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united_fan28   
28 Jun 2012
Love / Need help/advice polish girl :( British and Polish girl relationship. [26]

Hi Everyone, I would like to share my experience with you all and would like your EXPERIENCED opinions please if you would be so kind :)

I got with a Polish girl Martha who is 25 years old, I am 28 myself and British, Our relationship developed very quickly and we are already living together after 3 months.

We get on together great and share the same interests,cooking,movies etc...many times we even think the same thing! like psychic lol.
However! please read on!

First of all the 3rd week we were together she went to town drinking with a guy (brother of her ex boyfriend) he is 11 years older than her, She got home drunk at drinking from 4pm to 11pm,I told her I dont want her going alone with any guy drinking especially any ex bf's brother, if she wants to stay with me...she never did this again!

I am worried about wasting my time and feelings here, as I have concerns thats might be a little uncomfortable to talk about with her directly.

She is the type of girl who likes to party and gets drunk easily,this worries me especially more as once before I know she shared a house in London with another Polish girl, a Latino guy and his english wife (they were all from the same workplace), one week this guy's wife was on holiday and he offered the 2 girls vodka and waited for them to pass out,took naked pictures of Martha when she was passed out on the sofa sleeping and also had sex with her.(RAPE)and the other Polish girl woke up with this guy trying to have sex with her also in her bedroom (thats how he got caught) Martha did not even know what happened to her! (This guy is currently waiting to go to court)

I had strong feelings for her since we met thats why I still go on with this relationship.

She works now in a factory so does not get much time to party (only 2 days a week now) so this is a bit better,

but in the town where we live in UK, she has 2 friends both Polish, and both drink heavily and smoke weed etc.... basically bad ones.

I can not stop her seeing them as she will say I manipulate her.

One of her friends Justyna has 2 Lithuania men regularly going to her place. One day we were in her place for a quiet drink. Just the 3 of us, and this guy knocked on the door. (I only seen them this one time as I was annoyed and I never went back to Justyna's place since that day). I was sat with martha on the sofa and he came in the house, he was cheeky, asked for some weed from Justyna and I couldnt believe it. He could see i was sat with my Martha and he started talking to her (ignored me) he started right away asking awkward questions etc asking if we are together and starting talking about sex.... I felt really uncomfortable, he started going on about how our cultures are different, saying we are young everybody likes sex etc ...I could see he was a pervert right away and wanted to punch him for being disrespectful in my face. He started Saying im a lucky man etc...(we both never met this guy before) even Justyna only met this guy once before also as she bought weed for him,she said to me,

now he hangs around there and she started having sex with him.....it is weird as there is always 2 Lituanian guys there (maybe a threesome) who knows.They say they are cousins.He lied that he was born in UK and says he is a gypsy. He is a liar as his english isnt great and he had a Lithuanian driving license,even lied about his age. I really dont want her to go anywhere near this guy I told her already this,as he annoyed me so much.

Justyna does not go on holiday with martha as they are from different places however, The 2nd friend Ilona is just a total drunk she has a boyfriend of 5 years who is really nice, I get on with him great I drank with him once in their place. During that day I could see the Ilona and Martha were getting drunk and dancing in the living room my girl Martha got so drunk off 5 beers only and was sleeping on the sofa. Ilona is also from martha's small province just north of Warsaw. They grew up together, everytime on days off she wants to go to this Ilona's place and drink and she is encouraged always to drink by this friend. Whilst on day off she is an animal drinking. She is so bad with crazy parties on holiday in Poland that even her boyfriend of 5 years stays away from this provinces parties! he is from Plonsk.

On facebook one day she was logged in whilst taking a shower so i thought hmm maybe I will have a look at her messages in there, I knew it was wrong but I had to know what I gfot myself into I guess I seen messages saying Im going on holiday at a certain date...and a message which translated to "dont go anywhere i want to pull you" anyway one day during conversation this guys name popped up from her she said I dont see my friend in a long time or something. I asked who this guy was and was an ex so I went on and told her about the message i seen we slept seperate for a few hours and I took her to sleep in the bed at 4am thinking I was being a bit harsh, after that we were ok.

