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Ashleys mind   
6 Feb 2011
Australia / Difficult situation with moving (Australia-Poland) [37]

oz is a long way to go without a career.

So's Poland.

I understand that the cultural differences can take time to work through. If some case that could be an hour in other cases a life time, there is no rule.

And there are nooo immigrants here from European countries...? The country's full of them! The Euro-Aussies (Aussie-Euros - whatever!) didn't spring from the ground!

Australian's living abroad have to adapt too... maybe we're just better at it! If you can only be a man when you're living down the road from mummy, then you're not worthy of your wife's devotion...

I have seen many marriages fail that could have worked, IF the couples had discussed their problems and found solutions.

And some things aren't meant to work... no biggy! Why are marriages so sacrosanct? I mean we don't hold on to a business that's going down the gurgler or a President that shows ineffectual leadership... As far as I'm concerned we've all got a right to live and be happy... A few chances then you're out!

People *and* hearts have their limits. People are just afraid of saying goodbye.
Ashleys mind   
6 Feb 2011
Australia / Difficult situation with moving (Australia-Poland) [37]

Yeah my advice is... whatever she does, do it quick! Cause waiting around for him obviously isn't having the desired effect. (I think she stated this.)

And your advice is more qualified?? I mean I happen to have been in her situation (or very similar) and I *happen* to know what she's missing...

I don't know why people get married... probably because they want the wedding or because they got knocked up or something... But yeah love AND dreams are fairly inseparable...?

If I was agirlfromoz (which I am!) I'd be pretty irked, and feeling a little less than loved right about now. I mean you need dreams to keep the love alive, just like you need love to keep the dream alive...

Let's wait and see what she says about our imperfect advice shall we... I'm not claiming to have all the answers, but I do feel sorry for the girl who probably feels a bit foolish and desperate right now.

It just strikes me that Polish guys have an uncanny way of getting what they want... (Mummy's boys!)
Ashleys mind   
6 Feb 2011
Australia / Difficult situation with moving (Australia-Poland) [37]

Maybe you got married for the wrong reasons. Marriage is about love and spending your life together, NOT visas and passport. Looks like it is back firing in your face.

Don't be an arse. Marriage is about *both* parties and the dreams they both share... not some lazy arse procrastinator too unsure of himself to make an adult move to be with his wife.

And girlfriend... don't come here for advice... you'll only hear more b*llshit from Polish men too attached to mummy and concealed with Polish male pride to see any wood for the trees.

You know what you need to do. My advice is to treat it like a band aid... Rip it off quick!
Ashleys mind   
6 Feb 2011
Australia / Category 5 Cyclon Yasi approaching Queensland [23]

Well for me that sort of weather's going to pay the bills...

By the way, we've got some of Melbourne's sh1tty windy weather... A 6-day heat wave broken by a Southerly Buster.

*Sigh*... you can't have it all!

Lucky there are no more major cities in Australia... cause I think we've just about run out of weather extremes!
Ashleys mind   
6 Feb 2011
Australia / Difficult situation with moving (Australia-Poland) [37]

So let me get this straight... the guy has never stepped foot in *your* country...? Lame!

I'm afraid he won't budge girlfriend... Poles can be lazy too! (And thick headed...) the fact is you know what he's missing... but try telling him that!

You choose.. him or home? You married on the basis of the life you thought you'd have together. The future you both agreed on...? It's not fair that he isn't keeping his word. He has gotten too comfortable with you being there for him.

I had a similar problem... didn't marry thankfully, but there was always anticipation of spouse moving back to Aus with me after I had finished my studies, and that was agreed (and also one of the reasons I completed my studies in Europe...)

Yet he never showed any interest in the place (everything was about his country... Poland...) and when the time came, I was filling in the paper work for him! This was after 6 years of waiting...

Poles are very stuck on the place. If he won't budge then he's not ready to commit to a life with you if it means he has to sacrifice anything back home (which it sounds like you have done for him...) f*ck him. This has caused enough grievance for you... if he won't keep up his end of the bargain, how's he going to be with other situations where you have *both* come to an agreement about something? He'll be f*cking you around and wasting your time...

''You've been cheated oh so blind you laid it on the line, those twisted words of time...''

