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My polish ex threatens to commit suicide after separation


Randal 1 | 577  
27 Mar 2009 /  #31
she thinks you love her, perhaps you said something that sparked this or made
her believe it was more then what was intended .. ...
did you lead her on till you seen something better?

Of course he did. Guys say whatever they have to...
Wroclaw Boy  
27 Mar 2009 /  #32
this thread is basically a look at me
Patrycja19 63 | 2,699  
27 Mar 2009 /  #33
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don't blame him for that loose cannon. is that how you took rejection?

excuse me, but I have seen alot of men and women go thru similar circumstances
and most of the time the relationship was basically a joke, whether it was the
his or her fault , someone didnt communicate well enough to say, Im not dating for
a relationship. I just like companionship.. and Im not looking for long term.. if he
would have used these words to begin with who knows what would have happened
but I believe she thought he cared more about her, and she must have wanted more
and thought he was the one.

thats why I am asking, did you tell her in the beginning southern that all your really
looking for is female companionship or did you woo her till you got her in bed and
now your in a circumstance that could have been avoided by simple communication?

men and women both do this to each other , it happens, you just dont feel the
attraction and for southern he apparently only feels the physical part of it, I have
a friend who was so in love with my hubbys best friend, he liked getting the cake
but as far as goin any further, he didnt feel that way about her. it sucked to be
in the middle of it, she loved him deeply, and would do anything in the world for him
but of course he only wanted to keep her around for the sexual part of it.

when she wanted to "talk" he would say the things she wanted to hear, and keep her
mind flowing with lies, and then few days later same old thing again, I really dont like
you that way, so she would move on, and at some point did have someone living with
her, but again, he played the cool mystery dude and she fell hard again, or let her
guard down.. and this happend like 5 or 6 maybe even more times I dont know anymore
because we dont live close so its over for good now, but to this day, she still loves
him and the feeling was never mutual.

I could understand his feelings ,that he wasnt attracted.. but I didnt respect how he
handled it, he kept it going, give little hints that he might like her, then not give her
a second glance the next time he was over, then do it again..

then he would say to me, dont get involved, but he would do it at my home, I said well
then dont do it over my house.. you involve me when its my friend your hurting
constantly over and over..

and then I would hear, well ,she keeps attacking me. and yes women do this, because
some might think thats the only way to keep the spark alive..

as for your question of how I handled rejection. like anyone else, sulk for a day or two
then pick myself up and move on.. but I would still have the questions in the back of
my mind of what did I do wrong? why? and this is the same question men and women
ask when a relationship goes wrong and you still have strong feelings for that person.

anyway. my ten cents <~added few extra cents for inflation reasons.. :)
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384  
27 Mar 2009 /  #34
not true.

True. To cut your wrists correctly one needs to sever the tendons. If you manage this with the first cut then switching hands is impossible because you have no grip.

so i've been told.
OP southern 75 | 7,096  
27 Mar 2009 /  #35
atrycja19

I didn't promise her anything.She started to press hard for engagement after first month of relationship.Of course I didn't tell her I just want you for sex.

Anyway,I hope everything will be fine.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
27 Mar 2009 /  #36
Southern, that's the nature of the beast. They want marriage quickly, it's part of their culture. What I can't get is that some guys try all night in a nightclub, maybe time and again, to get a girl to bone. Then it's over in a matter of minutes through PEj or passing out through too much vodka.

Come on southern, you came across pretty shallow there. Sex is a fleeting pleasure.
OP southern 75 | 7,096  
27 Mar 2009 /  #37
They want marriage quickly, it's part of their culture

Yes,I have understood that.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
27 Mar 2009 /  #38
You (have) understood that in the past, yes, but do you still understand it now? No offence, but yours is a cautionary tale of how flitting between different women is not a good idea, the failed rebound approach.

Women naturally carry more emotional baggage than men and moving on without resolving issues is just shirking responsibility on your part. Closure is good if you can do it.
OP southern 75 | 7,096  
27 Mar 2009 /  #39
I think polish women are a bit crazy.Today my current polish gf told me to kiss and touch her friend in order that she does not feel bad when she sees us kissing.So I was caressing both of them till the friend told me to stop in order not to make the gf jealous.

The former gf asked me to find some girls and have sex with them in front of her.So there is some kind of perversion here(not bad if you ask my opinion...).And married polish girls well,well...
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
27 Mar 2009 /  #40
And then you woke up, right? ;)
miranda  
28 Mar 2009 /  #41
right, he is just trying to get some attention.
LAGirl 9 | 496  
28 Mar 2009 /  #42
Its no joke its serious you dont f*ck with people like that and good luck.
Filios1 8 | 1,336  
28 Mar 2009 /  #43
LAGirl

Yes.. you are right.. there are some nutters out there who would threaten to kill themselves because of their partner breaking up with them.. it might well be a joke, or attempt to get him to go back, a bluff... always good to walk on egg shells for a time, test it out..
Randal 1 | 577  
28 Mar 2009 /  #44
There're all kinda unstable chicks out there.
Cardno85 31 | 976  
28 Mar 2009 /  #45
True. To cut your wrists correctly one needs to sever the tendons. If you manage this with the first cut then switching hands is impossible because you have no grip.

