Love / Age difference in relationship with a guy or girl from Poland? [28]

There is something called the 7-plus relationship rule. This is used to define the youngest that a romantic interest can be before it becomes socially unnacceptable by others and is really a guide..

The equation is so: Divide the upper age by 2 and add 7.
eg. Someone of 50 years divided by 2 = 25 years. Add 7 years onto that and you have the one person who is 50 and the other who is 32.

Tbh, it probably doesn't seem so bad from some people's perspective if a man is 50 and the woman is 32. However, if the woman was 50 and the man was 32, it may be classed as unacceptable by some.

Personally, I really don't find age differences a problem. So long as the people concerned are happy in their relationship, care for and respect each other then there should not be a problem :)

Love / Confused . . . did I Misunderstand Him? Found out he is from Poland. [13]

Hi Author Cindy and Rysavy

Many thanks for your reponses and taken on board :).

Rysavy - I have PM'd you but it is saying that your Inbox is full :)

Love / English girl. Do Polish men afraid to show their feelings or they are just not comfortable in UK? [84]

I think it must be very similar.

Very interested in 'natural' remedies for anything.

Certainly worth a go, Annie1972. Nothing to lose :)

Love / English girl. Do Polish men afraid to show their feelings or they are just not comfortable in UK? [84]


Fascinating :) Is this sour cabbage the same as the German sauerkraut, or is it made differently?

Love / Confused . . . did I Misunderstand Him? Found out he is from Poland. [13]


Well, there may be another chapter this next week - watch this space :)


Thank you, SingleFemale. School break over and it's back to normal tomorrow - so, I don't know and feeling very nervous. Speak soon :)



So . . . . I didn't share this earlier but I decided to write a brief note to him. He was in the gym on the Monday morning. I told him that I had left a note. It was quite business-like - (thanks for the brief conversation, nice to have met him, apologies for my strange behaviour, Tried to keep it light, left my email address and hoped I would see him soon.

On the Tuesday, he wasn't in - wanted to kick myself. Stupid thing to do, etc etc. On the Wednesday, he was there again. I had to do one of my exercises right next to him and lol, the heart rate indicator kept showing high. He seemed cool, no glances - I scarpered as quickly as possible. Thursday & Friday I had extra work hours so didn't go in - which was probably best.

This Monday I summoned up all the courage I could and went in. He was there again but left before me. I decided that, if he was in on Tuesday, I would have to mention the note, as he hadn't. I was working out at other end and not aware of who was coming in and out. But, my shock and surprise, when I returned to the recovery area, he was there (not sure if by design). He looked up at me (my heart racing) and I just said sorry if I had overstepped the mark & that I was trying to explain how I had felt. He shook his head, no you havent, dont worry about it. End of time, we said goodbye.

Yesterday, we were both in but apart from eye contact, I ended up leaving beforehand as I hadn't coincided the timing properly (eyes to heaven :)). Today, he wasn't there at all (although he had mentioned there was a lot of work involved with his job).

Tomorrow - fingers crossed. At least, he is still around. But, what to make of it all? I had thought of asking him for a coffee somewhere (so we could have a longer chat). However, that seems very forward to me though - nothing wrong with it as such, but he might freak out and as I'm still unsure what is really going on . . . . . I would hate to put him in a position where he might feel awkward.

But, I have to say, he melts my heart and I have withdrawal symptoms if I don't see him.

Should I take the plunge? I wrote the note? I apologised for it? Am I brave or completely bonkers - lol

Love / Confused . . . did I Misunderstand Him? Found out he is from Poland. [13]


I had considered this, hmmm. Perhaps he has found out.

I just don't want him thinking I'm a 'mad woman' after our last meeting.
Had hoped to apologise for my weirdness.

Anyway, thank you for your 'vote of confidence'. Will update if any further news. :)

Love / Confused . . . did I Misunderstand Him? Found out he is from Poland. [13]

Thank you all for your comments. You really did make me laugh when I was feeling 'blue'.)


Hi Katheryn 65 - yes, the comment was a little obtuse :) I suppose I meant "Is this the end of him now?"
Perhaps I ought to start writing novels then :)


Hi InWroclaw - I'm not sure of his age, but I would suspect quite late 30s-ish. I, however, can add another 25 onto that, eek!

(Although I'm told I look younger) - big admission and really embarrassed now :) And this is why I couldn't believe what was apparently happening.


No affluence here, I'm afraid - still working hard to pay the bills :)


Yes, I agree, it's quite possible - seems like avoidance from him. Not sure what I should have done at the time or how to progress things on, in one direction or another. I thought that talking would have given him the opportunity to maybe open up (if he was perhaps shy about approaching me more - called 'benefit of the doubt' - I'm shy too). As it was, it felt like I was a 'rabbit caught in the headlights' - sorry, that's a bit dramatic, but true.


I'll consult my diary :D Sounds like you've gotta heart.


Hi Jon357, Although I knew what a cougar was, I've never thought of myself in that way, ha. Especially when you Google 'WikiHow' on the matter "10 Steps to Knowing if a Woman is a Cougar".

This situation is new to me and I've felt quite out of my depth.


Ha, ha, no, not quite - what a lovely analogy :)

Thanks again all.