You want different things fundamentally... you can't give up everything for him indefinitely... that's not a relationship. And if he won't do for you what you have done for him then maybe there's some underlying malfunction with your marriage (sorry). There *has* to be an element of wanting the same things...

Tough and painful situation no doubt. But just cause he's European or Polish does not mean he knows what's best for both of you... and you can see where his prospects and commitments there extend for him... (not much of a go-getter is he?)

If you keep going the way you are your relationship will remain dictated by *his* wants... you are right to come back here and wait for him to decide once and for all what he's going to do about his word... Then *you* can take the next step. Cause *you* need to know one way or the other...

Ultimatums are a poor substitute for communication.

Yes but it seems in this case, she is being lied to...

Question: Do you love him?
Ashleys mind   
4 Feb 2011
UK, Ireland / Estimated number of Poles in Ireland thought to exceed 200,000 OR over 5% of population. [200]

it's time for you to pack up and go back where you belong and pest over there.

We might be on the same piece of land but we are definitely from different planets!

Most of the Poms are pests?

Using tax payers money in every possible way??

Are you educated girlfriend?

You sound too stupid to be true.
I'm only bad mouthing you sister cause you're a twit.

I belong where I'm entitled to stay.

You think I'm British origin? You think i'm not a citizen?? What do you know about me? Nada!

You sound like you know feck all about origin, nationality, history or when you're sounding like a racist fool.

What would sound good to you about now...? Hmmm. Let me guess... Yes, every individual with an Australian passport with a drop of Anglo blood is a tax bludger. Thank god for all you Poles coming over here and creatin all that revenue!

You do know who *discovered* this continent and broke it in...? And with whose blood sweat and tears the united states of Australia was founded??

I'm sorry but the crux of it is you are on British soil. (Politically speaking)
You better correct yourself sister, cause most of what you're enjoying now was established long before you got here by hard working Anglos. And the tax system which obviously serves people better than it does in your country of origin is a welcome relief to many...

If one doesn't need it, good on them. But your argument is biased on the basis that if you weren't capable of working here you probably wouldn't have been invited to stay...?

Don't look down your nose on Poms idiot. 70% of the people or more have English/ Scottish/ Irish/ Welsh ancestry. I fuckin hate your attitude. It lacks sense.

No-one would disrespect Poles like that if they were living within her borders... You've got the concept of assimilation all wrong.
Ashleys mind   
3 Feb 2011
UK, Ireland / Estimated number of Poles in Ireland thought to exceed 200,000 OR over 5% of population. [200]

1.

Who are you to judge Poles like that? Can you tell what's your nationality?

1.I spent plenty of time in Poland and many years around Poles. I can't stand the holier than thou crap spurted here and elsewhere that Poles work soooo much harder than anyone else in the countries where they migrate to. I will judge bullshit when I see it.

A hard working and *functional* work force should be able to raise a strong enough economy at home, no? Actions speak louder than words there, and facts speak for them self!

And, actually, I can have whatever opinion I want regardless of my nationality... it's experience and exposure that gives understanding...
I never was more aware of racist elitism than when I was living amongst Poles... fact!

2.

I live in Au long enough and did not meet one person of Polish origin who lives from benefits or is lazy like English (or from British origin) people are, here in AU.
Do you know that the most dirty suburbs in Australia are where Poms (people of English origin) usualy live. I was told this (by teacher) at my English classes ; it's not hard to find these places; most of these people live in government sponsored houses, are on benefits, doing nothing, except using drugs and alcohol.

2. What bollocks! What an interesting study: ''Dirtiest suburbs in Australia and the blood line of the people living there...''?!
See here you are making sweeping and favourable generalisations once again about Poles. PEOPLE do what they have to do in any circumstance to get by... or are Poles immune to these requirements??

Poles have other ways of adapting to difficult economic circumstances if benefits are not an option. These include staying at home, living off their parents when they are studying, getting jobs through their family or other connections, and until quite recently, giving bribes... How can you say that this doesn't happen?! Poor, righteous Poles...

An insecure immigrant with a superiority complex will try to overcome his/her situation by slagging off everything they can about the citizens of their adopted country... Poles have proved this time and time again. THEY ARE WHINGERS!

