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Broken Heart, An amazing girl from Poland


motoman 1 | 7  
20 Sep 2009 /  #1
I feel a bit silly writing this. I have NEVER felt like this before and to be honest, not sure what to do.

I met this Polish girl, she was working over here, in the UK. The first time we met I felt a connection. We got talking a few times and I very quickly realised that I was getting feelings for her. I did not tell her this as I did not want to scare her away! Also, she told me she had a boyfriend and baby back in Poland and she was working here to get some money to pay off loan. She said she wanted to leave her boyfriend.

Basically, I knew she was leaving england to go back to Poland in 2 weeks, but when I went to see her, I was told she has gone and not coming back. I was shocked but now I realise how deep my feelings are for her and I never got the chance to tell her how I felt. I really am truly broken hearted and I have never felt like this before. I feel like my heart has been ripped out. I actually feel sick and quite ill. I have no contact number for her and I would not hound her anyway as I am no stalker! I did give her my number but I am not sure if I wrote it down correctly as I thought she would have rang me.

I am stupid, and I know many people may laugh but I just want to know how to move forward now. I am 32 and she is 24.

I feel like all is lost and really very sad, nothing else matters right now and I can;t stop thinking about her. I can not sleep. I can not focus. They say time is a healer and I really hope it is because I feel the lowest I have ever felt.

I want to get my life back together and not sure I have the strength right now.

I would appreciate any help or advice.

Oh, she made me a Polish coffee and I liked it. I will never forget THAT coffee, it was so special as is Anna.
blueboy 2 | 34  
20 Sep 2009 /  #2
Most guys on this forum will connect with that feeling you have dude. Your stomach turns over like a washng machine, you can't eat etc... If it's any help, try shagging another girl as quickly as possible, that usually helps...
wildrover 98 | 4,451  
20 Sep 2009 /  #3
try shagging another girl as quickly as possible

ooopss sorry , that made me laugh.....! Oh motoman...another one fallen for the cute Pole with somebody waiting for them back in Poland...You are not the first one , and surely not the last....

It seems common for Polish people to forget they are in a relationship once they get out of Poland , and they wind up leaving some poor sucker broken hearted when they have made their money and headed back to Polska...i might add that Brits abroad are no different in this respect...

I know its hard to believe , but there are actually some single Polish girls around , not easy to find , but well worth looking out for....

This girl you met is not single , not yours , and most likely does not give a stuff about you now she is back with her fella....you will get over it , go out and find another Polish lovely...one that is single....!
blueboy 2 | 34  
20 Sep 2009 /  #4
wildrover, you would make a great agony aunt, ever thought about a column in the local lonely hearts paper?

I remember having a heart to heart once with a boss about my recent broken heart and he said this to me:

If you are looking for sympathy - look in the dictionary between **** and syphillis.

Hated him at the time but love this wisdom now!
wildrover 98 | 4,451  
20 Sep 2009 /  #5
you would make a great agony aunt

Yeah , i am dead good at sorting peoples lives out...if only i could sort my own out...that would be great...!
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
20 Sep 2009 /  #6
Wildrover would be an agony uncle :)

Motoman, this is a tale told many times. In the interests of tact, I can only say that it is a blessing in disguise that she went back. You don't want to get embroiled in various disputes. Chin up, lad!
Bzibzioh  
20 Sep 2009 /  #7
If you are looking for sympathy - look in the dictionary between **** and syphillis.

I don't get that.

Hated him at the time but love this wisdom now!

So become a cynic is your remedy?
wildrover 98 | 4,451  
20 Sep 2009 /  #8
I might add that my wisdom comes from living long enough to have made ever fcukup there is to make...plus a few entirely of my own invention....
SeanBM 35 | 5,808  
20 Sep 2009 /  #9
That's what wisdom is, the knowledge that you are making the same mistake again.
blueboy 2 | 34  
20 Sep 2009 /  #10
Between SH1T and syphillis., sorry, was just trying to be polite and not swear but hey it's after 9pm so who gives a ****!

