Life / What is going on in Polish Music [128]

Oh no - surely NOT disco polo... :). Are there any new artists on the scene? Are there good new albums you recommend? Thanks.

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

Looks as if you were not primarily looking for a self-respecting, intelligent woman, but your sex object. Your woman being a partner in talk or business is ALMOST as important as her looks??? Well, I'm glad that by getting old your priorities slowly started sorting themselves out.

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

Again, it all depends on what you are looking for... But I suppose I would have to agree that we live in men's world and they made it look 'normal' and 'ok' to look at the woman as a sex object, instead of maybe.. a human being with a brain and not just breasts? How sad and disappointing.

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

I wish I knew your full name as well... Anyways, the attraction you are describing sounds to me like the basic thing that a heterosexual person would say about why he/she likes the other gender and not the same as a sexual partner. Sexuality is part of our identity and by no means should it be disowned. It is something beautiful and can bring deep intimacy when handled right. It is something special that we can offer to someone we feel special about, and that is what makes us human beings climb up on the ladder of animal kingdom. If you look at the opposite sex and all you see is his/her sexual attributes, how are you different from a monkey? (sorry to all monkeys, you sometimes are actually smarter then us). Men most of the time set the rules in the societies, so they see little reason to behave in more complicated ways. Historically, that was the case and that's why men do what they do.

A relationship should start because two people share the same values, have similar outlook on life, find fulfillment in each other's presence and enrichment by learning important things from one another. Sexual realization is supposed to be the last step, as the expression of deeper intimacy as well as satisfying our selfishness in a selfless love for the other person. I use the word 'selfishness' in the context of love, which wants nothing else but love back; it wants to give itself completely as well as experience the other person the same way. This is our physical way of showing it, which by itself has nothing to do with the real thing.

Isn't it sad that you get attracted to a woman just because of her soft voice? We might somehow enjoy it, but you should set yourself higher standards as to what you are attracted to.

By the way, I recommend a web site: heartlessbitches.com. But be careful, you might feel intimidated by smart women there :).

Life / What is going on in Polish Music [128]

Hmm, that's a hard one. I like a little bit of everything actually... but I'm willing to try anything new and see how I like it. Lately I've been listening to Turnau and Kowalska.

Does anyone have first-hand news about what's going on in the music world in Poland these days?

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

I see what you mean, but I think that you're confusing two ideas here. Looking at someone is not possible in any other then physical way, did I make you think otherwise? But what is it that you are looking for or at when you look at a woman? If it's her sexual attributes then you're lost, but it's also possible to look at a woman (and man) with a sense of respect, which assigns her some value based on her behavior, thinking abilities, creativity, self-confidence, compatibility with your values, etc. I'm not saying that you should fall in love with an ugly bitch because she can draw well. Taking care of our appearence is very important and our responsibility, but looking like a whore and liking it, is where you crossed the line. Again, we learned from our society to be attracted to certain characteristics in men and women. It is not abnormal to like a pretty face, but what you do with this is what matters. If you start fantasizing and getting aroused, then you're not in control of yourself, but if you just ignore it because that person didn't look appealing in meaningful ways, then you're in control and showing respect both to yourself and other people.

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

not necessarily robots, like I said - we can like certain things but not necessarily react to them. it seems that a man who automatically has some uncontrollable reactions in specific situations fits a 'robot' more then the one who uses his brain before he acts.

ideally we should all be perfect, mature (after certain age), value certain values... but that doesn't always happen. what is hopeful though is that no matter where we are, we always make an effort to become better.

when you admit that you look at women in sexual ways, you treat them as sex objects... degrading a person to an object, even if just in your thougths - means disrespecting her, but also yourself. you respect others only if you can truly respect yourself.

our ancestors also burnt people alive and believed that a disease is God's curse on you. such simplicity of behavior and judgment sure made their lifes less stressful.

on top of everything, commitment to long term values is the real discussion here.

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

very good. some of our reactions are automatic, it's impossible to keep all the information in the immediate awareness. BUT our reactions are learned - that means you can re-learn them after re-evaluation of your thoughts and values (as we get more mature and conscious). it's like driving a car with stick shift. when you're an experienced driver you dont' think of how you change the gears, but once you had to learn it. however, the things we learn in passive and unthinking ways we tend to consider as 'our nature'. sexual behavior is also a learned behavior due to what we see around and some mechanisms that are easy for us to acquire. as I said before, men generally allow themselves too much, until they are so brainwashed that they think they can't behave differently. but fortunately that's not always the case. if you want to test this theory, try to do something you always thought you couldn't.

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

so you think that I'm so stupid that I would not see that you're merely using tricks on me...? well, just to refresh our memory on the names of some old-fashined values... they would start with honesty, sincerity, self-respect, living life with a deeper meaning in it... and of course, it all depends on which parties you're going to :) :).

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

actually pretty easy. the trick is that you don't have to play any tricks. these things just show, whether you want it or not... to those who are attentive enough to see them - meaning to the right ones :).

Life / Polish Film World and Poland Movie Reviews [30]

Can we discuss some movies here? For example I've seen a movie lately, I don't know how old it is, the name was "Dwa tygodnie z zycia mezczyzny" ("Two weeks in a man's life") with that funny guy.. I forget his name. And I really thougth that that movie was one of the worst I've ever seen, so badly played and that guy should really stick to comedies. He was quite good in that movie where he dumped his family for some reason I forget again and became a monk... etc. That movie was actually sweet and funny. What do others think?

