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The relationships with the Polish girls? "Platonic friendship."


LLuvia 1 | 10  
2 Apr 2008 /  #1
I know a polish girl that is wonderful. Intelligent, Beautiful, Nice. Everything is perfect about her. As I m Spanish we came from very different cultures. I m not a rude guy or nothing like that. She gave me her phone number to call her to go out (I didn’t asked her). In the first date I tried to kiss her but nothing happened. I got very close to her but she didn’t react or moved to that. She didn’t even blink. It never happened to me before. I m really shocked. How fast are the relationships with the polish girls? I m not in a hurry at all but I don’t want her to see me as a “Platonic friend”.

Could a polish girl tell me any advice?
Thanks.
Shawn_H  
2 Apr 2008 /  #2
What could you read from her eyes?
OP LLuvia 1 | 10  
2 Apr 2008 /  #3
Nothing. It was like looking to a piece of ice. She dident ever blink.
miranda  
2 Apr 2008 /  #4
yes, Polish girls don't go all the way on the first date. Sinc eyou are Spanish, you expect things to happen right away. not so..........patience. She will let you know when she is ready.

Good luck!!!
OP LLuvia 1 | 10  
2 Apr 2008 /  #5
"Polish girls don't go all the way on the first date".

I wish I know that before my date. I feel so stupid right now!!!!
El Gato 4 | 351  
2 Apr 2008 /  #6
It was like looking to a piece of ice.

Haha. lol

Great description. Totally pictured it.

:]
Shawn_H  
2 Apr 2008 /  #7
Nothing.

I would have guessed one of the following:

(a) "Try it and die"
(b) "Yes..."
(c) "Shock and Horror"

There are subtle differences between (a) and (b). (c) is usually easy to spot.
miranda  
2 Apr 2008 /  #8
I wish I know that before my date. I feel so stupid right now!!!!

i am just giving you my persepective but honestly, regardless of age, no self-respecting woman does.
El Gato 4 | 351  
2 Apr 2008 /  #9
(c) "Shock and Horror"

(d) long term effects of marijuana (dazed and confuzed)
OP LLuvia 1 | 10  
2 Apr 2008 /  #10
I would say that my feelings are: C) "Shock and Horror"
Shawn_H  
2 Apr 2008 /  #11
patience

Amen sister. Good things come to those who wait.

edit: Mind you, the slow go hungry too.

Good luck Lluvia!
OP LLuvia 1 | 10  
2 Apr 2008 /  #12
I realy like that girl. the other day she told me that she loves red wine. As I went to my country for easter I brought some bottlels of very good wine. Who do polish girls could react if I give her one. I only went out one time with her and i m not really sure that it will be a second.......

anyway I will follow your advice and i will be patient and wait for her call. I dont think she will call me. :-(
plk123 8 | 4,150  
2 Apr 2008 /  #13
ll, since you are spanish, this relationship will feel like a platonic one 4 ever. if you don't think you feel it anymore, don't waste your time.
OP LLuvia 1 | 10  
2 Apr 2008 /  #14
"since you are spanish, this relationship will feel like a platonic one 4 ever"

what do you mean with that?
plk123 8 | 4,150  
2 Apr 2008 /  #15
it'll be platonic for a long, long time if there was 0 reaction to your moves.
Firestorm 6 | 400  
2 Apr 2008 /  #16
The love of a good woman. Polish included.. Is worth waiting for.
Ranj 21 | 948  
2 Apr 2008 /  #17
So true, Firestorm....same can be said for the love of a good man:)
z_darius 14 | 3,968  
2 Apr 2008 /  #18
I don’t want her to see me as a “Platonic friend”.

She can't.
You, just like most people, simply have no idea about what Plato wrote about love ;)
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
2 Apr 2008 /  #19
In the first date I tried to kiss her but nothing happened. I got very close to her but she didn’t react or moved to that. She didn’t even blink. It never happened to me before. I m really shocked.

