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Joined: 19 Oct 2010 / Female ♀ 		Last Post: 11 Dec 2010
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Posts: Total: 42 / In This Archive: 35 		From: England, Manchester
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Atosha   
19 Oct 2010
Love / Black British Jamaican woman loves Polish friend but how do I tell him? [16]

I started a new job 4 weeks ago and the first person I saw was Maciej, he had the nicest smile and I could tell he had a good heart.

Everyday he would walk past me (up to 8 times a day) to get water and my co-worker that I
sit next to me said that Maciej must like someone in the office cause he has never seen him look that happy since he stared work there 3 years ago.

Anyway two weeks ago on a Friday my co-worker that I sit next to said that Maciej really likes me and would I take his number if he gave it me, I said no and thought nothing more of it. The following Tuesday Maciej came up to my desk and gave me his mobile number, I was stunned as I never thought that Maciej would like me. Anyway I texted and rang him that night and the day after he asked me if I would go on a date with him so I said yes. We arranged to see each other on Saturday night and we was going to drive down to Blackpool and see the lights.

He came to my house to pick me up and he looked amazing, I asked him in as I just wanted to finish watching something on TV and in the end we stayed in and watched a dvd and I made him some food. He was a gentleman and never tried to touch me, we only cuddled whilst watching the dvd.

He asked me if I would go with him to his friends wedding next Saturday and if I would join him and his family for Christmas.

Ok so I have fallen in love with him already but I don't know if I should tell him or keep quite. We are both single so I don't think us getting together would be a problem, but I am very serious about him and keep dreaming about us getting married, what should I do?
Atosha   
20 Oct 2010
Love / Black British Jamaican woman loves Polish friend but how do I tell him? [16]

I cooked him sweet chilli chicken wings from scratch.

He has a 5 year plan to make as much money as possible then move to a hot country.

I know it may look like things are moving real quick but I can feel in my heart that he is the one.

He is coming over on friday night again as he said he had a really nice time and he would like to spend some more quality time with me.

I sometimes think I am going to cry if another female comes along and shows interest in him and I don't manage to tell him how I feel. Surely he must know I like him as I would never let him come to my house otherwise.
Atosha   
20 Oct 2010
Love / Black British Jamaican woman loves Polish friend but how do I tell him? [16]

I would advise you to express you thoughts to him while you can

Your right. When he comes over on Friday I will tell him how I feel, if he tells me that we are only ever going to be friends I will have to accept it and try and just put my feelings to the side.

Ok he has just rung me to say he wants to tell me something but he wants to wait until Friday. I think I will let him speak first as I don't want to make a fool out of myself if he says that he has feelings for another woman or something.

Ok Maciej came over on Friday and he asked me to be his girlfriend. I am so happy he means the world to me, and his mum has asked me to come over this Sunday for dinner. So hopefully I don't need to post anymore except to tell everyone when he asks me to marry him next year, tee hee.

I love polish men, they are naturally sexy and work really hard to secure a happy future for the family. And any man that loves his mother is going to treat any women with the respect he has for his mum.
Atosha   
21 Oct 2010
Love / Filipina married a Polish man, need more advice [90]

the child has the right to know who is his/her father

Doesn't the baby have a right to know there brothers and sisters too?

The sweetest thing a man can offer us women is there mouth, they can sweet talk us out of our underwear quicker then we realise.

Once that baby is born you may never here from him again. His family knows nothing about you and never will if he has his way. I know I may sound harsh but he has never loved you he just wanted to get his leg over and stay somewhere for free. If he truelly loved you he would be living with you right now. He more than likely has other women too, he will never leave his wife and family for you or any other women why should he? he can have his cake and eat it. Oh and don't think that his wife doesn't know whats going on she does, maybe not with you but with other women he has met on the internet.
Atosha   
22 Oct 2010
Love / Filipina married a Polish man, need more advice [90]

i have waited for 3 years so i guess i can wait for another year. Time will tell!

deeply_inluv, I am speaking to you as a women that also went through something similar. My so called ex lied to me about his situation, he kept making excuses saying the women would kill herself if he left her he has to do it slowly and even when I fell pregnant with his twins he was still messing me around.

I lost the children in the 7th month and it was so hard as I had to go through giving birth to dead children. He never came to the hospital or called and when I went to the house where he lived they had moved. I was so low I thought about ending it all. Then a week later he contacted me again and all of a sudden I was back to square one. I stayed faithful, honest and true to him and I even gave him a promisment that I would blind my eyes to all men and wait for him.

