Posts by SeanSmartsNY

SeanSmartsNY

12 Feb 2013

Love / My Polish Relationship Marriage ..story to be told. [USA/PL] [34]

Well I was trying to set-up a life with this girl so she could have her family, and that is what I thought she wanted, her kids to be playing in the backyard in the summer in Poland visiting her mother and father. So she could have her freedom to do this. It was more the fact this girl was immature even at the age of 29 years old, and has a lot of growing up to do. She wants to be a mother, but doesn't. She blames me for asking her to settle down with her. From what I understand, once a Polish woman creates an emotional bond to their husband, they will never really fall in love with the next guy.

The immaturity, may have to do with coming from this small town in Europe, never really being exposed to this big city life, and its all new to her. She is really still growing up, based on never really experiencing this lifestyle for herself. I'm just going to let her have it, and if she comes back to me, then so be it. We can always remarry, down the road, but at this point I have squandered to much energy into this woman for this to continue without divorce. That legal binding agreement could really screw over both parties if lets say she gets hurt, she has no health insurance, I would have to front that bill. So I'm simply protecting myself at this point. She wants to have a life without me, but I'm not going to be bound to this woman legally. She wants to stay married for some bizarre reason, but stay separated not living with me, its just immature rational.

Once she gets a nursing job, they will only get 1-week off for the first year. Won't even be able to see her family. She doesn't even know what she is getting into. She probably thinks prince charming is going to sweep her off her feet. These girls are brought up on American television. That is how most of them learn the language. So they really don't have a real world understanding. She may even have an issue with her father demanding children of her. I really don't know at this point, her father is a hard working, good guy if you ask me.

When the sex-in-the-city syndrome wears off, she will realize.

SeanSmartsNY

12 Feb 2013

Love / Woman 23, man 47 years old. What do you think about ? [162]

Not sure what to say, a guy being a provider going into a relationship to start a family, or a older woman seeking out a younger male to satisfy her sexually. Not sure its the same thing. Nothing to do with looks.

Its just pleasure seeking, simple as that. So you have women older, being told, get rid of her husband and marriage because she should be out banging younger guys. Just another way to create a avenue for divorce, more selfish tendencies. Cost of the family life. They have everyone thinking they should be out being irresponsible. Your culture has been POPPED!

That is what, equality?

SeanSmartsNY

11 Feb 2013

Love / My Polish Relationship Marriage ..story to be told. [USA/PL] [34]

Well here is the situation as it stands, I dropped off the rest of her things at her friends place where she is currently living to try to seek closure with myself. Had some words with her current room-mate letting her stay there rent free. This girl, she told me, is to nice and she is almost like a sucker. So I had to try to do what is right for this other Polish girl, because I fear she is using this girl like she used me. I know for a fact, this girl telling her you can stay here with me as long as you want, was based on her painting the picture it was me that was abusive, and I want her back. So I had some explaining to do, and made sure I showed this was not infact the case. Had to tell her, sorry, she is using you like she used me. Make her pay rent, she has money saved. How come your letting her stay here rent free. The girl manipulates people, and straight up uses them to her advantage, and I am not going to be a part of this anymore.

She is still searching out a nanny-babysitter position, even tho she is a registered nurse in the state of New York. Its leaning towards me filing for divorce, I can't resolve this situation. She has a serious issue with me, and I can't be a part of it anymore. Calls me to tell me about a nanny position in NYC with some family where their daughter works on a NBC show playing a role in one of their shows. Three kids total living in a town house. She gets interview by another Polish girl, only been there 9 months, and guess she has had enough. Makes sure she tells me the questions during the interview 'Are you married?' and 'Your husband is okay with this, you working here?' This girl seriously has a problem, not sure where it stems from, but its obvious at this point there is seriously a problem at this point. She gets so flattered that these kids were clinging to her and loved her right off the start of the interview, the mother telling her, 'my god never seen them like this before with anyone else.' Not sure what the hell is the problem. Seriously. It wouldn't matter if I told her 'I'm not okay with you being a babysitter' .. This entire time I thought it was about becoming a Nurse, and now its back to babysitting, some spoiled brat in NYC. There is a real disconnect here, and I'm seriously just filing for divorce at this point, and I want to move on with my life. She keeps telling me 'Don't worry I'm not looking for other guys' but seriously I am the only one in this marriage at this point, and that is not how it was supposed to wind up.

Her father would not accept her mother doing this, no other normal guy would accept their wife doing this, and I'm certainly not going to accept this.

