My polish g/f can be a nightmare,is it always like this

Yeah we are in the uk Gab

Last night things took a turn for the worst.man she is one messed up woman

Details please.

I was round my mums last night,stayed there till about 9.50pm,then i made the 50 minute journey back to the house i share with the ex (as we are now),when i got back she had left a key in the door,this meaning i could not unlock it from outside,i nocked,and waited 5 minutes before she came to open the door,when she opened it i said"well done leaving your key in the door" she said "its late i am going to bed" which i now she wasn't as she came from the dining room downstairs,so she was doing her college work.i went upstairs and started to get ready for bed,she asked me what i was doing so i told her,she went back downstairs,15 minutes go by,and she comes back into the room,i am by now in bed light turned off.she walks round the bed,and then turns back and turns the light on,knowing i am trying to get to sleep,i ask her nicely to turn the light off,and use the one by the bed,she doesn't.i turn the light off,she has the one by the bed on,she goes back and turns the main light on again,i turn it off and start getting a bit angry,just raised voice.i said she didn't need it on,she said she did,i turn it off,and said don't you dare turn it back on.she goes out the room,and into her daughters room,i hear talking,and think she is chatting to her daughter,she is only on the phone to the bloody police,saying i was threating to beat her up.sure enough,25 minutes later they arrive,to talk to me,tell me what she told them,a right pack of lies,saying i had been trying to start arguements all week,cus i knew she had an important exam today,long story short i end up having to drive all the way back to my mums another 50 bloody minutes,and now i am the bad man,i am shell shocked,totally numb.

Get your stuff out of there and demand your deposite back fcuk her the *****!

Good. Now you can start to move on.


This is serious. Police reaction times seem very slow these days. (joke)

Get back to the house and remove anything of value, before she turns it into confetti.

Check where your bank cards are.

Be careful, she is now a desperate woman who knows the relationship is over. In your best interests it's best to leave as soon as possible. I can't see any other way.

Have you cancelled the rental agreement yet ?

Get out before she makes more serious accusations that could seriously fuk your life up. You get me?

And should she happend to fall down the stairs between now and then you have plenty of witnesses on the forum who will swear it was an accident.

Serious question: Would the police read this forum thread, with times and dates, if a crime were commited ?

Wroclaw

I told the police they took far to long,and i would be writing to there superiors (lol,joke)

I don't know why but i get the feeling this is what she wanted all along,i m sure she just wants me out the house.As for her being a desperate woman who knows the relationship is over,she sent me a text message sunday just after she left the house saying it was over,so it was her decision,but usually this is to get a response from me,but i never replied,and i never even asked where she had been all day.I think this might have got to her,and when i was on the phone on sunday night,she kept trying to hear who i was talking to.

The police did say that legally i am still allowed back into the house as my name is still on the agreement,and he said that we need to sit down and talk about what happens next.I haven't spoken to the lanlord yet.I never paid my half of the deposit,she paid that,and i owe her it (no chance she gets it).I really don't understand the woman,all i ever done was try to help her,and support her,i used to fill in her job application forms cus she didn't know what to do,and this is the bloody thanks i get,i can start to see why she got divorced from her ex husband now,if she treated him the same.

I only write on this forum round my mums house,thats where i am now,been told by the police it might be a good idea to stay here a couple of days,and if they did happen to chance on it,they wuld be able to see whats been going on,but i don't think they will,there is alot more to this woman i could tell you about,but i think it should be left unsaid,i really appreciate you people sticking with me here,it makes me feel better,i now know that maybe i wasn't the one doing wrong all the time.

Smiffer,

What more do you need to know about your psycho woman? She is the devil in disguise. Move on with your life, my friend. And please, for once, do something for yourself. Go on a nice vacation!!! :)

Gab

Thinking of going on vacation soon as i can,need a break,am so confused,to think all i tried hard for,was just going to kick me straight in the teeth.i just can't get my head round why??

Smiffer you're in danger of becoming a second fireif at which point I'd be obliged to tell you just how much of a tit you are

Have a little self respect man, before something nasty happens

I told you earlier that she doesn't like you. Sad, but as I see, true.

