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Poles close to grandparents [32]
I find your statements here very inapt. Of course some pathologies happens but generally, in healthy families, grandkids feel a genuine love towards they grandparents and care about them.
Sadly, it's true. If they loved and cared about them, they'd sell the flat and use the money to make sure that their grandparents live the rest of their days in comfortable surroundings. Let's say a typical flat in a city, worth around 300-400k. That's more than enough money to buy a smaller, modern flat and the rest of the money used to equip it with all sorts of things to make an elderly person's life better. And when they get too old, enough money left to make sure that they are always looked after.
But it doesn't happen. Why?
What?! Are you kidding? Sending grandma to a retire house (or however you call such institutions) is considered as not caring about elders. You live in Poland and don't know such basic things? Besides that no older person would like to move out a flat/house they had been living in for the last 50 years!!! Again I see you have very limited constact with elder people, don't you? How many times do you see your grandparents?
Yes, sadly, it's seen as not caring. It then leads to elderly people being trapped in their wholly unsuitable flats, because the children are just far too busy to look after the mother - and anyway, the grandkids are grown up now and don't need looked after. And as for them not wanting to move out - really, how much is "not want to" and how much is some sort of social pressure to leave the flat to the grandkids?
What is a "communistic invention"? Grandparents?! Moderator should look at this statement as a personal attack or a provocation. How long provocating other users to make them outburst will be tolerated on this forum?
This "Grandfather day" and "grandmother day". Communist invention, and hilariously used by people nowadays. It's actually shocking to see how much of the Communist mythology seeped into the Polish public consciousness - people know to oppose May 1st, but they seem to be totally clueless about these days and many other Communist inventions, such as "Women's day".
I agree with you completly. I can't even count how many times I asked myself this question. This situation often makes me think about quiting membership on Polish Forums.
There's the door.
No surprise as grandparents help raise their grand kids. The comment about the flat is also true though.
What's interesting is that you can actually see a lot of problems in Polish society caused by children who are raised by the grandparents - one psychologist I know actually advocates the grandparents taking no part in the actual caring of children. I'm sure we've all seen the maniacal Babcia who wraps the child in ten million layers on a boiling hot day.
I'm glad my babcie i dziadki aren't alive today to see the mass westernization, followed by corruption, taking place in their beautiful old slavic country. And worst yet, how the young Poles today are completely endursing it.
Corruption?
They must have never left the farm if they didn't see the vast amounts of corruption in the PRL!