SeanSmartsNY

11 Feb 2013

Love / Woman 23, man 47 years old. What do you think about ? [162]

Well, I'm a 47 year old woman with a 21 year old man...life is good! LOL!

You sound like a irresponsible hipster, with little to nothing to show for yourself. Good luck with that. There is no way a 21 year old guy, or even 28 for that matter, is sticking around with a 47 year old woman, the guy wants kids and you can't satisfy that requirement unless you pump yourself full of hormones. This is a growing trend also, woman that make the decision to never have children, and act like they a teenager irresponsible for the rest of their lives. Seriously, when its evil at the core, there is really nothing of true of worth. Its a fallacy, false indoctrination, and seriously your just at this point just using the poor shlep, or is it maybe you are the one being used. More sex-in-the-city syndrome, cougar town, basketball wives. Good luck with that.

Atleast if a older man offers a younger woman a life he can offer her kids, and to start a family, what can you offer this guy? You women wish you were men, and I'm sorry its not the same the other way around.

SeanSmartsNY

10 Feb 2013

Love / Marriage with a polish woman - Heaven or Forever Hell ? [60]

If you can prove the marriage was fraudulent. With in a certain time frame you can have the marriage annulled.

An annulment (or “nullity of marriage” or “nullity of domestic partnership”) is when a court says your marriage or domestic partnership is NOT legally valid. After an annulment, it is like your marriage or domestic partnership never happened because it was never legal.

skrud

That is why the divorce has to be uncontested, both parties mutually agree, that they will not take each other into court. Contesting the divorce will give the courts the ability to interject. This is what this girl owes me at this point, after all the crap I went through over the years helping her get where she is today. She atleast realizes this.

SeanSmartsNY

10 Feb 2013

Love / Marriage with a polish woman - Heaven or Forever Hell ? [60]

skrud

I'm in this same situation, thought this girl loved me, but she reserves a lot of energy towards self-interests. Very crafty and shrewd, cold and calculated, manipulative, controlling and out right mentally unstable. I'm seriously going to attempt to file for divorce just to protect myself from this girl before she can afford to get a lawyer. Uncontested divorce. I just dropped off the rest of her belongings at her friends house. Which is insane, its like the three amigos + one supportive mother on the weekends. All of them Polish, they are pathetic in a lot of respects. They give up this beautiful country to come here to the United States and they think its great but in all reality it isn't. They sacrificed family, traveling rights some of them, and potentially will wind up alone for the rest of their lives. Just confused, and disturbed as they came into this country, they are like gypsy's and there is a lot of gypsy's in Poland apparently. A lot of these people are also from Jewish roots, and I hate to stereotype, but sometimes you meet one you have met them all. Just selfish and self-centered, and all about pocketing that penny at someone else's expense. So this one girl was married to a Turkish guy, American, he was abusive in terms of not being faithful but I'm sure she told him I only married you for papers. Just like I was told on various occasions. So she got papers and now is living comfortably outside NYC divorced, her mother is also separated divorced father is in Poland she got her green-card based on her daughter getting citizenship. The other Polish girl is trying to marry for papers, dating a guy that works in NYC, he told her straight to her face I'm not marrying you so you can get papers. She now seeks out a guy to marry paying him ($10k) money just to get a green-card. Now my wife, resides with these two girls, the 3-amigos. All to common huh? She had another friend, also married this one beta-male and she eventually divorced him. GET THE PICTURE. Stay away from these girls. Its not worth the trouble.

SeanSmartsNY

10 Feb 2013

Love / Marriage with a polish woman - Heaven or Forever Hell ? [60]

Well if you look at where governance stems from it is the family in its entirety, this fallacy avoiding responsibility going off to work while someone else takes care of your kids, is in my eyes the worst thing going for modern families. You have a scene from a morning show here in NY, the women are out in the early morning talking on this show, the video shows kids playing in the snow in central park. They are saying on TV, I wish I there, look how much fun these kids are having. Seriously, its a sickness, who is taking care of these women's kids? Cost of childcare in NYC is $25k a year, they buy out of their motherly responsibilities and pass the buck onto some other poor soul to raise and nurture their children. In the name of what? Most of these rich families have some 3rd worlder bringing up their kids, its comical to say the least. The disconnect is apparent and obvious with modern day women. Kids are nothing more than an accessory or possession.

Standards of the family are the basis for everything we are currently immerse ourselves in today, it is the life blood of our society. The more we see it broken, the more this will reflects today and the things to come in our future as a society.

