Polish society is very focused on children and family. I am very interested to know what are your views on what is traditional Polish parenting.
It is very typical for families to take their screaming children to restaurants and not control their behaviour in any way. I am not talking about some low end restaurant where customers tend to belong to the tracksuit gangs but in top restaurants. This would be completely unacceptable in many countries, why should paying customers have to listen to badly behaving kids?
It is very typical for parents to allow their children to scream and throw tantrums with no repercussion in public. This happens on planes, parks, this is certainly not just confined to behind closed doors.
It is very typical for very young children to stay up very late even on school nights. Children seem to rule the roast and everyone around them should come second and accept their raucous behaviour.
Why is it a problem with Polish parenting with you stolatte? I think it's good. Because children are allowed to develop on their own, at their own pace with no fear and limitations of helicopter parenthood, where parents scrutinize every inch and track every move of their children.
For some Asian countries, well behaved children can be quite common. Because children there are mostly very well behaved because of Asian parental shaming and parental abuse.
Schools, especially public schools brain-wash these children from young, teaching syllabus approved by the government.
Ok children in Poland like you said stolatte that they stay up all night and enjoy and enjoy. But are all of them really like that? And if so, so what?
In some Asian countries children stay up that late still doing homework or studying. It can be quite crazy sometimes especially if it's every night and no fun.
Then what happen when they grow up?
They become subservient and follow and do just about anything the government throws at them. And anything goes. The government is always right.
They become numb to their own rights and let alone defend it.
It's a tragedy.
Do not let this happen in Poland.
And if the children are noisy or they disturb you, simply tell the parents.
And if that didn't work out, complain to the establishment.
And if that still didn't work out, leave. That way, you exert some power and control over the establishment, a real gentlemens way to show disapproval.
I understand kids should have fun, but there is a time and place. If children aren't taught any manners then they become horrible adults. This could be well where the "Princess" syndrome develops from. They are never told they can't have something.
Try telling a Polish parent that. You will be met with a nie moge or do you want to fight response.
I think it very much has to be taken on a case by case basis. I know my family in law don't take their infant out to restaurants because they want to enjoy time with adults.
As a former waiter in a fine dining establishment I can say this is certainly not a Polish thing, but a consequence of modern life where Parents think that their children don't need to be dicsiplined. I remember carrying hot soups about and having to dodge little brats playing tag in a fine dining room because heaven help me if I was to drop soup on them. I think there needs to be constraints with kids in public areas.
In saying that, I don't think it's a big problem in Poland as opposed to the UK.
