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aphrodisiac   
21 Dec 2009
Love / Opinion from Polish men on this please (Polish men so 'spiritually' romantic?) [43]

Here are some red flags I have noticed:

Hello guys :-) I need serious answers to this, please. So we're in love, about to be engaged (As he says) after a month of knowing each other, 24/7 talking, spending time together, etc.. However, I chose not to sleep with him (He is Polish but has been in the U.S. more than 1/2 his life), not until after the marriage - This has always been by principle. He told me he's "going to wait forever" but I'm afraid, with how super nice he's been treating me, I might just give in, omg!!! It's so difficult because he is really so romantic and the kindest man I have ever met! Are most Polish men so 'spiritually' romantic?He made me fall for him ... I feel I can tell him anything under the sun and he will still have undying admiration for me just as well. He seems to really want a productive future for both of us as he shares plans and ideas a lot on how we will live our lives together. How will my Polish Misiu react or what would he think if I start to keep a distance first so I can 'hold up' until well, marriage. Likewise, he could also just be 'leading me on' to marriage to get me to bed ...

It sounds too intense, obsessive, unreal and too perfect. Something is up.

You have only known him for ONE month and you are planing his life with him. I would SLOW down and start thinking what YOU really want.

He seems to be a good player because he sounds to perfect. There is not such a thing as a perfect person, so be careful because you are living in a fairly tale land for now.

Maybe he is working so hard on you because you are a challenge (don't want to have sex before marriage). It seems that he is succeeding in "breaking" your defenses down.

I hope I am wrong.
aphrodisiac   
20 Dec 2009
History / Polish hatred towards Jews... [1290]

Poles are no more antisemitic than Americans are racist, Swedes are anti-Arab and Germans are Nazis.

there you go:). Does that make it right in your way of thinking? It does not in mine. In my earlier posts (which you criticized with passion) I tired to explained the dynamics of racism and hate, but you dismissed it because I am not a full blown Polish, because that fact disqualifies me in your eyes as a legitimate person with grounded facts/opinions.

I was discussing this with a colleague and he said that they will paint themselves as tolerant when the cameras are on but, amongst themselves, will say sth different. Please don't take this as a slight, it's just what many natives here have said and noticed.

therefore, an outsider's opinion might actually bring something valid to the table.
aphrodisiac   
20 Dec 2009
History / Polish hatred towards Jews... [1290]

Am I not one of them?

I don't think so. Neither am I:). But you are right, the small number of Poles who post their anti- Semitic drivel is no way a representation to the whole Polish society.

If you are indeed tolerant, then you should be OK.
aphrodisiac   
20 Dec 2009
History / Polish hatred towards Jews... [1290]

Your profile states that you speak SOME Polish, therefore you are hardly an expert when it comes to Poland or opinions of people who live in Poland EVEN if you might be Polish GENETICALLY. Also statements like...

I don't have to be fluent in Polish to understand the comments happily provided by many Poles on PF as a proof of their anti- Semitism. Those statements are enough for me to come to conclusion that those Poles who post against Jews here ARE indeed anti- Semitic in their way of thinking. They provide more then enough evidence about their hate.

Presuming that I need to be full blown Polish with speaking it fluently the language and living on Poland in order to understand the Polish way of thinking is a really flawed argument on your part. A contra - argument: real Polish people who live in Poland might not be able to understand the way of thinking of their fellow country men for many reasons. Therefore being Polish (living in Poland and speaking Polish) does not guarantee the ability to understand anything. Don't you agree?:)

...automatically make me lose respect for people who say them and makes me sure that they are not knowledgable about the way of thinking of Poles.

I was mainly referring to Polish posters on PF, full blown Poles, who are after all the representatives of the Polish society. As for loosing respect on your part for me having an opinion, which is grounded on a large number of posts of PF- well, that is really not an issue for me, but a proof that maybe I have touched on something that is still painful for some Poles to admit.

