Genealogy / Looking for information, and history about my last name "Dajczak" [4]

olejow.pl/readarticle.php?article_id=601

This might help - hopefully? It's all in Polish I'm afraid, but the link is to a site grouping the Dajczak families from the area of Olejów, Podole. You can click on the family trees to enlarge them. Maybe some names will ring a bell?

Food / Polish flavored water that had to be kept under the sink? [4]

I'm glad I could help :-)

Food / Polish flavored water that had to be kept under the sink? [4]

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kombucha

I'm guessing this.

Genealogy / Relatives' Pictures: Do They Look Polish? [44]


Most Polish immigrants to the USA were quite eager to erase their ancestry. Though "Andruszkiewicz" kinda gives the game away in this case.

Genealogy / Relatives' Pictures: Do They Look Polish? [44]

How about we consider their names as well? Their names place them in Central / Eastern Europe, and their looks don't contradict that. There isn't much more we can say about them.

Genealogy / Relatives' Pictures: Do They Look Polish? [44]

The people in the other two pictures also look Central European to me.

Genealogy / Relatives' Pictures: Do They Look Polish? [44]

They look totally Central European. They could be Austrian, Hungarian, Polish, Czech, Slovak... Central European nations mixed for so many centuries that you can't really say which is which, genetically. My own family is a prime example - Czech, Belorussian Polish, Kashubian, East Prussian... and probably more that we don't know about.

Study / Multilingual School in Warsaw (English / Polish) [26]

XXXIII Liceum Ogólnokształcące im Mikołaja Kopernika, ulica Bema 76, Warszawa.
Their website seems to have crashed. They have a Wiki page but it's in Polish, does have all the contact details though.

I graduated from this school way back in 1986 and I highly recommend it :-)

pl.wikipedia.org/wiki/XXXIII_Liceum_Og%C3%B3lnokszta%C5%82c%C4%85ce_Dwuj%C4%99zyczne_im._Miko%C5%82aja_Kopernika_w_Warszawie

Genealogy / How can the surname Drzewiecki be both Jewish and Catholic? [37]


so all Polish surnames that do not come from Christian saints are Jewish? considering the majority of Polish surnames have nothing to do with Christian saints... maybe Poles simply ARE Jews?

Love / Massive problems with Polish mother-in-law [36]

some other relative's place maybe?

Love / Massive problems with Polish mother-in-law [36]

It's not a question of being Polish. It's a question of being crazy. The lady has some major issues. I would avoid her like the plague. I do feel for her son, too - she will always be his mother... :-(

Life / Is this a common way to be treated as a guest in Poland? [8]

The way you described it could have been anything from them snubbing you to them including you in their closest family circle. I would tentatively say that they were just going about their business and included you in their day as a matter of course. I would call the girl and maybe ask her about things I could do in town, places to see etc. If she is reluctant to help, that's a major clue. I'm sure you'll figure it out. PS Polish people tend to be very informal around people they a) like a lot or b) dislike a lot. So until you get in touch again, you'll keep on wondering.

Love / Do Polish guys tend to take things slow with regards to sex? [44]

Funny. This is the second thread in the last several days where you would expect mostly women to answer, but in fact the majority of posters are men. ;-)

Love / Do Polish guys tend to take things slow with regards to sex? [44]


What?

If my (limited, but still) experience is anything to go by, no, Polish guys do not tend to take things too slow ;-)

Ladies who asked about Polish men:
let me give you a piece of good advice: if a man behaves like he's shy or doesn't care, to the point that he actively avoids any show of affection, he probably is either very strongly religious (not a good thing, as he's overdoing it), or there is something wrong with him - either mentally or physically.

Shy, I can understand. But even the shyest guy will happily succumb if his date takes the initiative and he's interested. If, on the other hand, he moves away or God forbid runs away ;-) - you're wasting your time. There is a tiny minority of men who really and truly think that any sort of physical relationship is EVIL and should be avoided at all costs unless it's for having babies. These are the men you should not be trying to be with.

Love / Birth Certificate Questions (Polish rules require the mother to put down a Polish name?) [27]


However, this is neither here nor there as that is how the law works. There are plenty of totally outdated legal regulations both in the US and the UK, go and change those first. ;-p

Love / Birth Certificate Questions (Polish rules require the mother to put down a Polish name?) [27]

"W przypadku, gdy nie nastąpiło uznanie dziecka lub sądowe ustalenie ojcostwa – i nie zachodzi domniemanie, że ojcem dziecka jest mąż matki – do aktu urodzenia dziecka wpisuje się jako imię ojca – imię wskazane przez matkę (przedstawiciela ustawowego) dziecka. W przypadku gdy matka nie wskaże imienia – dziecko otrzymuje jedno z imion zwykle w kraju używanych, a w rubryce: nazwisko ojca i jego nazwisko rodowe – wpisuje się nazwisko rodowe matki."

That's what the Polish law says on the subject. In cases where paternity had not been admitted or legally established, and the mother is not married, the given name of the father in the birth certificate is the given name declared by the mother; if the mother does not provide a given name, the registrar will use a typical Polish given name instead. The mother's surname and family surname is used in the birth certificate instead of the father's surname and family surname. So it seems the OP's girlfriend did everything by the book.

Life / "You are 100 years behind Blacks" - this old Polish saying [29]


Like what?

Language / The OPPOSITE of Polish diminutives [5]


I beg to differ:

nochal, nosisko, wąsiska, oczyska, psisko, mięcho, brzuszysko, dupsko, poliki, łapska, paluchy, plery, buciska, szklanica, butla, piwsko, wińsko, pała, fryz, zębiska, jęzor, zielsko... I could go on...

