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Troubled relationship - is it because I'm Polish or should I blame it on his moustache? [28]
Why do yo feel responsible for him?
I don't know. Is it not that we become forever responsible for what we have tamed? Is it not that once we've loved someone they become our family, someone who we can't just delete from our hearts and simply move on?
I told him once that I no longer wanted to be with him, it lasted for a week or two that we were sort of single, and he became very sad, a shadow of himself. It was very painful to see him in that state.
it would seem you want him because he makes you feel safe, he is the known and you have a fear of the unknown
It might be true, it's even more scary when you live in a foreign country and your family is 2000km away; on the other hand I tend to become overly excited about the unknown so fear doesn't usually restrain me from making changes in life, the unknown usually is a turn on for me.
If you no longer feel genuine love for this guy, leave. It may be hard but it's the decent thing to do!
You're right but it's easier said than done. Because it's not like you either love someone or not; I find that sometimes we can no longer be in love in the romantic sense but still love that person as a human being
Or is it the aftermath of my Catholic upbringing and I feel subconsciously I must carry my cross? ;)