I have never claimed that all Polish people are anti- Semitic. Some have simply too little exposure in order to develop any real antagonism. Those who are have probably had little exposure as well, considering the fact that the majority of Jew residing in Poland prior to WW2 are not longer there. Therefore, the image of the Jew in Poland has little to do with reality.
aphrodisiac   
18 Dec 2009
UK, Ireland / Posting from UK to Poland....not good! [53]

I understand that the NIK is now investigating whether the Pope is Catholic and after that they'll be looking at whether bears sh!t in the woods.

he, he, so true. I have used the post office in other countries and have little memory of it, yet with Poczta Polska I still have stories to tell. Not a good one either.

Grrr.........
aphrodisiac   
16 Dec 2009
Life / Russian Language - is it offensive if I speak it to Polish people? [69]

i do not understand what you are speaking about :)/

I know what you are saying and my post was not intended to disregard Russian culture. You are Russian, so it only makes sense that some people will be happy to speak some Russian to you and mention that they learnt Russian and school and so on. You cannot disregard the fact the Poles HAD to learn Russian at school, so there maybe some people, who would not want to use that language as a way of communication, unless they had no other choice. However, the OP is NOT Russian, but an English speaker, so it would make sense that he would be trying to communicate in his own language. I think that he was trying to find out if those two languages are similar, so he can communicate in Russian with Poles more so then in English. They are not that similar, but I guess OP will find out once in Poland.

just my 2 cents:)
aphrodisiac   
15 Dec 2009
History / Polish hatred towards Jews... [1290]

I really hate it when two non-Poles discuss how Poles think.

If you were referring to mine and MG exchange then you are wrong. I am Polish and I think that you might find my thinking not congruent with yours, therefore your logic is flawed here.

If you meant somebody else, then please disregard this post.

Thanks and all the best.

Besides, in the past I accommodated the Polish anti-Semitic way of thinking but it just DID not sit well with my values, so I gave myself some time to think about it, had some exposure to Jewish people and I came to the conclusion and I am not anti- Semitic at all. See, once we are grown- ups , we can make a decision to come to our own conclusions, instead of repeating what other say/think.
aphrodisiac   
15 Dec 2009
History / Polish hatred towards Jews... [1290]

That's why it just should simply stop...But if I guess if you ask the average Pole on the street, you will hear that he doesn't hate Jews (that much).

I agree, however some people will have the tendency to discuss the topic.
I mostly avoid those discussions because I have made peace with the issue a long time ago and have my own way of looking at it.

All the best:)
aphrodisiac   
13 Dec 2009
History / Polish hatred towards Jews... [1290]

If there would be no more Jews, then they would take it out on some other ppl, I know. I seem to have to get peace with the fact that there are still ppl that think like that - "us" against "them". It helps, but it's still a primitive thought. Guess they lack some serious brainpower there.

Well, there are hardly any Jews in Poland at the moment, so they cannot even defend themselves and when they try, they are accused of creating the Holocust industry and benefitting from it. How awful of them!!!!

"Us" against "them" functions well in an unequal type of dynamics. Some Poles are envious of the Jewish success, but unaware of the fact that for centuries Jews were suppressed and served as scapegoats to many nationalities, so they finally deserve to have a break and live like everybody else. Most Jewish I met work very hard.

So, it is NOT about Jews but about how some Poles feel about their lives. I don't think it has anything to do with being primitive, but rather being unaware of their own weaknesses.

I hope this helps:)
aphrodisiac   
12 Dec 2009
History / Polish hatred towards Jews... [1290]

M-G (there are too many sick anti-semites on this forum, unfortunately)

you have just discovered that. This place is a breading ground for anti- Semitism if one is not careful.

MG - what would those people do with their lives if they did not have a Jewish scapegoat to fall on. I know that you find it annoying being half - Jewish but you need to see the dynamics behind it.

I hope this helps:)
aphrodisiac   
10 Dec 2009
Off-Topic / PF - The Omnibus Edition [1502]

Not true. M-G just has been very busy lately at work, and since that is producing my flow of income it's only natural that this has a somewhat higher priority than writing in the PF omnibus at the moment. Don't worry, I will be back. You always have to wait the longest for the best things

you just repeated what I already have said. What is the point?