I fear when Poland adheres to immigration reform, and the plan for future United-States influenced military installments their tight nit culture will be a thing of the past. At this point I think the only thing protecting that country, is the fact they hold onto their roots and culture, and that their language is the 3rd hardest in the world to learn. Also women for the most part in small town areas know their role in life and family is number one priority, but most young women leave these small town areas seeking out a better life in big city areas. Its only a matter of time, before lesser and lesser women find themselves settling down willing to start family seeking out their independence.

Just to make another point, and how benign a lot of this is, the smart people look at kids as something in their way of success. Where the lesser intelligent are the ones truly populating this world, and through state sponsored welfare its apparently promoted.

SeanSmartsNY

9 Feb 2013

Love / Marriage with a polish woman - Heaven or Forever Hell ? [60]

That sounds very much like someone who's failed in their marriage.

Separation of church and state. It should be separation of marriage and state. You go into a marriage taking vows in front of a priest, under the covenant of God, then on the way out you get divorced in a court of law and its not a priest or the church that makes the decisions at that point. Its cut throat lawyers, and judges that make the decisions at that point and if your wife decides to run up massive debt on credit cards your responsible for half of that, even if she is being irresponsible.

Poland apparently has a divorce rate of 10%, The United States 60%, and Russia divorce rates are 60%. Coincidence?

You have a situation where divorce in small town Poland is looked down upon, everyone knows one another, they go out to the town square saying their hello discussing issues on the street with one another while out buying things for their everyday lives. They have little to no police or authoritative figures in some of these areas, its almost non-existent at times. Divorce is looked down upon, and when people in the town hear about it, everyone knows. Its to be honest, just not accepted, possibly due to family values being stronger, less outside intrusions on people's lives, possibly little to no land taxes. You don't hear about people getting foreclosed on in Poland, people also do not get thrown out on the street by a sheriff. Maybe in rental situations but in terms of land ownership things are plain and simple different.

SeanSmartsNY

8 Feb 2013

Love / Marriage with a polish woman - Heaven or Forever Hell ? [60]

Marriage is a legal document, that allows the courts to intrude on your life, most people wipe their ass with it. Better off setting up your own contracts with a woman, right from the start, buy her a house, give her money everymonth, and be done with it. 60% chance she will take it from you anyway and its going to happen. Atleast this way you have control over the situation, as a man, and not stripped of this right by the courts and legal proceedings that will follow down the road when chances are its going to happen anyway.

I don't know why any one gets married these days, its more a business agreement than anything. It has nothing to do with love. Person loves you? What does getting married prove? Know a couple who had a $80K USD wedding and were divorced within that year.

The contract implies you have to be faithful, or else the court steps in and takes all your assets, and you get to see your kids once a month. Its not about god.

SeanSmartsNY

8 Feb 2013

Love / Marriage with a polish woman - Heaven or Forever Hell ? [60]

Men should stay in packs, work, stay outside the home, and only go to a woman to procreate and continue their bloodline, and go back out working there is no reason to be obligated to one woman now-a-days. You have a system that encourages this. Here is the sickness. Its okay for you, as a man, to go from one woman to the next firing out as many kids as you want without consequence, all paid for by the state. Its also okay for you to marry and divorce as many woman as you want, and leave as many children behind with these women as long as you can afford the alimony. Unfortunately woman pay the ultimate price in this, being a single mother, trying to raise kids with no man in her life. Then you have areas where these systems aren't in place, and people view children in a entire different light, no one is encouraged to have a kid without consequence based on the resources or avenues not in place to do so. No hand outs, your on your own. Not encouraged, far different outcome. We have mediators in all aspects of our life, but no one will mediate a resolution between a married couple in terms of a bitter divorce and loss of assets. Its the courts that mediate the outcome, which just settles who gets the kids, and how to divide up the assets. The name of the game is to run interference in our everyday lives, make it harder to get ahead, put more red-tape in the way of success, make a mockery of marriage deem it antiquated and look at what we are left with. We are now all equals.

This is the growing trend, its easier to just have a kid with someone and walk away and just pay the child support. The sanctity of the family has been broken, the same goes with marriage. Know directly some individuals who never got married just to exploit this system, having kids paid for by the state, free child birth, food-stamps and they still live together but otherwise are deemed separated and the status of the woman living as a single mother with two kids under these circumstances. Not saying what they are doing is right, but it is was it is. Welcome to your modern day relationship.

