just to have fun.
So any girl should know that unknown guys approaching her in a club won't do that just for the sake of having a funny conversation, in 99% of the cases the guy is sexually interested in her. So a girl very well knows that she's showing interest in him if she doesn't walk away within a few minutes. So i'm pretty sure that i've seen a case of mutual attraction between a very hot girl and a very mediocre guy.
- Usually it is very easy to spot guys whose only aim is to get laid with anyone and they will be ignored by most girls
If they approach every girl then yes. Fortunately i am not such type of guy.
Instead of clubs first you should try to have some healthy friendships, Also it is not difficult to understand your observations are inaccurate and biased, I am also going clubs sometimes but I rarely see couples incompatible to each other.
Then you don't look good, because there's plenty of poor looking guys with a hot girl (vice versa it's more rare).
Some hot looking-shallow people, are only attracted to hot looking- shallow people, just like themselves.
If a girl looks good then she is shallow if she prefers guys who look a model?
Can we see your picture? Then we can give you our honest opinions. :)
No sorry, i don't want to be recognized as "that sad guy who can't get girls". ;)