Maybe because they found out that not the entire universe revolves around them?

sounds like a generalization to me and there was a time when there were some annoying males posters who would come just to bash females on PF. So.......we have a different take on the same issue.

Feminists believe it's always mens fault. Nevertheless, we are higher primates and with a little meditation and self-control, any person (man or woman) can control themselves within reason.

it is incredible that you always find a way to preach about your agenda Zimmy. I would agree with the statement you made, but unfortunately it has nothing to do with the "abusive" behavior some women experienced on PF. Is any abuse justified in your opinion?
aphrodisiac   
8 Dec 2009
Feedback / Editing time too short (5 minutes currently) [60]

All I could really suggest there is to use the preview button to proof-read before you post.

I did to be honest. I will have to improve my editing skills.

I doubt the edit time will change but maybe if you speak nicely to Admin he'll change it. ;)

It would be nice if it was longer, especially when writing Omnibus entries. I usually write it as a separate document, then once it is ready, I copy and paste, but this time around I did not. However, if I am the only one having this problem I don't see a reason why the editing time should be changed.

even if it was 15 mins then if you are the last person to post, you cannot post again until somebody else has.

I know:). Thanks Torny and PD.

well, I was wondering if ADM would consider EXTENDING the editing time to 30 minutes.

This is not the first time that I was to edit my post and I am denied the access. Please, consider the change ADM, it would make the posting much easier.
aphrodisiac   
7 Dec 2009
Off-Topic / PF - The Omnibus Edition [1502]

oh, so now I can edit:
should be One Flew over the .....

fight in the sand. Good old times and takes Ksysia (shrug) for bringing them back.

should be: fight in the sand box. ....and thanks Ksysia......

spot on

it must be it:)
aphrodisiac   
7 Dec 2009
Feedback / Editing time too short (5 minutes currently) [60]

I don't know if this has been discussed here before but.....
I know that the editing time is 15 minutes. Well, when I went over, I decided to correct my post by creating another post, YET the forum does NOT allow me. It does not make sense.

Looking forward to your explanation.

aphro:)
aphrodisiac   
30 Nov 2009
Off-Topic / PF - The Omnibus Edition [1502]

It isn't mine either. But yet I think I do pretty well.

yes.

And besides, Charlotte handed me the scepter some time ago. He recognizes true competition.

he did? When? I must have missed that.

Tomorrow or Wednesday there will be a part 2. Depends a bit on how busy I am tomorrow - had a long weekend again and work tends to pile up if I do, I know from experience :S

Take your time, after all it is about quality as well.

You will be in it too, don't know how and when, but you will :)

Oh, NO!!!!!!!!!!

MINI - OMNIBUS ***

It looks like the post has been deserted by Szar again. Now I know he has a pattern. I am probably the last one to notice.

***


MG's writing career on PF was a false alarm

MG has produced one part of Omnibus and promised another one. So far we have not heard from him. I think he is NOT coming back anymore because he found out that writing is work and since he is not getting paid, he is not going to bother. It is a pity because he was easy target to tease and now I have to find another "victim".

DTaylor resurfaces

Our Scottish friend "beammed" or "transported" himself to Ireland all the way from Krakow. He either likes challenges or did something in Krakow and he is NOT telling us about it. Some kind of Polish brigade had something to do with his departure, or he simply dated all the available women in Krakow and the supply has dried up. We will never know. He is not telling us. I am sure that speculation is much more interesting then the truth.

What is new.

Not much. Lodz is creating more redundant threads - the latest one is about tigers and I don't even want to ask him what is coming next.

PF women have matured (or getting more attention outside of the forum)

Wyspi has grown up and matured and does not call people names, unless she does and I don't read all her posts.
Justysia has calmed down too. In general, most women on PF have calmed down. It must be due to a smaller amount of annoying males who used to frequent this forum. Who knows. It is also possible that they just run out of steam. Not the women. The mucho-psychos.