SeanSmartsNY

8 Feb 2013

Love / My Polish Relationship Marriage ..story to be told. [USA/PL] [34]

The best times we had were in Poland visiting her family, when I stayed at her parents place for two months, and got to know her mother and father, grandmother and her two brothers. Stayed in Poland almost 8+ months all together over the years. Most of the time we were her in NY it was a lot of frustration together, because the quality of life is nowhere I would like it to be, there is a cost for living here in NY that is why I wanted to move to Western-Pennsylvania. Its just nicer out there cost of living is low, quality of life is better, but she is so impressed by NYC and glitz and glamor, sex-in-the-city nonsense its ridiculous. Its all new to a small town girl, population of her town is 5,000. She is greatly immersed now in this NYC life, and I fear there is no changing this fact anymore. All I was looking for was a simple life, and the fact she has no family here, its all about her friends.

SeanSmartsNY

8 Feb 2013

Love / My Polish Relationship Marriage ..story to be told. [USA/PL] [34]

Sorry your incorrect, all I did was be there for this girl, struggled like the rest of us. I'm not money bags, hate to break it to you. I did not try to buy her love only earn it. She put herself through school paid for it on her own, all I was a stepping stone for her to gain advancement and be done with me. I'm trying to start my own business, build capital like any other average joe, and set-up my future accordingly. She just refuses to play nice in this.

We were out in PA working on one of my investment properties, I do all the work myself, she was helping paint and get the house in order. Any other girl that loves their husband would see this opportunity and take advantage of it. Where is the togetherness with this woman? She tells me she will never cook and clean for me. How can you pretend to be marriage material with this attitude. She is scared to become her mother. Where her father will work in Germany for months on end, while her mother is stuck to mend the menial tasks back home. Was trying to get a bathroom in order, left it unfinished, because she only gave me 1-month of her time, and asking for the extra week to stay there was hard enough to get that out of her. She seen the bathroom was unfinished, but she had to get back to her friends. Then the night I returned back from NY or the following she went out with her friends. Asked her to come back early, and she did, its only fair the woman is married the next morning she woke up crying. She never invited me over her friends house, never knew where she lived, I dropped her off once and she did this backstep when I looked in the rear-view mirror as if she was trying to throw off which way she was going. Never followed this girl once! She is mentally insane, its all about living a secret life, but that is over for me I don't care what she does anymore.

My sexual life maybe I shouldn't mention, but it plays a role in this. She must have slept with someone behind my back, not sure, don't know the full story. She keeps saying if I tell you something, will you be okay with it. I keep asking what is it? She says nothing. Nothing happened.

Behind what means is it to seek out a separate life. She wants to have her cake and eat it to, she wants me hanging around while she tries to make up her mind but at the same time going out to the bars clubs all dressed up without me, flirting with other guys taking numbers, as a married woman. When I was recently with her, she told me she still had a phone number of a doctor in NYC that would help her get into a hospital as she got approached in a bar. This is only weeks after our separation. I'm sorry but I have to just see it for what it is, she is only in this for herself.

SeanSmartsNY

7 Feb 2013

Love / My Polish Relationship Marriage ..story to be told. [USA/PL] [34]

Sorry, I only wanted to share my experiences, and not start a flame war.

All just leave it at this, find a girl that has family in the country she resides, save yourself the headache. If she has no family, forget it. Its not worth the trouble or headache.

Good day.

SeanSmartsNY

7 Feb 2013

Love / My Polish Relationship Marriage ..story to be told. [USA/PL] [34]

Its just a fact, searching for other peoples problems with their marital affairs, came across this site linked from polishwomen.com not my fault that is how the internet works.

SeanSmartsNY

7 Feb 2013

Love / My Polish Relationship Marriage ..story to be told. [USA/PL] [34]

Unfortunately you see her as a Polish girl rather than your wife.

What you want her full name? Seriously. This is a "Polish" Forum linked from a PolishBride site. Seriously get real.

Sorry I'm Irish/Russian/German/Polish .. I only stick with my own. Thank you very much.

SeanSmartsNY

7 Feb 2013

Love / My Polish Relationship Marriage ..story to be told. [USA/PL] [34]

Yea apparently you speak for everyone.

The moment you become an over-jealous (probably violent) control freak...

Yea me buying a house outright in Pittsburgh, PA with no mortgage asking my loving wife to move with me and start a family is typical of a control freak these days, and it is against the norm. You are correct, 60% divorce rate in the United States. Correct, majority rules.

