Being Taken For A Idiot by my Polish girlfriend?

ive recently been dating a polish girl. ive known her for 9 months and always been close with her spending everyday together as we work together. i asked before if she would like to go out sometime for a drink and the answer was always maybe until, i only want to be friends... in augest i finished work as only a seasonal job. in september it took a turn for the best and we started going out together after finding out she had liked me for the past 2 months pre sept. after a month was still going good until we reached about 6 weeks when she decided to start ignoring me only to recieve a message from her saying she wants to be single and she doesnt have a reason for leaving me, after another 3 days of ignoring me, i finially see her again to find she is still the same with me kissing holding hands and just being the same with me, 3 days pass and its saturday once and again and starts ignoring me once again, tuesday this week i go see her to give her a birthday present, and once again is the same with me again, now its friday and shes not working im being ignored once again. i know its pretty much simple shes taking the **** out of me, but i know shes had problems with bf's shes had in other relationships, is there more to it or am i being taken for a ride...

every man loves a challenge but if she hasn't let you bone here yet then she's not goin to.
most polish girls will give it up pretty easy, which is a great thing, not like the frigid yokes back at home, but still man, time to move to greener pastures

you are her weekdays boyfriend... she sees somebody else on weekends...

Dnt play along w/ her, if she starts ignoring you, u do the same, more deliberately. She'll probably realize she's not getting the reaction she wants and will go back to being nice to get your attention.

Wimmin!

;P

Read what you have written again.............then you have your answer.

It's so obvious. Forget about her quick unless you want to be played even more.

Because she's a flake and a user? Seriously, she sounds like bad news.

You,re only an idiot if you allow her to play you along. Be a man for goodness sake and put your foot down !

I hate to say this but she is making a fool out of you. She can only treat you like that if you allow her to.

Give her the sweet taste of her own medicine and she will soon stop her child like behaviour.

so to recap,

You have a girl that doesn't want anything from you, doesn't bother you when you're not with her and when you meet she is nice to you.

My advice, marry her.

very true but i dont like stooping down to her level and start the ignoring child like game but then again it seems i dont have anything to win and nothing to lose!

Wrong, you have everything to win - your own self-respect. She's unpredictable because she's a player and bad news - stay away.

Hun, I never said ignore her, I said give her the sweet taste.

i.e make sure you look great at all times, be extra nice to everyone and the most important thing you must do is smile all the time do not jump when she wants you to.

Do not let her know that you feel upset at the way she treats you. She will soon straighten up. You must learn how to play the game and you will be fine.

pryda
If I were you I'd ignore her for a couple of days and wait for her step.

hmm yer i always do look my best for her, the thing that annoys me most is we have never had a falling out / arguement in the 9 months knowing each other even as friends, well until now she treated me fine, saying how good i am to her, she did say she doesnt like how she treats me at times altho she never did anything wrong.. its all confusing and mostly for me as it seems she doesnt really give a crap, altho i have been taking all your advice on board :)

she likes bad boys, you're too mellow for her... just spank her ego a bit and she'll get back on track...

you could be doing something wrong. Maybe being indiscrete, to forward, not forward enough, I don't know, but it wouldn't be the first time the guy is clueless when the woman thinks all the signs are laid out clearly before him.

Memorize this, and learn from it.

This is what you do you start date someone else and have fun with new date and make sure she knows about it. then ask her for a date for Friday night do it on Monday, Tuesday the latest if she does not commit by Wednesday you make other plans with new friend and make sure she knows about it. If she calls you on or after Wednesday night around 8pm to commit to your date you say “ I am sorry but I have another plans maybe some other time” after few times you should be able to bang her and then ignore her and use her as butte call.

Arguments heals atmosphere around people.
Maybe she wants to be too perfect - I don't know, I just guess.
You should drive her mad once or twice as a trial.
A couple that don't argue with each other? Difficult to imagine!

So much effort, such a waste of energy! If someone is playing such stupid games, my advice is move on to someone who is more mature and knows their own mind, because lets face it we all know, if we like someone we're happy to accept an offer to spend time in their company...Or at least thats what "normal" people do..

It is about demand and supply, no effort is made as you bang someone else you just creating demand for yourself and she is supply just like a farmer just seeding so you can bang her later without any effort of pursuing her.

i agree here... but we know only his side of the story... i wonder what hers is...

You and I are on a different page sweetie...I dont see the point in the whole chase thing, I already know what I want and I personally perfer stable people who know their own mind...Nothing romantic about someone playing games, how is that a good basis for a relationship? I like games if they involve notes that give me little messages telling me I should take my passport to work..


She's insecure...She likes the ego boost..simples! Plus she's probably got an guy on the go giving her the same attention...but I think weekend guy is more special ;0)

My mum gave me some advice when I was 18, if he's not calling you, then its time to move on because he obviously doesnt think much of you...best advice I ever had!

yeah, my thoughts...

You know the older I get the more I realise that men and women are exactly the same...As much as we hate to admit it...

No night on the pull for me then! thanks! :(

I already knew that when I was five! (Only difference would be that we're much smarter of course!)

;P

Maybe so but what about you picking up the phone? Does it really matter who makes the initial move? After all, we live in the 21st century, right? I was asked out on several dates in the past and a few turned into great and long relationships. Had I not moved from Sweden one of those ladies would quite possibly have become my wife...