Can you explain this scene better? What was happening when you tried to kiss her? Did she look at you when you tried to kiss her? What happened right afterwards? Did she say anything or did she act like it never happened? How long afterwards did the date end?
OP LLuvia 1 | 10  
2 Apr 2008 /  #20
We where speaking in a disco at the university. I got close enogh to feel her breath but she dident move away or react in any way. she acted like it never happened and the date continued for another 2 hours. we were together almost 5 hours that night.
djf 18 | 166  
3 Apr 2008 /  #21
Polish girls don't go all the way on the first date

Not my experience. From meeting to the bedroom in 3 hours! I must be good!!! :-P
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
3 Apr 2008 /  #22
From meeting to the bedroom in 3 hours! I must be good!!! :-P

Well I’m sure you plied her with lots of booze in those 3 hours and of course rehipnol takes a while to work !! :-P

Polish girls don't go all the way on the first date. Sinc eyou are Spanish, you expect things to happen right away.

I dont really get that M, since Spanish girls are hardly know for being easy..
OP LLuvia 1 | 10  
3 Apr 2008 /  #23
I dont know waht kind of spanish people you all know but I waited 8 months beforego going to the bed with the last spanish girlfriend. I think that relationships has no times or rules. I could wait the same for this girl. I do not "expect things to happen right away".
Zonk - | 15  
3 Apr 2008 /  #24
Sounds like you may have to step-back alittle to see whether she tries to get hold of you, would be a good indicator.
OP LLuvia 1 | 10  
3 Apr 2008 /  #25
I dont know waht kind of spanish people you all know but I waited 8 months beforego going to the bed with the last spanish girlfriend. I think that relationships has no times or rules. I could wait the same for this girl. I do not "expect things to happen right away".

From meeting to the bedroom in 3 hours!

I would never do something like that and not because i dident have the oportunity.
I wold never want a girl that goes to the bed in 3 hours. If she that with you it will do it with another 10 a year. Trust me... I know that kind of girl.

Sounds like you may have to step-back alittle to see whether she tries to get hold of you, would be a good indicator.

I think that this is the best idea of all. I will wait for her call. Ones a friend told me this: "If you want something , set it free. If it comes back, it is your, take it. If it does not.... it was never your." I will follow it.
Zonk - | 15  
3 Apr 2008 /  #26
I think that this is the best idea of all. I will wait for her call. Ones a friend told me this: "If you want something , set it free. If it comes back, it is your, take it. If it does not.... it was never your." I will follow it.

Im Glad your level-headed enough to think of all of the aspects around this, at the end of the day its still your call :)
djf 18 | 166  
3 Apr 2008 /  #27
I wold never want a girl that goes to the bed in 3 hours

Get a life! Have some (safe) fun!

Well I’m sure you plied her with lots of booze in those 3 hours and of course rehipnol takes a while to work !! :-P

No vodka laced drinks required! The rohypnol even lasted until the next morning and appears to still be working 5 months later! :-P
mamaye 2 | 38  
3 Apr 2008 /  #28
yip, that's a good idea, but do not set it free for a long time - I mean, it's difficult, but try to act as if you don't wait for anything but at the same time show her your interest somehow...but of course, it depends on the girl:(hard to say.

there is nothing like typical behaviur of a Polish girl, I know much more girls who would probably give you more clear signs of what they really want at the moment.so, if "it was never you" next time you could meet totally different girl...but it's possible also that it ends up like in one of the polish sayings

"z deszczu pod rynne" which means sth like you change rain for a drain-pipe;P
and as your nickname is lluvia...:))))).....
miranda  
3 Apr 2008 /  #29
She gave me her phone number to call her to go out (I didn?t asked her). In the first date I tried to kiss her but nothing happened. I got very close to her but she didn?t react or moved to that. She didn?t even blink. It never happened to me before. I m really shocked. How fast are the relationships with the polish girls? I m not in a hurry at all but I don?t want her to see me as a ?Platonic friend?.

see, this is a very contradicting statement. You are a good guy but you wanted to kiss her on the first date, she didin't react, so you are panicking and your ego is acting up. It has neve happened to you ? well, there is always a first time. Grow up.
OP LLuvia 1 | 10  
3 Apr 2008 /  #30
It has nothing to do with my ego and we are not 16 years. Diferent cultures has diferent ways for doing things. I have a brasilian friend that he told me that in his country it was easy to kiss many girls (Whiout paing) in the same night.

I tried to kiss her because I thought that that is what she wanted. My question was .... How bad did I do considering the polich culture?

It never happend to me before that a girl would not react at all. I could spect many reactions.... but no "No reactioin"

by the way explain me what you ment before with :"Sinc eyou are Spanish, you expect things to happen right away"

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