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Can you please give some names and reviews?

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

actually quite the opposite :), may I ask what you do professionally?

Life / Polish Film World and Poland Movie Reviews [30]

Yes, it's "One week... ". Yeah, depressing movies is what Polish cinema is good at I would have to admit. What did you like about that movie? I thought that Stuhr was completely inadequate to the role he was playing.

Any other polish movies you liked?

Polish directors are very good, or at least we did have some good ones in the past. The actors though are so scarce that the couple there are play in all the movies heheh.

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

professional heartbreaker... so why exactly did you choose to hurt Polish women and not Russian? :)

Life / What is going on in Polish Music [128]

Thanks for the link, it's very good.

Yes, I've heard Myslovits.. this is what depressing really means hehe :) - j/k. I'm going to check out the other ones now :).

Life / Polish Film World and Poland Movie Reviews [30]

I like the movies where they explore some ideas or topics (can't really think of a good example though... :( ), I think that this is pretty unique to Polish cinema and well done.

What I don't like is when they show those people who only know how to complain and don't do anything to change what they don't like, but this is surely strictly connected with the communistic past. I really hope that people start to realize that and change a little...

I like Polish comedies, maybe because I grew up with them :). One that I really liked was "Chlopaki nie placza", I know it's an old movie, but so funny! Again, typical to Polish culture, but this time in a great, unique way, not sad and depressing.

Overall, I think that Polish cinema produces movies of great value, although not always the greatest technical quality. But the value alwasy wins :). I also like Kieslowski, very deep thoughtful type (not for every kind of mood though).

Hmmm.. do you have any new comedies to recommend?

I recently saw the movie "Vinci" and liked it :) I thought it had a nice combination of the (very much overdone) criminal though intelligently written plot with a nice, (finally) positive, optimistic tone! I saw it as a sign of improvement of the Polish culture - from the pessimistic, passive outlook on life, to a more optimistic and active attitude! Loved it :)

Life / What is going on in Polish Music [128]

Oh, I didn't know anything about Polish rap! hehe. Maybe one consoling thing is that other countries also copy American styles, even Germany. You'd be shocked (assuming you haven't been yet) how Germans americanize themselves, it's disgusting :).

Again, I'm going to ask for recommendations if you have any - I'm not a fan of jazz, but classical and even rap are welcome :).

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

now that I think about it, I'm wondering why do you spend time breaking people's hearts? did someone break yours so badly that you're still taking revenge for it?

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

Technically the wink was after "Russian girls", so I can't be sure which part of it was a joke :).

I would say learn your lesson and don't let people break your heart so easily, which would probably mean not falling in love with the wrong people and learning what it takes to build a good relationship. It may sound like something difficult to do, but in reality it's a great journey.

Yes, I have a boyfriend and I had one before him. I've tried to make sure I don't make the same mistakes twice, but every person is different so you can never know the formula... therefore all the work has to be done on ourselves, it's so exciting! :).

Life / What is going on in Polish Music [128]

Thanks for letting us know. Actually I don't really know Voo Voo, but anything techno sounds good to me :), we'll see what it actually is then... I hope it's not too depressing. Any special titles you remember?

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]


what kind of caveman wrote this message? :) (women, beware, don't talk with this guy!)

Rfx - don't let yourself be easily seduced (hard to do if you're looking at women as sex objects, react to them automatically and can "know" if you like them or not just by looking at them though).

It doesn't look to me as 'love at first sight' but infatuation based on sexual attraction (was she really that gorgeous...?) - how could you have thought that a relationship based on that will be long-term and fulfilling?

You are left alone again? Means that you never learnt your lesson, maybe you never thought that there is more for you to learn, or that your assumptions might not have been right... It is easy, the only hard part is to realize that YOU must change your attitude... or expectations.

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

my boyfriend is a lucky guy? but you don't even know how I look... but he's definitely a great guy (as far as I got to know him).

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

He definitely thinks he's a lucky guy as well as I know that I am a lucky girl :). But you - should learn NOT to miss things! :). Maybe it's a rude way to say this, but I hope you don't expect your genitals to satisfy your heart.

As long as my avatar goes... don't make too many assumptions, although I definitely have a sense of beauty and style :). It's sad that you think that our youth can be shallow and empty... :(.

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

did you mean "healthy the guy..."?

It's not that I "know how to make him happy" - he's not my son or I'm not his slave. We are happy because we can understand each other and want the same things. Neither of us is using any tricks to do that, we are just ourselves which is so amazing that you would never want anything else!

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

of course we are similar. and in the 'different' parts we are learning from each other.

Love / Polish Girls vs Russian Girls [813]

Take care and good luck to you.

Life / What is going on in Polish Music [128]

Oh, cool. I'm going to search for them. Shame how little I've known about Polish music :).

Life / What is going on in Polish Music [128]

Thanks for the links. I couldn't make them work, but I found the clips on a different web site. I always liked Gawlinski, I'm sure you know the song "pijemy za lepszy czas..", although I don't understand why we have to drink for the better times... but somehow the song has this nice optimistic light tone which I like :).