Why don't you always pronounce the last ę as "eom"

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...Why the last "ę" isn't everytime pronounced like the classical english "eom", but it's the obvious "e" letter?.

For example i encountered every instance of "proszę" or "dziękuję" without the last "e" being pronounced this way, except "się" - which occasionally is pronounced the way i expect it, and other times with the polish "ę". But i dont know anymore when i'm truly wrong or when i'm just following a pattern. It's the way i expect it, but more difficult since you don't give me an "alternative"....

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In my experience, native Poles talking to one another invariably pronounce that particular sound as almost an 'uh-', or schwa-sound!
Of course, in emphasizing the pronunciation, say a teacher or the like, then the nasal is completely audible. This though would probably stand out some in normal conversation and sound unnecessarily forced:-)

Short answer: Why should it be pronounced like the "classical english 'eom'" (whatever that is) Polish is a separate language and evolves in its own way.

At present most people most of the time pronounced word final -ę exactly like -e

other variants:

like final -e but followed by a short nasal u sound (like final -eł but with the ł nasalizaed: this is mostly restricted to się (when sort of stressed) and maybe dziękuję, doing this in everyday normal speech very much makes you sound like a retired classics professor

e with a bit of nasalization at the end (a bit like French -in but not as strong) what many people do occasionally

like -em (considered sub-standard)

most style guides (for Poles) say using one pronunciation all the time is not good, never nasalizing final -ę sounds too informal and nasalizing all of them sounds far too formal. the recommendation is to pronounce some like -ę and others like -ę (which words are pronounced which way is left to the discretion of the speaker).

IME (when asking people) some cases of word final -ę are more likely to be pronounced like -ę than others, maybe especially when otherwise the third person form would sound the same (piszę vs pisze for example)


I think maybe that's Silesian? I remember a show with Silesian characters who pronounced both final -ę and final -em (as a first person marker) something like uh, I don't know if there's an accepted way to write that...

Very possibly, Maf, you're probably right.

I should add, of course, that the "a"-sound with "kreska" in any position of the word is always pronounced as a nasal! Never yet heard any exception to this in

standard Polish, anyway. Again, perhaps in dialect:-)