14 years later nothing had changed and I by chance found a photo of him on the net married to a different woman and also living with the first woman. I asked god to give me strength to forget him as he meant me no good. I was his little secret and that was never going to change.

It took me 1 year to sort myself out and now I am ready to move on. I have met the best man in the world now and he happens to be polish. He doesn't know that I love him but I am going to tell him when he comes over tonight. If he only wants to be friends then fine I will have to settle for that as his friendship means a lot to me.

I hope when you read what I went through will help you see that there are many fish in the sea and you will find the one for you, don't end up waiting 14 years for nothing like me.
Atosha   
23 Oct 2010
Love / Filipina married a Polish man, need more advice [90]

accept the reality!accept the fact,understand?

deeply_inluv, what Megan is saying is right, stop making a fool out of yourself. He will never be yours and can I just ask as I am a little confused. How the hell did you marry a man that is already married or are you lying?

If you are telling the truth go to the police and get this matter sorted or you will or might find that you will be the one in lots of trouble in relation to this matter as you know he is married to someone else.
Atosha   
25 Oct 2010
Love / Filipina married a Polish man, need more advice [90]

Atosha and Megan are probably the same person! Both new to the forum and just wanted to drag you down

I don't know who Megan is but I am real and I live in England, and as for dragging deeply_inluv down she done that to herself.

It is not in my nature to push myself to someone it is him who wont stop contacting me. So may times i kick him out of my parents house to leave me alone but he wont

It is in your nature cause you are trying to do that by getting pregnant to trap him. Also you said he stays with for 24hours a day for 4 months straight how is that possible!!!!

its time for me to go back to my parents soon coz they don't want me to work anymore will have to take good care of my pregnancy so will be going home to my parents they want me to stay with them as I live by myself.

So why does he stay at your parents house when he visits? are you ashamed of where you live? and why is he not with you whilst you are pregnant and soon ready to give birth to his child so you say?

Actually he is more excited to see our first baby and his son wants to have baby boy brother. Yes polish guy values so much with their family but too bad his ex-wife only concentrate her life with herself and the kids and just want him to work and to support for the family. she forgot that husband needs her attention, respect, care and love from the wife. Intimacy, respect is very important in a the marriage and if couples are lack of that marriage wont last. Needs two to Tango!

Who told you this? Is this a dream your having or you listening to his crap again.

But they're not in the UK, they're in England

Ha ha are you having a laugh the UK stands for United Kingdom and England is one of the country's there. I Live in England, where abouts does your so called boyfriend live? perhaps I can go and look for him and let his wife know that you said hello.

Don't let him get away with telling you lies ect, make him pay for you to come here to England and then you will find that he makes the most excuses for you to stay where you are. When is your baby due? I hope he is there to support you but you and I both know he will not.
Atosha   
27 Oct 2010
Love / Filipina married a Polish man, need more advice [90]

my Polish bf lie to me, he told me that he was divorced and no kids but turns up he has kids and wife and living in the same house and not divorce. Does he has any reason to lie to me because I told him that I prefer to meet someone with no kids? Please advice

wait a minute you wrote this Oct 11, 10, 16:41 but on Dec 2, 09, 14:06, 10 months earlier on a thread called How will i explain to him I'm not ready to marry him. you wrote:

we will get married but not this time. i know in my heart that he is the one i want to marry but i just want to spend more time so u know in the future if the real colors will come out no regrets and will not cost him money for the divorce.... hehehehe

Lies you knew he was married and not divorced, he never lied to you.

You should be ashamed of yourself lying about your situation, you knew he was married from day one. So from December 2009 till October 2010 you were laughing saying if the real colors come out no regrets and will not cost him money for the divorce. You are a skank looking for people to feel sorry for you and this proves you got pregnant on purpose. All you are doing is looking for people to feel sorry for you and some nice woman on here that may have felt sorry for your situation is probably the mans wife. SHAME ON YOU.
Atosha   
29 Oct 2010
Love / Being Taken For A Idiot by my Polish girlfriend? [37]

I hate to say this but she is making a fool out of you. She can only treat you like that if you allow her to.

