In love with a Polish teacher...

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good luck girl:)

I don't think you want to jeopardize your teacher's relationship, between with his spouse and kids. They don't deserve to be hurt. You need to stop any furthur advances, before they get out of hand. Try to find yourself a good single man. One who can give you his undivided attention, that I'm sure you're very deserving of.


OMG! Is plk123 actually gaining a conscience??? Or is this an optical illusion?

no - don't bring grief to both your lives. Consider it timing - but don't initiate the possibility of him leaving his family for you - it will back fire even if short lived happiness. Spare yourself the drama and be open to creating a positive relationship without that kind of stuff.

Besides...if he left her for you he'll leave you for the next...

He has a nice, church going family which I haven't met formally, and they probably don't deserve anything bad to happen to them.

Is there still anything wrong as maintaining a 'friendship' basis with him?

I think you should get this guy out of your head and move on. Sorry.

you should make your own choice.. but they are in a marriage.. they dont need distractions.. you should try and engage your mind in other things.. if it is meant to be then it will happen, the lord is the controller of the world.. be patient

as said before, you dont have a relationship with the man.

stop expecting boyfriend type of things of him.


with you wanting to be #2


how can you say you know him well. its not like you are together after school and such.

i mean with me, people only know what i tell them, and i dont often say alot to people i dont know well.


for you, yes. you want more than just friendship


the lord has nothing to do with peoples actions

yup. rofl :D

I was after school with him today as a matter of fact. Just discussing his heritage and whatnot. Normal stuff.

Looking for Love in all the wrong places....especially with a Teacher...The Teacher should know better....In NYC the teacher would have gotten arrested...

He might be a nice guy - but it is wrong of him as a teacher and married man to be keeping your notes to him.

If not for your own (and you could very well get hurt if you don't try and focus your feelings on someone else you could care for instead of someone you couldn't have/or at least shouldn't) sake, then for his - try to stop building on the relationship [it is one marek s, by some definition of it]. Like with giving him notes and telling him how you feel.

There is no problem with getting on really well with your teacher - but that is still what he is meant to remain. Not even your friend, as such. Especially not if he knows how you feel for him.

He sounds very flattered by your feelings for him - but he is letting it go too far. Perhaps he is unhappy in his current relationship - but that is no reason for him to abuse the power he has as an influence in young peoples' lives. Could you not try to take more interest in your fellow schoolmates - and spend your time after classes with them? The line between teacher and pupil seems to be blurring here too much.

I hope all turns out for the best - whatever you decide. But be careful.

Words of wisdom _Sofi_. I liked what you had to say.

I asked him today why he kept my notes and he replied, "because I haven't gotten around to throwing them away yet. -laughter-"

Perhaps he only likes the attention I've been giving him (which is a helluva lot).

Another thing I've noticed is that he doesn't wear his wedding ring.. Any thoughts on that?

now I agree with PLK..

if hes married and you havent been in contact, why would you want to make a man
become unfaithful with you ? theres plenty of Polish men out there who are
single and avail.. some circumstances cant be helped/ rather the marriage is to late
for salvage, but in this case, your baiting him.

there is a difference .

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plus .. any man , just like any woman would love the attention , especially after being
married a few years, its like a adrenaline rush. someone else thinks your sexy , your
going to flirt back, and its human to do this. but dont be a home wrecker , that could
happen to you ..


he hasnt done anything wrong yet. he kept the notes yes. but.. he is human. probably
they made him feel good yes. but he still hasnt cheated

bendable bones however. after finding out that he was married and has kids
(small children I presume) .. that would have ended it for me. first of all. his heart
is going to always be with his children of his first wife. second, maybe your pushing
something hes not sure he wants to do. and third. would you want someone pretty
young and smart to come along and steal your husband right from under your nose?

like I said some work and some dont. but in this situation, its really your decision,
just dont go putting your eggs in one nest so to speak.

or the wrong nest.

Yes, his children are quite young. Still in car seats :\

I'm always careful not to 'push' him into anything. I watch my words. The only thing I do is give him small notes written in Polish and he keeps them by his keyboard. I can't control if he keeps them or not, but I know I can control if he recieves them.

I feel strongly for his wife. I'm sure she's a lovely person and has wonderful, outstanding morals, and is a great mother. I have nothing against her whatsoever. It so happens to be I'm sexually attracted to her husband, and he flirts in return. If he wouldn't flirt back with me, I'm sure I would have gotten over him quickly after I first noticed him. But him flirting with me in return gives me a sense that he's diggin' me and wants something more.

well , you could be reading him wrong, most do want that extra * thang*

but ultimately its up to you to stop it as you started it.

he might be attractive, but is it worth tearing apart a family thats whole and blossomed?

if he was in the process of divorce, I wouldnt even blink. but this is a real issue
that you * YOU * need to stop. dont let it happen, grab onto your morals...

temptation walks in our shadows all the time.. its up to us to make sure we keep
our lives in check. you seem like your sensible enough to end it same as it started.
least thats my humble opinion.. I hope the best for ya. and him as well.

I just want you to remember .. and you also said it. your attracted to him.
you dont love him as his family does.. and if he is into his family, hes not going to
give them up for a one night mistake. especially such a young family.

dont you want love not lust?

Extra..thang?

No, it's not worth tearing apart a family who have never done wrong to me. I don't see why I should do wrong to them.

I've had love before and I'd kill for it again. But this, this isn't lust. You can call me naive, but I am me, and I know how I feel. I will one day eventually get over this man. In the mean time, I can't seem to not think about him. It's sad really when I have much more to think about like my future rather than a 42 year old man.

More Fish in the Sea, The ones that havn't already been netted :)

Come to me, maybe I can be a good teacher for you....:o)

Ahahah..cute, but I don't think you fit the qualifications needed :[

What is needed to get contact with you then....:o) ?

Bang Bang she shot him down...Bang Bang...that aweful sound :D

maybe hes a shrink, it would be perfect

I dont understand why Bendable Bones would want to go to dinner with him and his wife.. surely that would make things a whole lot worse. Lets face it there is no way she is going to be just friends with him. He is enjoying and encouraging this infatuation to feed his ego.. and that is just what it is.. infatuation that will fade with time.

Willy, are you in your early 40's? :D

And sapphire, how would meeting his wife make things worse if nothing is going on bewteen him and I?

Bones ( I love that sitcome), are you in denial or something?
In my (humble) opinion you are on a little game/power trip/ tease/ have nothing else to do/don't want to date my peers/other excuses/blah/blah/blah/like to play with fire/attention seeker trip.

If you really cared for him, you would not tease him.

I am gonna get s*** for this

i like one my teacher very much
never try to get closer but now, when i think about it... hell, why not?
hehe thx for idea

not from me.

B.Bones, Go meet the family, sit at the table and see if the wife doesn't help you to understand your stupidity.

monkey see, monkey do - congratulations

hey u dont have to be rude
i can get him if i want and thats all
im not a monkey cuz of it for sure
look at urself