UK, Ireland / Advice on child support (Irish with my Polish husband) [106]


I suggest you read the OP's posts, starting with the first one, all over again. Very carefully. It seems you have gotten a bit lost in the sequence of events.

UK, Ireland / Advice on child support (Irish with my Polish husband) [106]


The judge will be definitely interested in the fact that she has been denying him access and turning the child against him.

UK, Ireland / Advice on child support (Irish with my Polish husband) [106]


And who sets the child against the father? Who doesn't allow the father access to the child? In an ideal world, the father could take his son for holidays or participate in other ways in his upbringing. I must say I kind of see where the father is going with lowering the amount he pays. If the mother pretty much acts as if the child wasn't his (denying access / poisoning the son's mind), how can she expect the father to simply sit there and take it? If I were in a similar situation, I would probably consider decreasing payments just to get the mother's attention. If you want child support, let there be a child for the father to support. She doesn't even want the kid to call his father "dad" for chrissakes.


When and how?


No, he was angry at the mother for doing everything to make his own child hate him.


I never said incredibly profitable - I said not of the poorest. It so happens I have friends who live in the country (not rich people from a city who just moved there) and I can assure you that living in a village is not that financially demanding. Most of the food you eat comes from your own or a nearby farm. Lots of things are traded by barter. Strictly financial outlays are few and far between.

UK, Ireland / Advice on child support (Irish with my Polish husband) [106]


You seem to have a lot of mysterious "friends". And this one - is he single and childless by any chance?

Stop lecturing people you know nothing about on the ways they should change their lives of which you know exactly nothing about. If the ex-wife in Poland is so worried about her child's welfare, she could also do extra work or move out of her parents' house and go to the big city yada yada yada. What I suspect though is that she is sitting pretty, no bills or rent to pay, free childcare (courtesy of grandpa and grandma / other relatives) plus she works in the family-owned shop. So I doubt the family is of the poorest. I am sorry, but just sitting on your backside and harassing your ex for money while cutting off contact (in disregard of a valid court ruling mind you) and setting the child against the father is not the proper way to go about things. We have not a lot of details to go on, but even from what we know it is obvious that the father in Ireland is struggling a lot more (for whatever reasons) than the mother in PL.

UK, Ireland / Advice on child support (Irish with my Polish husband) [106]


1) He's not "living the good life"
2) His ex-wife and child do not suffer

that much is abundantly clear from the OP's posts.


There you have it - certificates, probably obtained after attending a course for which you need to pay. Am I right? While he faffs around on courses and pays for certificates, how is he supposed to support any of his children?

He probably needs to work every single day just to earn the bare minimum they need to survive.


Then you could really try harder. I'm serious.


Maybe at the time they had a better income? You can't always predict everything. I know I haven't had a decent year financially since at least three years ago. But three years ago I was optimistic and it seemed things could only get better.

It's bedtime for me. You be good now. No more irrational anger and frenzied outbursts of high-horsed righteousness, please. It was painful to read. Goodnight!

UK, Ireland / Advice on child support (Irish with my Polish husband) [106]


Oh but there is, and I am not making this up. Some of the logic of course must come from the judge, but the system isn't as biased as it is sometimes shown to be.


Well, then do a good deed and help the OP's husband contact that friend so that he can start work on an oil rig. It isn't that simple? I thought it wasn't.

UK, Ireland / Advice on child support (Irish with my Polish husband) [106]


And presumably spend any money he might have on the move, right? That's a very smart suggestion. :-/
In the current economic climate the most one can do is try to keep the job they do have. Also, if he pays 350 PLN the ex-wife should pay the same, I think spending 700 PLN a month in total on a child under 10 is more than enough.

Life / The Polish work ethic - or the lack of it [23]


Exactly. They either made an informed choice or are bad at business, if the latter is true they will know soon enough. But whatever the reason, you don't need to get upset about it. You still bought what you wanted, end of story.

Just leave them be, mother Nature (or rather mother Market Economy) will take her course. They did not take anything away from you or harm you in any way. Even if they did make a huge mistake, it will be a valuable lesson for the future. On the other hand, they might have kept their shop open in similar situations in the past and lost money that way. Who knows? But they still got the long weekend off, and that's what counts ;-)

Life / The Polish work ethic - or the lack of it [23]

So, you don't have to bust your ass, but those you perceive to be "poor" or "struggling" - must, just to make you happy and give you that priceless feeling that all's right with the world. In other words, the smaller store(s) annoyed you by choosing to enjoy a long weekend when you wanted to bestow on them the huge honour of buying several złoty's worth of computer odds and ends.

Life / The Polish work ethic - or the lack of it [23]


Believe me - most other people have also taken the day off, and ethernet cables are not uppermost in their mind ;-)

Life / The Polish work ethic - or the lack of it [23]


You've hit the nail on the head. They probably want the day of rest if they can get it. That's one of the perks of being a small business. I never ever work on weekends or bank holidays either.

Life / Going to Poland in a hijab - Polish people and Islam [154]

Don't worry about it at all. Some people might assume you are having chemo. So they might give you sympathetic glances. Others will think you have a quirky sense of fashion. Still others will know you are Muslim and why the head covering, because they'd seen Muslim women before. A tiny percentage of the latter might voice their opinion or ask you a question out of curiosity. Overall, I think you'll attract much less attention than a European girl with an uncovered head and "normally" dressed would cause in a Muslim country.