I am an Englishman who teaches English to Polish Somerset UK i have Polish student who I cent get out my head she is the sexiest thing i have ever seen. I thought i was getting somewhere last year but then Christmas came ( DAMN YOU) and she went back to Poland and brought back her husband and child ( i knew the were there but still i was getting somewhere). Now its next to impossible to get her alone and i can bring myself to ask her about it in front of my other student, her husband and ever present child. I wanna do more than just shag her and i know she does to but WTF do i do. We flirt quite openly in front of her husband but can get to the next stage what do i do
Any suggestions welcome
Cheers
TR80
OK so please excuse spelling issues i am quite drunk @ the time of typing thins and can find the edit button
My advise: just imagine a big "KEEP OUT" or "PRIVATE PROPERTY" sign all over her. Better yet, have another shot of whatever you're drinking and see the signs double.
I am an Englishman who teaches English to Polish Somerset UK
tut tut tut...you need to lay off the booze my friend and find a single woman, she may seem to be flirting but have you not thought that she may be trying to be nice as you are her TEACHER!...pull yourself together man and stop or dont even start to break up a happy home...(shaking my head from side to side)
mate, you should have thought long and hard about posting something like this and further more, you should have been sober...ask yourself this, would you serously break up a family because you think the woman is "the sexiest thing you have ever seen"?...so i think its better you find yourself a single sexiest thing, because there are plenty out there for what you are looking for...
It is this kind of bs that will do damage to other English teachers reputations; not only should he be ashamed but also should not be teaching if he cannot separate his private from his work life.
Beside any ethical concerns, Poles getting the impression that we are a bunch of randy school kids with no morality is bad for business :-)
As pointed out in other posts, non-native Poles can frequently misinterpret (certain, I hasten to add!) Polish women’s sweet friendliness as a green light/come on...
Let's hope this guy gets a 'culture shock' of sorts
non-native Poles can frequently misinterpret (certain, I hasten to add!) Polish women’s sweet friendliness as a green light/come on...
Very true, I have found Polish girls to be way more friendly than native girls. Why is that? It can be very misleading but that is no excuse in this case. Hang your head in shame.
What do you mean by this? I certainly wasn't implying that they where easy. I mean they are easy to talk to, they show interest in other people and smile a lot. This is a superb quality and it really shows up local women who appear much more guarded. I can understand how some men mistake this friendly attitude for something more.
I won’t start a long ramble (rant in disguise) about why I think Polish girls can be so friendly – a lot of it for good reasond however I think some are due to the way women are STILL slightly oppressed, regarded as 2nd class and brought up to be somewhat simpering, subservient housewifes in SOME cases – mostly in the countryside in my experience due to the old-fashioned, Catholicism-inspired, patriarchal family values .
In the towns, I like the ballsy, modern, confident, feisty intelligent type who see much more positive about live and less caught up in their own self-indulgent worlds as per a lot of UK young women. Damn... I did have a little rant after all : -(
You could say we are giving this guy far too much attention, but it raises as few interesting points:
1. Abuse of trust while in position of authority – not cool. I have had roles where ppls had to report to me and could be sickenly nice (in a fake, superficial way) when they wanted something. I did not take it as a come-on though or try and jump them. I guess this guy must have little real contact with women outside his work...
2. Some posters seem to suggest that if the women is up for it, then the perv would be a fool not to go for it. I beg to differ: let’s say that someone is having marital problems, prenatal depressions etc. etc. Surely they present far too easy a target – there are those who enjoy singling out the ‘vulnerable’ e.g. .lonely single mothers, the recently bereaved, divorced, abandoned. Even if he did get her in the sack, how is going to improve her lot in life with satisfying his own... er, drives. No real care or respect... or probably even really interest in her life. Once he has got his rocks off, she is left to pick up the pieces. Low.
3. Big pet hate: certain types of men that think Eastern European women are basically cheap and/or very available due to: the man’s money/passport/ some other delusion about the standard of men in her home country. Sure, there are gold-diggers anywhere. But, no, I hear these creeps protest, it is NOT about the economic power I wield over them, it is the Polish/Russian etc. soul, personality, blah blah. Most of these types can hardly speak a word of their language let alone understand their perspective/culture/soul. Just a shoddy way of saying, ‘Even a sad sack like me can get a gorgeous young woman by... essentially buying her.’ Of course, in such cases, they both get what they deserve, but what bothers me is when such unscrupulous types tarnish ALL Slavic women with the same brush
I seriously doubt that, without this kind of mentality, this creep would even consider trying to encourage a student to betray all those she holds dear – he must at some level consider her a bit of a slut to even contemplate it. Very few Brits I know try to pull such stunts with Muslim women. So, I really blame negative stereotyping about Eastern European women for this sleazy attitude.
Oh God I have far too much time today and had a big rant...
negative stereotyping about Eastern European women for this sleazy attitude
well said and put my friend, i take my hat off to you sir...a true gent... bet the guy has seen the feedback and dare not comment, as for when you are drunk you tend to either be quiet and reserved or speak you mind but either way you tend to be more honest with what your thinking and i guess he was thinking about this student at the time he sent this post out...
Yeah... I agree people's true colours tend to come out after a few - or certainly they have less control/consideration...
Thanks for the feedback. Kinda sad that women are still seen as pieces of meat by some, devoid of any feelings.
Guess that the old cliche about that which is more difficult to obtain/forbidden fruit is more attractive to some. I bet if she did sleep with him, the attracting woudl soon wear off.
it is a shame and for some one in his positon, and he has the cheek to come on here ask for advice how to break up a happy home for his sexual pleasures...tut tut