Love is in the air again

Wildrover has found another Russian beauty but for some reason wants to meet her in the Ukraine. I guess Ukraine is the new love destination, since Paris and Venice have become things of the past. What about Petersburg or Mongolia?

Undeserved suspention

Southern FINALLY got suspended and we all know that if someone gets suspended on PF - it takes approximately 3 years or so. In other foras - it takes ONE word, or else - and they are NOT kidding. On the serious note about Southern: he reminds me of a person who has only one thing in his mind and we all know how Marquis de Sade ended up. Be careful young boy- the whole life is ahead of you and it is up to you if you want to be in, or out.

I know he is not going to listen but I had my pep talk

"One fly over the cuckoo nest" aka looney tunes on PF

It a a looney bin most of the time, but sometime we get lucky. Sometimes a non-suspecting intelligent poster decides to join the forum and it does not take him a long time to realize that this forum is indeed a scene out of the "One fly over the cuckoo nest". We are all here by mistake and the "nurses" and "doctors" are the ones who are crazy. Only we had enough instinct to find this island of sanity in the crazy world of cyber space. How smart and self -preserving we are.

Ksysia

every time I see her nick, I want to say Krysia because Ksysia feels rather strange for the Polish speaker. When I say Ksysia, I feel that suddenly I have regressed to times in the kindergarden, when I could only say Ksysia after I lost a tooth in the fight in the sand. Good old times and takes Ksysia (shrug) for bringing them back.
aphrodisiac   
30 Nov 2009
Off-Topic / PF - The Omnibus Edition [1502]

I think I am just as capable of writing a funny story as Charlotte is.

I would never try to compete with Mr Szar - the is Da one. Besides, English is not my first language, so why would I even try.

Charlotte is indulging his beerbelly in some hot, sub-tropical sun seeking inspiration (enter Viagra) as I understand it.

ata man. Well deserved:).

I think I am just as capable of writing a funny story as Charlotte is.

Who said you did not? ;). Looking forward to reading part 2;)
aphrodisiac   
30 Nov 2009
Off-Topic / PF - The Omnibus Edition [1502]

hey, nobody said that PF has a lot of objective posters:)

I will never ask Szar to write anything if he is in a non-creative mood. I will wait until the muse will strike him. Lesson learnt:)
aphrodisiac   
23 Nov 2009
Off-Topic / PF - The Omnibus Edition [1502]

where is Szar, I need some entertainment, please.
aphrodisiac   
17 Nov 2009
Off-Topic / PF - The Omnibus Edition [1502]

all right, all right. Why can people just drink what they like?
aphrodisiac   
17 Nov 2009
Off-Topic / PF - The Omnibus Edition [1502]

You really should try it if you get a chance.

if I get a chance. The question is: do I really want to. You should try coffee misto and you will NEVER go back. Promise;) mniam....mniam......
aphrodisiac   
16 Nov 2009
History / Polish hatred towards Jews... [1290]

If only you people would be indifferent to jews, this would be a better world, (and this would be a better forum.)

amen, I am tired of the merry go around anti- Jewish discussions and most Jews I have met were pretty, pretty good:). Some were actually very inspiring, so there you go. Am I lucky or maybe able to see beyond the nationality?

Some Poles look for the scape goat so they don't have to be responsible for their own shortcomings, things they screwed up and the list goes on, and on, and on......
aphrodisiac   
16 Nov 2009
Off-Topic / PF - The Omnibus Edition [1502]

M-G (still I'm gonna write it)

I guess there is NO stopping you at this point. Shoot away then.........
aphrodisiac   
16 Nov 2009
Off-Topic / PF - The Omnibus Edition [1502]

Is everybody allowed to participate?

ask Charlotte (oh, I am gonna get it for calling him that) - he is the boss here (or maybe I will be spared). There is no competition as far as I know. Does it mean we have to read more contribution from YOU????;)

Think of it as the cappuccino thread – all froth;

eh, no- cafe misto from Starbucks (with steamed soy milk to be exact) - mniam, mniam.......