Yeah life kind of makes you look back at things and change your opinions - don't you think? We all think we have the answers but in reality we all have lots to learn.

Beginning to sound like a preacher - time to finish my drink and off to bed....
SeanBM 35 | 5,808  
20 Sep 2009 /  #11
Beginning to sound like a preacher - time to finish my drink and off to bed....

But it's only after 9pm hahahaha it's 01:56 here
blueboy 2 | 34  
20 Sep 2009 /  #12
That's what wisdom is, the knowledge that you are making the same mistake again.

And again and again and again. I've lived with 6 different women and have purchased more fridge freezers and 3-piece suites than most people have had holidays abroad!

Life is a *****, then you marry one, then another......
Bzibzioh  
20 Sep 2009 /  #13
That's what wisdom is, the knowledge that you are making the same mistake again.

I thought that wisdom is NOT to make the same mistake again :)

We all think we have the answers but in reality we all have lots to learn.

Sure, but how become a cynical will help?
SeanBM 35 | 5,808  
20 Sep 2009 /  #14
And again and again and again.

Time for a change?

Where is you at anyway, Warsaw at 9 pm?

I thought that wisdom is NOT to make the same mistake again :)

that's the difference between wisdom and thinking.

You know the two best things in life are youth and wisdom hahahahahahahahahahahaa
blueboy 2 | 34  
20 Sep 2009 /  #15
It's the same time here too - was referring to the UK law on adult language - what's it called - the Watershed or something like that? Never paid much attention to it myself! I'm in Warsaw, where are you SeanBM?
SeanBM 35 | 5,808  
20 Sep 2009 /  #16
I am south of Krakow, up the Beskid mountains.
It's where the chilled cats hang and this tiger is feelin a bit cold, so I am moving back to Krakow soon.
I am an Irish feline but I dig the Polish cats :)
blueboy 2 | 34  
20 Sep 2009 /  #17
Sure, but how become a cynical will help?

It's either that or wait for the men in white coats to arrive!

I am south of Krakow, up the Beskid mountains.

Don't know anything about Poland I'm afraid - but sounds like an interesting place to live. Do you have many neighbours?
Bzibzioh  
20 Sep 2009 /  #18
You know the two best things in life are youth and wisdom

Youth is overrated. For me the best thing in life is święty spokój: enough with the drama.

It's either that or wait for the men in white coats to arrive!

LOL
OP motoman 1 | 7  
20 Sep 2009 /  #19
Thanks for replies, lol.

Still feel like sh*t today though! Can't stop thinking about her.
Sildar - | 34  
20 Sep 2009 /  #20
Try to find her on well known in Poland community portal

nk.pl

If you now her surname, name, city, age it wouldn't be so hard
OsiedleRuda  
20 Sep 2009 /  #21
Hehehe... this was me too, I think. Funny how she was called ***** too :D

Difference is, I ended it before she got the chance to "go back home". When someone spends far too much time on Skype with an ex-husband they allegedly hate, you know it's not quite right.

Still, I was probably dating Polish women when most of you lot were still in nappies (diapers for you Yanks ;) ), so I know when to get out. Fortunately, the chances of me visiting her crappy town are less than nil, so I'm unlikely to ever bump into her again.

To the OP: you'll get over it in time, and get yourself a nice English girl next time - they don't pretend to love you when all along they are planning to **** off back home to their mums!
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
20 Sep 2009 /  #22
If it's any help, try shagging another girl as quickly as possible, that usually helps...

Hmm, her best friend is always a good option...

I've lived with 6 different women and have purchased more fridge freezers and 3-piece suites than most people have had holidays abroad!

You think most people have only been away 6 times? ;0)

get yourself a nice English girl next time

True.

off back home to their mums!

But is it any better when mummy lives round the corner lol...
stellit 1 | 4  
20 Sep 2009 /  #23
I just read your message and maybe because I'm not so used to all that things related to poland as other writers seems to be, I've been quite moved by your feelings for her.