Thank you, that was the point i was trying to make earlier. One wrist will not kill you, it takes (on average) 13 hours to bleed from a single wrist...by which time that wonderful thing called clotting kicks in.
SzwedwPolsce 11 | 1,595  
28 Mar 2009 /  #46
One wrist will not kill you

I don't want people to get any ideas that it's harmless to cut your wrist.

A longitudinal incision of the radial artery from the proximal to distal part of the forearm will minimize the vasoconstriction and give an extreme increase of the area where it can bleed from. I would say a few minutes before you get unconscious if it's done properly. Transverse incisions are not immediately life-threatening.

it takes (on average) 13 hours to bleed from a single wrist

But I'm sure you would not survive 13 hours (untreated) if you cut your radial artery. Minimal blood clotting will occur because of the very high arterial pressure, arterial blood is not just dripping you know. The only way to stop it is to compress the artey/forearm for a very long time, that will cause blood clotting. But if you cut an artery you often have to make a suture in the arterial wall.
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
28 Mar 2009 /  #47
Basically all the conversations followed the same motiv which was what are you going to do to keep me? and then if you don't want me,life is not worth living.

Did she actually say she would kill herself or just that life is not worth living? There's a difference.
LAGirl 9 | 496  
28 Mar 2009 /  #48
Filos thats so true because my ex husband did that many times but he wouldnt really do it but its not to joke with dont know if its possible.
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384  
28 Mar 2009 /  #49
I don't want people to get any ideas that it's harmless to cut your wrist.

A longitudinal incision of the radial artery from the proximal to distal part of the forearm will minimize the vasoconstriction and give an extreme increase of the area where it can bleed from. I would say a few minutes before you get unconscious if it's done properly. Transverse incisions are not immediately life-threatening.

Interesting. I have had to deal with two episodes of cut wrists. The first (an accident) was with cut tendons, but not severed main artery. There seemed to be minimal blood loss, because of shock and fast application of first aid. Result: an immediate operation to fix the tendons.

The second was caused by jagged metal (a broken coke can) Blood everywhere, especially on another guy's coat. It happened in a London street. Result: Police (at first) jumping to conclusions. Young woman hospitalized.
niejestemcapita 2 | 561  
28 Mar 2009 /  #50
One wrist will not kill you, it takes (on average) 13 hours to bleed from a single wrist...

I have to disagree I cut my artery on broken glass as a child by accident and the blood was pumping out so fast it would have been nearer 13 minutes I swear.

Lucky I was a girl scout..:)
lexi 1 | 176  
28 Mar 2009 /  #51
She is too senditive.I cannot write to her like that.Basically all the conversations followed the same motiv which was what are you going to do to keep me? and then if you don't want me,life is not worth living

People who have a full scale conversation about suicide, don't actually commit suicide. (It is an attention seeking device) The ones who actually commit suicide do not discuss it with anyone.

I guess that you just attract the insecure ones!
SzwedwPolsce 11 | 1,595  
28 Mar 2009 /  #52
Interesting. I have had to deal with two episodes of cut wrists. The first (an accident) was with cut tendons, but not severed main artery. There seemed to be minimal blood loss, because of shock and fast application of first aid. Result: an immediate operation to fix the tendons.
The second was caused by jagged metal (a broken coke can) Blood everywhere, especially on another guy's coat. It happened in a London street. Result: Police (at first) jumping to conclusions. Young woman hospitalized.

Yes. You can cut several tendons without cutting a big artery. The are only 2 major arteries in the forearm. If you don't hit them you will not have blood everywhere, if you do you will have blood everywhere. Veins can also bleed a lot, but not near as much as an artery. Veins are just dripping.

It also depends on HOW you cut the artery. A transverse cut is less dangerous because effective vasoconstriction (due to shock) can occur. If you make a long longitudinal cut the vasoconstriction will not be effective (=life-threatening bleeding). Cutting off the forearm transversely (so the hand is separated from the forearm) is less dangerous than making a longitudinal cut through 1 of the 2 big arteries. Because of what I explained about effective vasoconstriction.
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384  
28 Mar 2009 /  #53
It also depends on HOW you cut the artery.

Thanks. It's all important info.
OP southern 75 | 7,096  
28 Mar 2009 /  #54
unstable chicks

Find me a stable chick anytime.
Wahldo  
28 Mar 2009 /  #55
There're all kinda unstable chicks out there.

Yeah there's a correlation: The better looking they are the crazier they will become.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
28 Mar 2009 /  #56
I think that stands in most countries, Wahldo.
Wahldo  
28 Mar 2009 /  #57
stands in most countries

In your opinion, more or less with Polish women?
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
28 Mar 2009 /  #58
Pretty much, yeah. Many have this Princess Syndrome here and they are wacky. They make some American chicks look like amateurs, LOL Not the Beverly Hills ones or Santa Barbara. Many Cali girls are dire and weird I've heard.
OP southern 75 | 7,096  
28 Mar 2009 /  #59
Many have this Princess Syndrome

I have the King syndrome.
Wahldo  
28 Mar 2009 /  #60
Many Cali girls are dire and weird I've heard.

Well, I lived in Monterey for a year. I've got to get them high marks. Easily the best in the US. They're very good looking, taller, good bodies, they like casual sex and are pretty laid back. Hollywood bullshit I avoided.

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