They are now on holiday in their province near Warsaw , this is why im writing this. She has many male firends there near Plonsk. I am worried that she may see me as money or marriage and have some other guy for sex or something. I heard her say before life is short etc... but she always sends me message on facebook saying I miss you and Love you etc....If we talked on skype or in person she never says I love you.....she has blonde hair and is pretty hot so I know guys will be after her if they see she is drunk. I dont know if I should try to accept that she is partying on a day off and on holiday im really stuck and dont know what i should so but I do love her. I dont think it is ok to be friends with ex's at all....she does seem easy to get with and would not take much to get her in bed if drunk....i dont think....maybe i should just cut loose.....she wasted no time to sleep with me with no protection took 3 days only! maybe the fact is im not sure if i can trust her so we cant go on....I guess I need the help of a polish girl or some guy who knows about polish girls thats would be great to know if these girls can get drunk and be faithful or if they are just easy. replies will be appreciated im confused so please dont flame me
united_fan28   
28 Jun 2012
Love / Need help/advice polish girl :( British and Polish girl relationship. [26]

interesting in those facebook messages were 2 ex's one of them translated into.... i have started a new beautiful relationship...maybe trying to make him jealous or something.....or maybe keeping him aside but that doesnt bother me both thise guys are in poland now....and we are in uk...only this holiday is possibilities.....might just **** her off lol these polish girls are too much hard work
united_fan28   
28 Jun 2012
Love / Need help/advice polish girl :( British and Polish girl relationship. [26]

i have to give her credit she has stopped partying at her friends place alot its down to 1 time a week now, and everytime she goes always invites me along....im only worried about her ex's this is the sole matter now.....he is in poland 1 village away from her....and she is there now....everybody will know everybody there so he will obviously know anyway....she has been telling me shes spending all her time with family and with cousins drinking.....this week will be dangerous for our relationship only,,,,when shes back in uk i know she will not be messing around....as works until 6pm then home at 6.30 everyday stays with me until next shift...i only consider her to possibly cheat on me with an ex or a normal male friend in her province on this holiday....as been in contact with one on facebook...2 months ago she says this was before we were together,and never talked to him in facebook since....maybe im just being jealous maybe there can be girls who like to drink because of their culture and can be loyal? i dont think she had a bad upbringing i would imagine quite strict maybe as her dad is a policeman and mother has a good job also.

if i decide to trust her on this holiday, i know everything will be fine once back with me, it's just not knowing IF she has met this ex.....i mean she seems into me and we always have plenty of sex so theres no reason for her to go out of her way and do it... plus her period started yesterday so she only had 1 week to fool around, if she had the intention to do it.....and hurt me....the only reason a girl would have sex with a guy is maybe for money and she doesnt need that she is independant and is very fair with the household bills, we get on really well.... so i dont want to throw it away if she continues to change as she is doing...i think we will be fine of course i must watch out for this ex thing and if ido find solid evidence i wont hesitate to drop her in a hreartbeat....guess you will just have to wish me luck :) and i will have to stop being jealous...i have been cheated on before that is why im obviously concerned but i have no solid evidence so i will have to just go with the flow i guess.
united_fan28   
28 Jun 2012
Love / Need help/advice polish girl :( British and Polish girl relationship. [26]

she has invited me on the next holiday to poland already i was even invited on this one...i believe every girl is different ..i am not going to sterotype every polish girl everyone has their own brain...i think i can trust this one...i think i must deal with my trust issues also :) thanks

as for there will always be an ex somewhere...... we can say this about even english girls....i believe if she does care about me she wont do it.....
united_fan28   
28 Jun 2012
Love / Need help/advice polish girl :( British and Polish girl relationship. [26]

im willing to trust her thats the thing.....i was just trying to find out other peoples views on polish girls i guess.....at the end of the day if she cheats, eventually it will come out it always does...polish people spread conversation like wildfire in the factory i have noticed lol.....if she does cheat i will just bin her with no taking back as that obviously means im not good enough for her.....but im going to have to like you say take the plunge :0 if i show mistrust in her it gives her reason to do something i guess :)
united_fan28   
28 Jun 2012
Love / Need help/advice polish girl :( British and Polish girl relationship. [26]

