I guess I am unamerican in the fact that I would gladly take care of my parents and would much rather do that than put them in a nursing home.
not taking care of parents has nothing to do with american.
the fact remains.. and i having first hand experience at it that taking care of someone
who is sick is a 24 hour job..
me and my two brothers and neice all took wonderful care of my mom.. but it was
extremely stressful, we all have jobs and me and my niece having kids.. you dont
want the kids to see grandma or grandpa suffering all the time.. even though they
wanted to help, it was extremely hard on them when i was gone for 8 hours to
work then another 8-10 taking care of mom and going home to sleep, and catch
up on my housework and shopping and other things neglected.
and if your parent is completely disabled and no longer able to move and completely
bedridden and it takes two to four people to lift them because they are heavy, or
have edema ( holding water) and swollen.. no one even knows till they have crossed
that bridge.. so stop throwing stones.. nursing homes were created by people who
obviously seen the stress and pressure one family goes thru just to care.. and if
its only a husband and wife who have no children and the wife has some type of
ailment how on earth can she provide care for her husband who is completely disabled?
nursing homes are not anything we want to do.. Ive worked in them and let me tell
you that the families are grief stricken and guilt ridden.. times have changed to where
jobs that take you out of town make it impossible for someone to be home,,
some are only children with no help etc..
* throws back the stones*
its not fair to make such a statement without knowing.. thats all.
FYI I did take care of my mother till she died. it was the hardest time of my life..
and we did finally have to have someone come to our home to give us some
relief to work and take days to catch our breath.. I dont wish anything bad upon
anyone, but its harder then people realize once that bridge comes.
Ps.. i would just like to add that the cost of home care is extremely high and
its a out of pocket expense.. so most do not have the funds to have home care
and have no choice but to use a facility that provides 24 hour care and accepts