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Have been living with my Polish girlfriend. Moving the relationship forward, what now? [18]
No one on this forum could tell you what your girlfriend thinks and expects of you, there is not a one rule fits all solution, for Polish women.All women are individual.
Pretty much THIS ^ OP And as also mentioned by Pam; you will have to talk it out before you get any deeper in for sure. Do you both a favor and if you don't want kids or marriage ...admit it now. And make her admit her expectations now.
The average "good" girl may stretch her traditonal upbringing rules and live with you a while but will indeed be expecting marriage if all is well. Specially a person wishing to have children.Specially a catholic.
There are "enlightened" or fiercely independent sorts who are ambivelent on marriage..... no shoe fits every foot.
I think marriage is a good thing, the ultimate partnership and declaration of mutual trust. And a very important foundation for children
But as the proverb "marry in haste-repent in leisure". Seems you have had quite some time. And you still have to ask us? Why do you care what is average for your friends. What do YOU want? what does SHE?
If your beloved isn't religious, or is, that's all that matters
? if your beloved shares or accepts your religious belief *fixed*
Be certain you really KNOW what each others beliefs are and what is in the intolerable zones. I dumped a pleasant if lackadasial bf for not being catholic enough... Twice. And though not a bad person unlike a few previous I finally admitted the problem for my case was not being true to myself. I will never put myself thru the unnecesary falures again. It was more than simply belief in God. it was values, ethics, morals, and traditions. Many mesh but some don't severely.
I always let them know up front that marriage and children were in my portfolio plan. They all said no problem til it was payup time. Excuse for wasting years of my life? "but I'd have lost you if I said I didn't want kids or marriage right away" Um DOH! yes! but it means they never found ME to start.
Mr. lackadaisy said "If I had known marrriage was that big a deal to you I would have asked you long ago" this after 2 years in same house and having asked for "space" 4 months previous.I guess he didnt think I'd leave him for the same reason as when we were 19 because? <_< and it WAS restated in the second chance as am expectation from me.
, "liberals" can't
<_< I am not liberal in any way ...democratic in some. But most my Democrat family consider me a hobnail stomping right winger.
I am catholic. I had my eldest child at 30. I am about to start an entirely new family (my famly has loooong lives).No more grey hair than when I was 16.
Most my exes were bald by 40 ^_^ never had to worry about grey.
Though I would suggest people who know they want kids to start earlier when you dont usually really have much of a career to interrupt and have them out of house before you retire .
think 'liberals' secretly think grandparents are a threat - which could be called control freakery ...
0_0 more would I blame today's youth culture and the "ME" generation than of either side of center; they don't want to BE grandparents. And called............lol wut?
