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Girls in Poland having friendly relationships with other guys..


dozzy16  
13 Apr 2008 /  #1
I was reading another post about girls in poland having friendly relationships with other guys. Some said that its normal for a girl and a guy who are just "friends" to have the occasional sexual interaction. I am curious to know what other people think. One more question too. If a girl is hugging on you and snuggling next to you in bed and kissing you and smiling to you while looking in your eyes what would you suggest that means? Is it just another one of these so called friendly girl and guy thing that supposedly happens in Poland or does she want more?
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384  
13 Apr 2008 /  #2
If a girl is hugging on you and snuggling next to you in bed and kissing you and smiling to you while looking in your eyes what would you suggest that means?

If you don't know now, then an explanation is pointless.
OP dozzy16  
13 Apr 2008 /  #3
lol in my eyes I do know what it means. But this certain girl says she just wants to be friends. But yet she does this.
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384  
13 Apr 2008 /  #4
But this certain girl says she just wants to be friends.

Maybe she is testing you. I'm not quite sure how though.

Afraid of commitment.

Keeping her choices open.

Simply, living the moment.
OP dozzy16  
13 Apr 2008 /  #5
Maybe she is testing you. I'm not quite sure how though.

I do not know. All I know is I can see in her eyes what she wants yet something is stopping her. Maybe its distance or maybe its something more. But I am still curious as to why so many people said that it was normal for girls and guys in Poland who are just friends to have casual sex or play around. That whole statement boggles my mind. I dont understand how people can be so careless.
BubbaWoo 33 | 3,510  
13 Apr 2008 /  #6
If a girl is hugging on you and snuggling next to you in bed and kissing you and smiling to you while looking in your eyes what would you suggest that means?

But this certain girl says she just wants to be friends.

just say -

listen
you little sleazy slut
dont tease me
and believe me
she free up easy

but on a more serious note - yes, perceptions of boundaries and approproaite behaviour are different in poland. either that or they are busy fukin with your head.
OP dozzy16  
13 Apr 2008 /  #7
just say -

listen
you little sleazy slut
dont tease me
and believe me
she free up easy

I could never say that to her. I honestly don't believe that she is a slut or sleazy and really dont appreciate you calling her such. But this is your opinion which your entitled to I will not say anything further. Im just curious about what peoples perceptions of boundaries and appropriate behavior are acceptable in Poland. Whether they think its ok to just go out and kiss and have sex with one of their friends or if they feel that would be a slap in the face to the person they are supposedly with.
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384  
13 Apr 2008 /  #8
yet something is stopping her.

That would be her other boyfriend. The standard answer on this forum.
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
13 Apr 2008 /  #9
well to the OP, forget the 'polish' side of things, this happens all around the world, two friends having occassional sex, the term sometimes used is 'F**K buddy' there your friend but you have sex now and again.

As for te polish side of things, i'm sure it does happen there too
BubbaWoo 33 | 3,510  
13 Apr 2008 /  #10
im a brit and obviously have my own cultural interpretations of what form appropriate boundaries and behaviour in situations such as the one you describe. i see and have seen these broken countless times.
OP dozzy16  
13 Apr 2008 /  #11
well to the OP, forget the 'polish' side of things, this happens all around the world, two friends having occassional sex, the term sometimes used is 'F**K buddy' there your friend but you have sex now and again.

Im just curious to know why so many people have said that this happens all the time in Poland. For me I would never even have another women in my bed if I was with someone. Even if she was just sleeping there. I would never kiss another women either. But maybe Im just old fashioned that way. Maybe I expect to much from my partner.
BubbaWoo 33 | 3,510  
13 Apr 2008 /  #12
For me I would never even have another women in my bed if I was with someone.

i agree. for me this is totally unacceptable. a couple of summers ago i was invited to share a bed with a polish ex-girlfriend who had a new partner of over 5 years. she could not comprehend why i felt so uncomfortable with this
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384  
13 Apr 2008 /  #13
people have said that this happens all the time in Poland

I don't think it does.

But that doesn't mean that it doesn't happen at all.
OP dozzy16  
13 Apr 2008 /  #14
i agree. for me this is totally unacceptable.

This is what Im trying to uncover. The polish girl I was with said that just sleeping with another friend is normal. No sex just sleeping. She told me that they do it all the time. So maybe I should reconsider my first question. The new question is....

What are appropriate and inappropriate behaviors when you are in a relationship. Do you feel it is ok to kiss another when your with someone? Or do you feel its ok to be in the same bed with another when your with someone? ect. ect. ect.
BubbaWoo 33 | 3,510  
13 Apr 2008 /  #15
Do you feel it is ok to kiss another when your with someone?

no

you feel its ok to be in the same bed with another when your with someone?

no
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
13 Apr 2008 /  #16
Im just curious to know why so many people have said that this happens all the time in Poland. For me I would never even have another women in my bed if I was with someone. Even if she was just sleeping there. I would never kiss another women either. But maybe Im just old fashioned that way. Maybe I expect to much from my partner.

ow of course, i wasn't saying that if you have a partner, you may wish to go and sleep around with your friends, i was just pointing out that this does happen all around the world and including Poland.
z_darius 14 | 3,968  
13 Apr 2008 /  #17
For me I would never even have another women in my bed if I was with someone. Even if she was just sleeping there

A gentleman wouldn't have a problem with that at all. He could sleep on the sofa after all ;)

As a matter of fact I slept with a few in the same bed. I repeat - I SLEPT.

Do you feel it is ok to kiss another when your with someone?

There are all kinds of kisses.



Kisses can be quite innocent but sometimes that's all it takes to wreck havoc ;)


OP dozzy16  
13 Apr 2008 /  #18
I agree. No matter how innocent it is it could turn out to be the worst thing.

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