You lot have no problem insulting others, but can't take it yourself.

And I know what a f*cking Pom is...

3.

Look at Poles in Au, they are hard working people, they don't need benefits because they are too rich to even qualify for any help from government. Similarly, same with other nationalities, like Russians, Italians, Greeks, Serbs and many more.
Did you mean you don't like Poles because they know how to live their life, Ash?
I am sure it is why you and the like of you don't like this special skills about other nationalities.

3. You are making me laugh. Your generalisation now is basically completely anti-British in sentiment, in favour of just about every other European ethnic background that resides here. So now you're trying to create the dichotomy that "the original colonisers are no good but everyone else is better and more morally sound"... F*CK off!

You've missed the whole point of this country entirely... there is no "them" and "us"... if you're here, you're an Aussie. Don't bring your European segregation crap with you and get into your pathetic little comfort zone with (I've noticed) other Europeans...(no mention of Asians, Indians, or Iranians I noticed...) And learn some respect for the country that houses you.

I have no problem with your *skills* you're coming across as a typical rhetorical Pole.
Your world is so well controlled. You're not worthy of my time.

Yours is the typical lash out of an immature Pole against anything Anglo/ British whilst quite happily living in her countries and her colonies. F*ck off back to Poland. I've got no problem with Poles, but I *do* just treat them like other mortals... a fact you guys have a problem with with your trite superiority complex and *philosophy of the Slavs...* PLEASE! Save it! It stinks. And trust me, I'm qualified enough to know... ;)

I know plenty of lazy Poles... they live off their parents if they can't live off the state...

I will say this again... THERE ARE LAZY POLES. JUST LIKE THERE ARE LAZY PEOPLE FROM EVERY BACKGROUND... Just like there are alcoholic drunks and mischievous thieves from every nationality in the world (maybe not Innuits?)... DEAL WITH IT!

And I thought you guys had a sense of humour...? You can't if you take yourselves *that* seriously!!

God and even when you live in another country for 3 generations you still harp on about the importance of being Polish.... What is it with you guys...?! :S
Ashleys mind   
3 Feb 2011
Australia / Category 5 Cyclon Yasi approaching Queensland [23]

Damn Egypt for stealing our limelight! We only dominate 90% of the news... ;P

they were 2 years ago:

Yeah don't come here people, you'll either get burned, drowned, ripped apart, stung, bitten, poisoned, eaten, drongoed to death or attacked by a killer drop bear... think twice!
Ashleys mind   
3 Feb 2011
UK, Ireland / Estimated number of Poles in Ireland thought to exceed 200,000 OR over 5% of population. [200]

The reason why there are excessive poles in Ireland are because Ireland has a wacky liberal government which hands out welfare to poles and poles come to take advantage of and exploit Ireland.#
THe poles are not liked , wanted or respected in Ireland.None of the immigrants are. I live in Ireland and alot of the violent knife crime is committed by poles. They are a violent dishonourable peoples in the eyes of the Irish.

No need to over step the mark...

Why do u people boast about destroying a once lovely country.Now Ireland resembles a ghetto with all the eastern europeans, blacks, gooks and pakis. The country no longer exists...it has died. You should be ashamed of yourselves you horible racist, anti-semitic, greedy people.I hope immigrants come to your nation like you have come to ours...and THEY ARE AND THEY WILL!

I can imagine your feelings...
I would call it some sort of structural damage. It's not fair but it is unstoppable. The world is changing. Irish have immigrated for centuries... You yourself know that. That's the way the world is now... multicultural with an influx of third world people everywhere. The way the world was exists only on postcards now... I guess we just have to learn to get along, respect and contribute as best we can... So that future generations have a better chance of assimilating.

But for Poles to stand in critical judgement of their adopted homes just smacks of hypocrisy. They are too proud to admit all the reasons they left their beloved Poland and it makes them a bit schizophrenic... But catch them unawares and they will tell you alllll the reasons.

Immigrants are unfortunately, by nature, idealists. No place is perfect.
Ashleys mind   
3 Feb 2011
Law / Question about the drinking laws of Poland. [45]

America is not all about "slums" Ash. He stays there because he chooses to live in a Polish community, that's all. Whoever can afford it, doesn't live in the "jungle" like this in the states.
In smaller towns or in a countryside you don't see the kind of scenes he described.