hi that was a great reply...i talked to her about the booze the 2nd month we were together, she has been much better with drinking now, she cant turn into an alcoholic because she works and only has 2 days off so she only drinks 1 or 2 days maximum...one of those days usually with me alone the other with her friends....but again i am always invited to her friend ilona's place with them....no guys go to that house im worried about as i know everyone there...thats not an issue...only problem is this current holiday i think....hope she stays off the hard stuff lol....and litrerally the other hard stuff :) haha shes been talking to me on facebook most days whilst on holiday so i shouldnt be too worried i think i must just trust her :)
united_fan28   
28 Jun 2012
Love / Need help/advice polish girl :( British and Polish girl relationship. [26]

LOL thanks for the reply if she wasnt ready for commitment i dont get why she would move in with me? and pay half the bills....strange as she had an offer from this justyna girl to move in her place also...but chose to stick with me. it was her ex boyfriends brother who she says she was friends with that went to town drinking that day . she never sees this guy anymore and never went to drink with him again this was when we had just met each other our 3rd week into the relationship... she came home and stopped drinking with that guy i dragged her from the pub on the phone basically lol....and never did it again now they only play games together on facebook sending gifts in go fishing lol that is their only interaction now....haha nice hobbies i know but since i met her she stopped smoking weed with friends now and is also even trying to quit smoking as i do not smoke i told her smoking is ok for me but that was her choice too :) i guess if she goes to this ilonas place i will have to attend the party :) if she did turn out to be a h*e i will be fking her off quickly lol but its the risk i gotta take :) also im a little confused as illona's boyfriend of 5 years told me polish girls are very loyal....he knew martha from the village maybe she really is a nice girl but a drunk? shre seems submissive a little like she does everything i tell her lol even cutting down on the booze!
united_fan28   
21 Feb 2013
Love / My Polish GF cheating on me? need polish speakers help in the conversation [17]

hi i know this is a little lame but i have reason for it...i am worried my gf is cheating on me with a guy from her work...this guy is really sniffing around her and messaging her on facebook and calling her outside of work etc....she has been coming home from work later than usual also....i decide to take a look at her facebook messages with this guy as i could not risk being made a fool of as i feel she is already taking the **** a bit in our relationship not helping paying bills etc and seems to start being bored in our relationship things have changed dramatically ...please read a conversation below and help me please if you think she is doing something with this guy thank you. it would help if someoine could explain to me what is going on in the conversation theres lots of slang in there

GUY
hehe widzialem wkur... kibol xD

...
Dzisiaj

my gf
dobry jest, napewno cpie XD pzdr do jutra

...

GUY
cpie cpie heheh

dojutra

my gf
o siemka

...

GUY
siema

co tam ?

...
my gf
a spoko, zamulam, kac morderca dzisiaj

wczoraj niesmiertelnosc mi sie wlaczyla i wypilam za duzo browakow

a ty jak tam?

...

GUY

hehe

ja to dzisiaj odpoczywam 2 dni baletow ale kaca nie mam

w sumie troche wczoraj umieralem ale szybko sobie z tym poradzilem xD

...
my gf

a gdzie balowales?

GUY
w manchester

;p

wszedzie po troche a wczoraj to juz w domu

...

my gf
spoko, to pogadamy jutro bo blokuje Ianowi laptop... pzdr

do juterka

...
GUY
pozdro
united_fan28   
21 Feb 2013
Love / My Polish GF cheating on me? need polish speakers help in the conversation [17]

so i agree they are speaking slang but by no means is she uneducated ...so are you going to carry on giving nonesense comments and be rude? or help please? that is all i wanted...not grief...dont comment please if your not planning on helping your just making yourself look like a prick anyway it is not nice hepefully a woman wil see this post as guys are clearly just going to take the p.i.s.s
united_fan28   
21 Feb 2013
Love / My Polish GF cheating on me? need polish speakers help in the conversation [17]

@Lenka like i said i could not take a chance of her doing this to me that is the only reason i read the messages, her recent strange behaviour contributed to me doing this,....i just find it strange when she is saying "kisses" when they are ending thre conversation and "seee you tomorrow" like they cant wait to see each other or something.....thank you for your reply though......