Forget the text message. That won't harm you.

Another vist from the law could, and end up with you spending at least one night in the cells.

She sounds like the sort of looney who would accuse a man of rape if she felt it would get her somewhere. That might earn you a lot more than a night in a cells. Ive seen it happen. Life will never be the same

What makes you think she doesn't like me,she is always the one chasing me,if we have arguements,and i walk out the house,she is always the one who is texting me,and ringing me,i never reply,she is like that for 2 days after.

OK. You lost me.

you really do like to live in pain and misery.... you better run away from her OR stay, enjoy and don't complain...

Think about it.

The police just turned up to congratulate you on your sound relationship, yes ?

I don't like the pain and misery,just trying to make sense of all what has happened over the last 3 months since we started renting this dam house,surely she must have liked me at some point,to even start renting the place,maybe i was just there to help her get it.i don't know.

DING, DING, DING, DING......now you have the picture. Sorry to say it, but just cut your losses, learn from the experience, and move on, smiffer.

Smiffer,

C'mon, give us a break here! I feel like we all are your shrinks :) Free of charge! For you, I mean. LOL Not much progress on your part, though.

Gab]
Ah, write a song, get drunk and have sex, become a lead singer in a band, but whatever you do, don't do that.

Don't do what?

That.
My point was, life's too short, getout and challenge yourself.
Some times relationships will wreck you, I know, but you got to get on with it.

Ok, then. Sorry, I'm a little slow 2day :)

No problem, I know it is heart wrenching when something like this happens and i usually try to refrain from giving advice but go travelling or whatever your into another way of looking at it, you are free to do what you want.

that is exactly it. she'll never stop treating you like dirt. same goes for her mini-me. just force yourself to walk away ASAP and your heart will catch up with your mind soon enough. what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. ;)

Well i guess i am just going to have to wait and see what happens now,going to give it a couple more days

Go see a lawyer. Maybe apply for an order to keep her away from you. Seriously. If there's any sort of physical confrontation between you, however small, the pigs will bring you in for assault. The problem is that in the UK, 90% of the juries will vote in favour of the wife / girlfriend.

Smiffer, do you rent your place from a private owner or an agency? You must give them a call or go see them in person and explain what your situation is and that you have to leave before the contract ends. I was in a situation where i lived with a bunch of w*nkers who would be really horrible to me and i moved out early, paid no rent for the period i havent lived there (i did sign the contract), just the bills (and that was just for the last month i've lived there), and i even got my deposit back. And thats just cos i told them what mess i was in and that i couldnt live there cos i felt threatened. If you do the same, just be honest and say how it is to your landlord/agency, i am sure they will understand and that moody b*tch will end up paying the rent all by herself! You cant obviously move back with that woman because next thing she'll do is give herself a bruise or two and complain you've been violent to her and put you in jail. You cant wait and must act now, she sounds like she's capable of lying just to 'punish' you, dont let her do that.

Firstly take some time off sick about two weeks.
Go for a non-molestation (restraining) order ex party (without her knowing) if granted you have two weeks to get your **** together as she can't return to the house during that period. You will go to court for a full hearing (i.e. you vs. her) two weeks later. You need grounds (e.g. locking you out of the house, being violent either verbally or physically, etc) that happened within the last two weeks. If granted you have a hastle free year. This should cost about £500 (shop around solicitors are like ********* don’t forget to ask what are the chances of initial success etc). Peace of mind for less than £10.00 per week

You need to act fast she has already called the cops a minus point for you but not the end of the world.
Cancel all services and close joint accounts even if you have to pay the outstanding amounts. It may save you money in the long term. Spend the time looking for somewhere else to live. She has a child so once it gets to court you will be ******** the short term but not forever.

Calculate how much it will cost to walk away then do the maths and choose the cheaper option

Also investigate what JustysiaS says it may not work but it’s worth a try and could save you money.

You do need to get out It’s not a polish trait or a feminine trait it’s just her