Real Intimacy

Oddly, the word intimacy conjures nothing but the physical in my mind. By physical, I don't necessarily mean sexual. Like others have said -- it's the moments when words aren't spoken that are often the most intimate. Sort of like a bride and groom and their wedding vows. The words are spoken very sincerely and lovingly, but for me, the 'intimacy' of it all is when they kiss.

I remember a time when a girl I had seen for a long time lost her grandmother. She cried on my shoulder. And when I say cry, I mean that deep down cry, where you just let it all out. She just completely fell into me... and cried so hard that she was exhausted and fell asleep right in my arms. I held her all night. Even though the moment was sad, it was still intimate.

So intimacy, at least for me, isn't defined for any specific moment -- yet what does make it intimate is the physical part. Can you have intimacy without physicality? I'm not sure if I can.