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When a man first holds out a hand to a woman - is it polite?


lazybones 2 | 52  
10 Nov 2007 /  #1
In Poland it's not very polite when a man first holds out a hand to a woman. Is it the same in UK or anywhere else in the world?
Vincent 9 | 869   Moderator
10 Nov 2007 /  #2
Its ok for a man to shake a womans hand here. It is also ok to say hello, hi, etc anytime of day to friends and strangers alike. :)
Halloween - | 30  
11 Nov 2007 /  #3
ye but in poland man never extend his hand first to a woman cause it isnt polite...
Vincent 9 | 869   Moderator
11 Nov 2007 /  #4
Aye..but the Op was talking about the UK..
tomekcatkins 8 | 130  
11 Nov 2007 /  #5
In Ze Netherlands it is no problem if a man first holds out his hand.
OP lazybones 2 | 52  
13 Nov 2007 /  #6
do you kiss ladies' hands out there?
i mean when greeting.
tomekcatkins 8 | 130  
13 Nov 2007 /  #7
Hand kissing is something from older times. I think now you do it only when you want to make a special impression?
Vincent 9 | 869   Moderator
13 Nov 2007 /  #8
do you kiss ladies' hands out there?
i mean when greeting.

Haven't seen it done in the uk for ages. What other other things should a visitor avoid doing in Poland,that would be considered rude?
krysia 23 | 3,057  
13 Nov 2007 /  #9
Is it the same in UK or anywhere else in the world?

Do it all the time in the US.
OP lazybones 2 | 52  
13 Nov 2007 /  #10
What other other things should a visitor avoid doing in Poland,that would be considered rude?

give up your sit to a lady in a train, bus, tram......
ebdpp - | 12  
14 Nov 2007 /  #11
why is that considered rude?
OP lazybones 2 | 52  
14 Nov 2007 /  #12
because a woman is "more important" than a man

it's like the following relations:
elderly/young
superior(boss)/employee
women/man
melnay 1 | 29  
26 Nov 2007 /  #13
Is it the same in UK or anywhere else in the world?

In the Southern US a handshake is certainly acceptable; however, I have found that women tend to offer their hand before the man does (perhaps he is worried the woman won't accept his hand?).
plk123 8 | 4,150  
26 Nov 2007 /  #14
Hand kissing is something from older times. I think now you do it only when you want to make a special impression?

that's true but one can still do it with old friends etc.. in one's circles, if you will.

give up your sit to a lady in a train, bus, tram......

that's not rude but the way to go..
szkotja2007 27 | 1,498  
26 Nov 2007 /  #15
give up your sit to a lady in a train, bus, tram......

Are you sure this is rude ?

If you cant shake hands, kiss hand, give a kiss on the cheek - what do you do?
Just say "hello" ?
For example, if I was meeting a friends wife for the first time.
plk123 8 | 4,150  
26 Nov 2007 /  #16
friends wife... make out? lol.. shake, kiss, hug or whatever seems would be ok.

also, you don't call peeps in poland by their first name unless "allowed" by them. noramlly reserved for friends.. you always start with sir/madam..
OP lazybones 2 | 52  
26 Nov 2007 /  #17
Are you sure this is rude ?

it is rude not to give your sit up to a lady, not only bonny lass
szkotja2007 27 | 1,498  
26 Nov 2007 /  #18
it is rude not to

Aha, that makes sense now.
southern 75 | 7,096  
26 Nov 2007 /  #19
You should give your hand to a woman like that.
OP lazybones 2 | 52  
26 Nov 2007 /  #20
my boss is a women, I don't know
Polka - | 21  
30 Nov 2007 /  #21
I went back to poland recently and I loved that guys kissed my hand and opened doors for me. Its part of the reason why polish girls tend to date polish guys- i think- they are gentleman (although not all!) which is were foreign guys can get an advantage
OP lazybones 2 | 52  
30 Nov 2007 /  #22
they are gentleman

I opened my car's door, the other day, to an elderly lady and was told: you're a real gentleman. She looked very surprised, and I was very pleased :)
toggle - | 1  
3 Dec 2007 /  #23
Thread attached on merging:
do polish men kiss womens hands??

I am writing a story which involves a young polish man in the uk meeting an english woman from a chat room. This is not a romantic date. Would he kiss her hand when they met the first time. Would he kiss her hand when they said good bye? He then meets her friend an old lady would he kiss her hand? thank you for any help
plk123 8 | 4,150  
3 Dec 2007 /  #24
may want to search the forums.. there have been some discussion about that recently.

but if this pole is in england then most likely NO would be the answerS.

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