SeanSmartsNY

7 Feb 2013

Love / My Polish Relationship Marriage ..story to be told. [USA/PL] [34]

My fault for being honest. Didn't mean to bore you with marital issues, but some guys need to be warned what they are getting into.

She has one friend who is just looking to marry for papers, and is actually arranging a marriage where this guy is living with another girl just for money so she can travel to Poland. That is all marriage is for some of these girls. These are just facts. You have honest men, looking for a real relationship, then you have women that are just manipulative, and immoral in their decision making process. All because they are out for themselves. Its unfortunate, but I speak from experience, and first hand knowledge. My life has been turned upside down because of this girl, and she is just cold and calculated in her thought process, reading through other posts on here, it appears to be somewhat of a norm for a lot of these girls from Poland. They want control over their men. They seek out beta males that they can control. The minute you become assertive and dominant over them, they seek out another partner even tho they may not love them they look only for providers in ideal circumstances of all expense paid.

..and as far as the sex life i kept up fine in the sack..

I have heard from various people Polish women from the south are better lovers than from the northern region of Poland.

SeanSmartsNY

7 Feb 2013

Love / My Polish Relationship Marriage ..story to be told. [USA/PL] [34]

Hello,

I have been reluctant to post here for quite sometime, but I need to the ability to reflect and share my experiences with my personal relationship/marriage that I am currently involved in with my Polish wife. I was very young when I got involved with his girl, she is 29 now and I am 34 years old but I feel my experiences regarding our history needs to be shared for others to reflect upon. Also would like to get a lot of this off my chest because its extremely disheartening how this relationship has turned out.

Met my wife in NY as she was an Au Pair through the common agencies that you find promoting live-in positions for young girls looking to come to the United States and work. A lot of the stories these girls share with some of these rich families they work for are usually 9 times out of 10 less than ideal. She was working for a fairly good family, had money, father stayed home, mother worked for bloomberg in NYC. They never gave her weekends off, she only came here apparently to learn english but look at us almost 10 years later, she is married with papers and far more independent than where she began. I have to admit going into this relationship, I was young and naive just as her, I had my doubts. Had a bitter break up with another Polish Au Pair that left me for someone who could offer her more, and was apparently dating this person towards the end behind my back. So going into this, I wasn't really feeling it 100% as to trust issues with the last girl and reluctance to fall back in love with someone in her situation. Remember when I begged for her to stay here when her visa expired, live with me, and even then I was still uncertain of my choices. She really is a sweet girl, when she wants to be, don't get me wrong I still love my wife, but things have got between us as she tries to find her place here in the United States living as an "individual" that she apparently wants to be. It appears not after all these years of living with me, she sees me as someone not to listen to, and does what she wants.

So back to my point, I helped this girl move away from the original family after they found a new Au Pair, we lived together for quite sometime. Then she found another live in position with a Jewish family that had 3 kids and was bringing up two twins, the girl was old enough to attend school in the morning. Would go over there from time to time to stop in say hello. It was another less than ideal situation, but I put up with it while I was going to college. To keep it brief they started out with limited requests then it became me dropping her off 6am then picking her up at 10pm at night. Somehow we made it through this, pressed on, and worked out our differences and were back living together after that was all said and done. After that there was another family she worked for with two older children, only helped them go off to school in the morning and stuck around until they came home, mostly cleaning and cooking for this one family. Woman was again, fairly abusive to a point of swipe of the finger on furniture to see if she dusted the house properly. Or making a mess of things, just for her to clean. Insulting really, for not just her, but me going through this having to hear about my wife which we did get married right before she started working there. Which later turned out to be 5 years of working for this one family. So I have been with this girl for almost 8+ years now. We have been through a lot together.

So here is it, we are currently separated not living together for 3months, mind you, this is right after 1month being back after a 2month stay with her family in Poland over the summer. While she was living here gathering money, not paying rent, eating for free, not sharing any expenses she gathered $30k in cash. Me being the nice stupid gullible American that I am never asked for a penny. Only once she paid for my ticket to Poland, and provided some other things in between but mainly she saved the brunt of her money she made and never really contributed anything. She went through nursing school, got her RN degree/license while all this took place. Married me, and it appeared it wasn't for papers, but now I tend to differ. She apparently got what she wanted, and I am still the one to blame in this. I admit I was less than perfect of a husband, we did have times where things weren't great, but over-all I thought we were compatible together as a husband and wife.

