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Maintenance for child born between Irish/Polish parents. [60]
Don't waste another breath or a minute of your time on this sub-human excuse for a man.
there must have been something between the OP and this man. Just continue the dialogue through a lawyer.
you were his plaything
before conception this may have worked both ways
If you take him to court for maintenance payments, he will have rights to your son. Remember he wanted the child ABORTED. Think what kind of low-life this sad excuse for a man is.
taking him to court is on behalf of the child. one has to pay to live in this world and the child has no means of income.
he may have a change of opinion and come to love his child, but it is the child who will decide if he (the father) should be included in his (the child's) life
If you allow this missing-link sub-human to infest your life again, you will be worse off.
if he is interested and keeps to an arrangement then things may be to the child's benefit.
if he doesn't show up the child will have at least 90% of the story.
Tell your son (when he is old enough) that his real Dad wanted him aborted.
there is no need to do this. we have no idea what the future holds and putting this barrier in the way will not help.
every thing is about the welfare and upbringing of the child. the parent's problems should be kept apart from this.
making this guy out to be an evil bastard is not going to help anybody involved. sensible dialogue about raising a child and responsibility are the way forward. but do it through a lawyer and the court system. that way the mother should get some peace of mind. And the child needs the door open in case he ever wants to meet his father.