Give her the sweet taste of her own medicine and she will soon stop her child like behaviour.
Atosha   
29 Oct 2010
Love / Being Taken For A Idiot by my Polish girlfriend? [37]

Hun, I never said ignore her, I said give her the sweet taste.

i.e make sure you look great at all times, be extra nice to everyone and the most important thing you must do is smile all the time do not jump when she wants you to.

Do not let her know that you feel upset at the way she treats you. She will soon straighten up. You must learn how to play the game and you will be fine.
Atosha   
4 Nov 2010
Love / Fell in love; I need to go back to Poland for 2 months - what to say at work (UK) [50]

im not looking for your opinions on something i have not or not planning on doing (maybe set up a new thread to discuss your strong beliefs on this) i am simply looking for some guidance.

But to be honest you was planning on doing as you wrote this:
So I'm thinking that maybe we should give this a try for about 2 months and then we'll both see if this is working for us. If it will the choice is going to be really easy but if it won't I'd like to come back and get my life in here back. Which means that I'd like to go back to my current job (which I like pretty much by the way). So to arrange that I'd need to take an unpaid holidays or give a medical certificate of temporary work disability or something..or maybe should I just tell a truth and hope for understanding.. ??? What should I do????

You should understand that people are entitled to have there say as it was you that asked the question in the first place. Being responsible is also about taking the positive with the negative. If you wrote something in the heat of the moment fine but please don't be to quick to get angry.

Anyway perhaps you should speak to the HR department at your work place as you clearly don't know about your company policys. In most company's you can only take of 3 weeks with the written consent of management and you are not entitled to unpaid leave unless there is a very good reason and even then you have to provide proof and its only 5 days you would get. So no matter how you do it you would not get the 2 months you are looking for.

Good luck
Atosha   
15 Dec 2010
Love / Should I still go to my Polish ex boyfriends parents house for Christmas? [13]

I dumped my boyfriend today because of his immature ways.

For the first few weeks everything was great and he could do no wrong, then one day when we were eating dinner at the kitchen table he started repeating everything what I was saying and I told him to stop and he just carried on until I walked away. He said sorry and that he wouldn't do it again and the next day without fail he did it again so this time I took my food into the living room and eat my food there. From then I don't eat with him anymore. After that he has done other stupid immature things that just get on my nerves and we argue about they way he acts and it just falls on deaf ears.

Today we were at work and he filled his 2 litre water bottle and walked up to me and pretended to throw the water in my face and he stood there laughing. I was so shocked and people in work saw what he done and asked me if I wanted to report him as it is deemed as a form of bullying. I said no but I sent him a text telling him its over and he's not to expect me to go to his mum's for Christmas dinner.

Anyway he sent me a text back asking me to still go to his mum's for Christmas dinner as his mum will get mad if she finds out he has not been treating good as she really likes me.

Why should I go to his mum's and pretend everything is going good when he is immature and not ready for an adult relationship?
Atosha   
27 Feb 2011
Love / Why does my Polish boyfriend keep telling his mum our private business everytime we have words? [49]

I am beginning to feel like my boyfriend is a mummys boy. Everytime something happens he keeps saying my mum does this or my mum does that so I have to because I am his girlfriend and it really puts me off.

I keep telling him to man up and drop the foolishness and he goes straight to his mum and tells her word for word what we have been talking about.

He is 27 and I am reaching the end of my sweetness with him, what can I do, or say to him to save this relationship? my heart hurts so much because I love him so much, will he ever man up?
Atosha   
27 Feb 2011
Love / Why does my Polish boyfriend keep telling his mum our private business everytime we have words? [49]

Your right perhaps its time for me to get more firm with him.
But can I just ask you please is it true that when your a boy then your mum is number 1, when you are a man your mum is still number 1, but from when you are having an adult relationship your girlfriend is number 1 and your mum is 1.1?

That how I see it and surely I can't be wrong.
If it wasn't for him telling her all our business we would be living together and looking forward to a great future. But his mum says no he is to stay living with her until she says so, how can I compete with that?
Atosha   
27 Feb 2011
Love / Why does my Polish boyfriend keep telling his mum our private business everytime we have words? [49]

No, he has two sisters and he has gone mad when one of his sisters was being treated like rubbish, but he wants to do the same to me.

I feel like a fool because I gave him a chance to man up so I bought him an Audi for his birthday and I paid for us to go to the seychelles in july and now he has asked me if we are finished for good can he go with his mum on our holiday because he was looking forward to it and his mum says she would like to go.