If you know where she was working, you may ask them some informations don't you think ?If she was so important for you, you shouldn't let her disappear from your life easily. Losing hope and being desperate is the easiest reaction, you should do whatever you can to find her.

I would not hound her anyway as I am no stalker

Why not ? Imagine that you are at a crossroad and that you would be sure of meeting her and being happy with her if you were doing those efforts for searching her, would you do it ? I'm sure that you wouldn't have those scrupules and you wouldn't choose to take the other road alone... So the only reason that keep you from taking it is the fact that you are not sure of the result of your researches ! You are too pessimistic, believe that you will succeed and you will raise your chances ! And forget that misplaced ethic, you just want to find her for talking to her, if she don't want after all your researches then leave her alone, but she would lose someone good :)

Good luck !
Arien 3 | 721  
20 Sep 2009 /  #24
I thought that wisdom is NOT to make the same mistake again :)

I think it's wisdom to accept the fact that you make mistakes, without blaming yourself or anyone else for it..

Can't stop thinking about her.

Oh, you'll get over her! I'm sure some of the pretty angels out there will be able to cheer you up in no time! If you're willing to let them..

:)
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
20 Sep 2009 /  #25
If you know where she was working, you may ask them some informations don't you think

DPA (Data Protection Act) prohibits this, would you like someone giving your personal details out?

He wasnt even in a relationship with her, he was infatuated with some girl who came here to make money to sort out her financial situation....MOVE ON! Im not moved by his post, in fact I think he sounds pretty stupid!

YAWN, another sado!!! Next please!
Krystal 6 | 95  
20 Sep 2009 /  #26
I think you knew she had baby and her boyfriend living in Poland. Why did you bother with her? She was only working for few weeks and she was going to leave England. That is why people need money and somehow somebody always falled in love with somebody.

If it was me, if person is married and have family in Europe or other states. Don't waste your time thinking this person will leave their familiy for you. You should leave them alone and find single person.
OP motoman 1 | 7  
20 Sep 2009 /  #27
Krystal

I knew she had a baby and she was in a very unhappy relationship. I am no home breaker so I would not even think of trying to get her to leave and be with me, I would not go chasing her either! What will be will be.

Its just I have feelings that I did not expect, sad and stupid yes. I will get over it.

Experience added.
stellit 1 | 4  
20 Sep 2009 /  #28
MOVE ON! Im not moved by his post, in fact I think he sounds pretty stupid!

Well, why everytime someone is telling how he feel about love it have to sound stupid ? She was maybe really great, and loveable who know ? I agree that this place is not the best one to express his love for advices as I find that so much people here are quite cynical.

DPA (Data Protection Act) prohibits this, would you like someone giving your personal details out?

I don't know your law and customs as I'm not english but if someone with the same story was asking me to contact one of my colleague and that I was judging him serious, I would ask him to give me his address and I would contact my colleague to tell him that someone was asking him.

If it was me, if person is married and have family in Europe or other states. Don't waste your time thinking this person will leave their familiy for you. You should leave them alone and find single person.

I completely agree with you on that subject and he would have asked us how to seduce her while she love someone else, I wouldn't have answered him but he said that :

She said she wanted to leave her boyfriend.

Whatever, if he really love her, he should try to find her.What will happen after he will find her is another story. If she want to stay with her boyfriend and not with him he will know it and never regret all his life his lack of action.
pgtx 30 | 3,158  
20 Sep 2009 /  #29
Oh, she made me a Polish coffee and I liked it. I will never forget THAT coffee, it was so special as is *****.

awww.... that's sweet but what's Polish coffee...?
OP motoman 1 | 7  
20 Sep 2009 /  #30
Polish Coffee,

Many still brew it the Polish way by putting a spoonful or two of ground coffee into a glass and filling the vessel up with boiling water.

Nice and strong, but a biscuit would have been nice!

I can not go after this girl, it would be selfish and I do not want to cause her problems. I will just have to move on. Part of me wants to do something but more reasons not too.

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