I know Princess and I was only responding to his story... (I'm rational... just)

We all know you American's hold some very firm ideas about human etiquette... :)
Ashleys mind   
3 Feb 2011
UK, Ireland / Estimated number of Poles in Ireland thought to exceed 200,000 OR over 5% of population. [200]

Estimated number of poles in Ireland thought to exceed 200,000 OR over 5% of population.

And they're still the only English speakers I can understand... ;P

'what is Irish culture'

They like to go overseas a lot... ;P

You will for sure find some examples of lazy poles but compared to your own natives they ain't even close to living off "tax money".

God I can't stand trite Poles...

Go back to your country if you find anything lazy or distasteful about where you currently live...

I know plenty of lazy Poles... they live off their parents if they can't live off the state...

God, breathe some life into your mentality will you.

It's really hot...
Ashleys mind   
3 Feb 2011
Australia / Category 5 Cyclon Yasi approaching Queensland [23]

I hope they will not get one of those and try what this 'surfer' did.
They suffered enough.

Hooley dooley that is the stuff of nightmares! (Or wet dreams...) ;)
You'd have to be dead already to try that...
Ashleys mind   
3 Feb 2011
Law / Question about the drinking laws of Poland. [45]

Ok I'm 16 years old and going to Poland, when I get there I will be 17. Now I am pretty sure Poland has no set "drinking age" but you have to be 18 to purchase and I was just wondering how strict Poland enforces that law. Now I'm not just going to Poland to drink, I was just curious so keep that in mind.

Who waits til they're the legal age anyway pray tell???

It's too hot to keep this beer cool...
Ashleys mind   
23 Jan 2011
Love / Polish girls pretend to be sick and ill most of the time [35]

Unless they're the Doctors looking after your sick ass... ;)

What do you think guys?

Sorry they're all too sick to comment...

By the way... it's not a poem, you don't have to write it in stanzas.
Ashleys mind   
21 Jan 2011
USA, Canada / Moved back from Canada to Poland:). Here are the reasons why. [868]

Did you see that now in Poland your views have changed and gradually you move towards more european mindset?

Nooo... Keep her positive!! The weather is much worse in other parts of the world...! Take the North Pole for example... :S
Ashleys mind   
17 Jan 2011
Australia / Your new PM, A question for Aussies, and anyone living there. [20]

No,I precisly didnt want to talk about the floods,but seeing as its ended up in the austrailian section I thought Id better point out Ive been out my home because of a flood 3 years ago,Im not making light of whats been going on up north there.

Ok, so proceed to Prime Minister bashing again... (A brief conversation you'll find.) :S

No,its called making up someone else's "real but unwritten motives...." a bloomin everyday event around here,and tiresome .

Yeah, just here. They're *perfect* out there really... Reading between the lines even when the text is quite clear...!

God, imagine if we just all got along???
Ashleys mind   
16 Jan 2011
Australia / Your new PM, A question for Aussies, and anyone living there. [20]

If a PM for example, a man, is good looking he will have all the women's attention even if he's incompetent and really should not have that job. Have you ever seen women eagerly anticipating what some fat bald elderly politician has to say? ;)

The only example I can think of of a politician with debonnaire, is Sarkozy, and he is French.... That says everything about lust and politics in that country...

But men get ass because of power not irrespective of it. Look at that Italian clown - Berlusconi...
Ashleys mind   
16 Jan 2011
Australia / Your new PM, A question for Aussies, and anyone living there. [20]

But thats not too funny when its in the middle of the news reports about the terrible floods.

No it's not you heartless bastard...;P I guess it's better than her being attractive because then you'd be ogling... ;)

Either way you'd be scrutinizing.... She is after all a woman and *must* be put in the ugly or shaggable category... ;)

Could she not just be defined as a politician?
Ashleys mind   
16 Jan 2011
Love / Polish girls pretend to be sick and ill most of the time [35]

No, that's when they attend their monthly witch Covens in the woods... Srsly! Look there and you'll find them sacrificing males of any species... and smearing their bodies with blood. ;)