Advice Please! Meeting my Polish boyfriend's parents!! Gifts, customs...

Be yourself, don't try to impress. If it's meant to be, it'll make your life much much easier. Don't be someone that you're not. Reasonable people respect honesty.

Are you in the U.S.? You should buy them a small gift from wherever you live so that they can have something from your hometown.

It is you as youre an individual so is he, were all different.


Thanks for sharing that piece of information with the world and his wife.

If hes nervous and wants to make a good first impression, visiting a relevant forum for extra tips is a great idea, i wouldn't do it neither would you but he has. Are you still with the Hungarian? no. Perhaps you should have....

As for my reply just be yourself their probably just as nervous as you, perhaps a shot of vodka or a beer when you meet may not be a bad idea for all to loosen up the tension.

Try to avoid talking about yourself to much, talk Poland in a positive manner, mention Robert Kubica (formula 1 driver) Adam Malysz (ski jumper) say you love Polish food and traditions, compliment them on a lovely daughter.

Of course it is.


Good advice here.

Great remark :)

As for the topic: you better not slap them in the face, tell them their food is disgusting and if there is any place you can get some decent fish and chips, not the crap they just served you, better not tell them that your previous gf was black, also don't tell them you regard their daughter as an easy lay and that you keep her while the laying is good, but that you're looking for sth better, that you plan to keep her on the side after you found your true love because the sex is so darn good. Also, you might not wanna mention you've euthanised your granny as you thought she was getting old anyway and hey, you needed a house, so what else could you do? Perhaps it's better not to tell them that your brother is homosexual and that you yourself are actually in doubt, but that you're at least full blown bi-sexual. Oh and you don't want to mention that you absolutely hate Catholics to the point that your preferential place of peeing in public is against the walls of a Catholic Church, and don't tell them you used to be a Communist and in fact still think it's a very good system as you're Jewish and proud of it. If you follow these guidelines, you should be ok.

>^..^<

M-G (always glad to help)

well, maybe they hate Catholics and are communists themselves!

I-S (stereotyping is bad for kidneys)

Maybe they're into blacks and euthanasia as well? Maybe they know their daughter is the born slave girl. Who knows? Not me.

>^..^<

M-G (tralala)

Merged: Meeting the parents in my Polish boyfriend's house (Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner)!

I am invited to Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner to my Polish boyfriend’s parents house.
It will be the first time for me to visit them at the house and I want to know what are the ‘proper’ gifts to bring.

They are Polish immigrants and very traditional. Both parents are in their 50’s.
Thank you so much for your help!

Ask your boyfriend, that way you can be sure they get something useful. I hope you have a nice time, how long are you going for?

Thank you -He says “you don’t have to bring anything” but I can’t go visit his parents with empty hands!
We live in a same city so it will be a day visit 
Is it proper to bring desert when his mom is cooking? Or should I just bring flowers or box of chocolates?

bring a dessert for the Thxgiving dinner and a Xmas bouquet for the Xmas dinner...
enjoy :)

A bouquet for the mother is always a good idea. And some sort of liquor for the father if you go for the first time.

Also, don't forget to say "Bardzo smaczne" (very tasty) to whatever you eat. Polish mothers like that.

I totally agree flowers for mum and booze for dad, a winning combination.

I don't agree with the bottle idea unless it's wine to be shared at dinner. Flowers or desert will be welcomed.

i agree...
don't bring a 2 galon vodka bottle...

If I had a son, I'd rather you stayed far away from him.

Flowers have always worked for me. I've started bringing a small bag filled with fruit, nuts, and a small box of chocolates (my variation of a gift bag I received after visiting someone!).

A girl bringing vodka? No. Wine...... not even. He should bring wine/vodka and you a home made dessert like others said. Try Murzynek..... very easy to make. :-) Good luck!

Thank you so much for all your answers. So sweet of you guys! Awwww
What is the correct Pronunciation for "smaczne" in a English version?

Ask Ivona.

Flowers, booze and kindness. Something uniquely english if they are just visiting... Brandy marmalade or something?

yeah, i can relate, it was an awful experience. Now we live in TX and my parents live in VT, 2500 miles away.

good luck,

Its thanksgiving nothing English about that, the poster is a yank i would say.

Then I have no idea... not offay with thanksgiving references.

Eggnog?

Merged:Meeting Polish girlfriend family

Hi

Ok, posted to this board a year or so ago. Well it looks like its on.

I've been invited to Southern Poland by my Polish 'Girlfriend'. There's a big age gap between us, but we've talked it over and although we are both pretty scared the invite is on.

We knew each in the UK, sort of dated, now she wants to move onto a different level so I've been invited over for the weekend - I've no idea what is going to happen or where things are going to go from there.

I've got a feeling I'll be introduced to the parents.

We are both Catholics. . .so that's not an issue.

Any advice?

Learn some polite phrases in Polish.

Yes, Learn a few words and do not be scared!!! If her parents see she is happy with you they will not mind!

I hope you like to eat ;)

don't touch beer. you will be force fed vodka so just stick to juice (they drink them separately)! polish women LOVE flowers, so them for the mother. a bottle of pure vodka for the father from the airport or some good scotch. try all the food, no matter how bad. You may discover the joys of pickled herring, hhhmmmmm tasty.

I'm from Scotland - the last drinking party I had with a bunch of Poles I was pretty much last man standing :-) I know the routine (and all about Biba) .

I definitely impressed my Polish hosts. "You Scots drink like Poles"

No self respecting Scot contaminates Whisky with anything other than water.. . . .

I've kicked about with Poles and Lithuanians in the UK (even as a child) so I'm not completely unfamiliar with the culture.

I'm just not familar with the family environment.

And I know flowers impress. . . . . the whole attitude changed when I sent her flowers.

We are both quite 'high' about meeting again

So what is the age difference?