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Family, Community --> Society "The Polish Way" [29]
I don't agree with you. I don't have any problems with women working as a norm
I'm not saying that women shouldn't work in industries, or even lead them. They can ofcourse, if the household really needs another income, she is the one to stand up (to keep the family functioning). If she is a single mother, ofcourse... all I am saying is about THE BASIC PRIORITIZATION OR ROLES ... what you keep before what! ... in this way, family and values must come before income generation (whose role is to keep the family at a functioning level, and not just raise the standard of living at any cost, even if it costs the basic role or values of a family as a unit).
Tell me why she needs to do a part time job when she can in that time manage the micro economic activities of the household? The child? Also, play a very important role in the broader society in many activities which are always missing among us.
Woman are the first educator of tomorrow's generation. Grand parents can be helpful, but they cannot take the place of parents. They've done their part with you, now its your business with your children.
To put better values in the hearts of children starts from their birth, with both the parents being effective in their roles (which also evolve with time), and take care of the bringing up with close supervision till they are 18 or sometimes 20 even. Day care or elderly grandparents cannot do what PARENTS can do. I know it ... thats why I am saying this.
"girls' night out", "lads' night out", separate bank accounts, me and you mentality ... or even worse 'marriage = social death so don't do it until you're 30'.
Complete agreed. But this is the consumerist media playing its role.
Some really mean and greedy forces at work around the world try to play many cards to feed their same old greed (e.g. consumerism). By trying to frame that "Homemaking or family management ... or the management of the micro economy at the foundation of culture and society" is not actually a work. In this way they can use this entity (the female) for their purpose of increased greed and consumerism. By indoctrinating them with the idea that income is the only achievement of freedom, and through this what can they do better? ... OFCOURSE... consume :). Consumer more, keep purchasing. Inflate the bank accounts of the ever expanding Corporation, and eventually, being intoxicated (addicted) to this ever increasing and never ending lust for more - if necessary - even sell you last portion of the VALUE framework.
Ever seen a badly addicted boy, in drug? ... Even if he/she had great values once (ofcourse which he couldn't hold, perhaps due to lack of many variable which if I discuss will expand our discussion unreasonably), they finally succumb and resort to many wrong doing for the drug. This is the fate of anyone so badly addicted, and over-emphasis of money and career (a bad sense of prioritization of the elements of life) can also cause equal or worse forms of addiction. Almost in a similar way as Judas kissed Jesus (and Judas was a great follower) for the sake of money and other intangible facilities of material value to him (this ofcourse is a very epic and extreme example due to various other variables - however, I feel, still relevant).
Male and Female are both equal, non-uniform, wonderful creation of God. Both have similar as well as specific spiritual, material and mental attributes. We both complete each other in all the dimensions of life, and then this union brings a miracle :). I think, this miracle (child) is the trust of God, also the sign of His love for mankind.
Now, as we unite ... it is only in our favor, and the favor of everything good/Godly ... to manage family, society and values in the best way possible. For that, we need earnings aswell ... but the other elements of life cannot go down the drain. While the highest priority can never be mistaken ... which is so obvious ... FAMILY, SOCIETY - and thus the evolution of Civilization in the Right direction.
Bread is in the mouth of lion. Would you prefer the woman to take it or yourself?
I don't believe in your saying. Sorry.
Infact, the term "bread winner" is also very stupid term by the English I think. There is nothing extraordinary in playing the role of a supplier of finances into the micro economy of the family. The family's economy is to be managed by the wife - in consultation with the husband. She is a great and equal player in the household ... and the "money" don't make a lion or a cat out of anybody. He doesn't win the world by earning ... he just plays his role and nothing else.