It all started with college, some liberal feminist ideologies embedded in her head possibly? She was so impressed by this one professor at this school, because she cursed and spoke her mind and said whatever she wanted with out concern. Was odd to see her impressed by this woman. Just didn't see her changing, becoming more self-entitled, growing apart from me. She found these two friends at college that both were dysfunctional in their relationships, but I didn't see it, birds of a feather flock together. The one girl was dating a lawyer in NYC, and he blatantly tells her to face, I don't see you as my wife and she still continued to see this guy at his convenience. She had at the time nothing in common with these two girls, but apparently she gravitated towards them for reason I did not see at the time. Influenced her to smoke marijuana for the first time, and she was exposed to it around me and I never once forced it upon her or tried to get her to do it. So again, at the time, this stuff went right over my head. Not saying my wife is stupid in anyway, scored top of her class, high honors but I'm sorry this just made it worse for me to live up to these standards, but atleast at the time I thought she truly loved me.

Spent various summers in Poland visiting her family trying to show I cared, and wanted to be a part of her life, but she always found some way to paint that as not a big deal and I guess it was expected of me to put aside work and myself for this girl in the process. Married the girl knowing she needed to get a green card and visa to go back and see them, for this relationship to grow, but she held things back over the years. She patiently waited, and calculated her decisions over the years. Got what she wanted and now I am the one to blame, she doesn't know if she wants me back, and I am at the receiving end of this game. Now I admit I am not a perfect person, but here I am almost 10 years later trying to fight for her to be a part of my life again. Telling it will be different, we can have the things we need in life, we just have to work together in this.

Invested in real estate in Pennsylvania (Pittsburgh) try to get some rental property to impress upon this girl, show her, look see I can make our lives better. I'm working towards the future, these rentals will help pay the bills, the mortgage, car-payments for food. Have been working hard to show this girl, see I am doing a lot of this for you, but she has a totally different way in understanding this. So for me its difficult to move on with my life, knowing I tried, and I'm still trying.

That was the problem from the start, everything was separate, the money and family. You would think all this time, when she would 'skype' with her family invite my parents in front of the camera to say hello. Nope, for her it was all separate in her eyes. Even friends, I never knew any of her friends from school. She went out to gatherings at the bars with other class-mates never was invited. She was ashamed of me, the person who just enabled all of this to go on for her, all expense paid on my behalf. Even her other Polish Au Pair friends that she first met when she came to the country that worked in the area she started in, that she is still friends with today, only met this girl 3-times over the past 8 years or more. My friends were always a part of her life, I wanted her to get to know them. It was just natural for me, but a lot of that is said and done my friends now are all starting families its no more parties at the beach. Things have changed. Not sure what to think of all of this in its entirety. That is why I am hoping to vent on here, tell my story and see what others think I should do in this.

Here is the real reason for our separation, and I will just tell it as she told me with no heart and concern for me. She was, during college, going for her clinical tests/schooling at hospitals in the local area. To gain experience, and so the teachers/professors could see for themselves if they have what it takes to be a nurse. While all this was going on, she was doing a procedure on a male, inserting a catheter in this man's penis. Now no big deal right? Yea its part of the job. How can I be jealous, be stupid of me. Just with this one individual, he wanted to talk with her, get her number. Now the school can't give this stuff out, the hospital can't do it either, but somehow he gets a hold of my wife, or finds her at college campus, don't know the full story. So even after all the attempts this guy made to find her number or her, my wife still accepts this guys invitation to go out with him, for a walk in the park and a meal at a burger joint. Now this all happened before she went to Poland for the summer, because she told me when she got back and I was trying to influence her to move to PA and leave NY. Convenient for her, right? Almost as if, if I don't get my way, I will show you mentality.

I just don't know what to do. I kicked her out of my place because I thought she was cheating on me, and now I have to live with my decisions, because now that she is again living with an old Au Pair friend again rent-free believe it or not its me fighting for her to come back.

She also uses lines like "I don't cum when I have sex with you" isn't that a sure sign of a cheater? She reserved some emotional attachment to another person in order for something like this to happen.

Right now the situation is as stands, we are seeing each other may twice a week, only total 10 hours maybe tops. We are still married, technically. She almost made it appear that she wants to get pregnant now. Almost as if these are the new conditions into us getting back together, on top of what I was told. Like an idiot I am trying with her, but now today I ask her to tell me when are you moving back in here and she tells me "she needs more time." "i love you like a brother" "i'm confused"

Seriously I'm at my wits end in this marriage, and I am thinking its best to admit this girl used me to get papers, her drivers license, and her RN degree all expense paid by little old me and apparently by her standards I deserved it.

Regards, Sean. ( the sucker )