very complicated,g'f is in clinic in Kracow,her mum is my only way of finding out how she is doing,last 2 days blanked me out-have only told her how much her daughter means to me-would that offend ???
Is there any connection between you and her being in the clinic? What kind of clinic? For what? Is it possible she learned something about you that affected her negatively toward you?
Or the opposite. She has accepted you and now has been showing how comfortable she would feel around you. No pleasantries needed to be exchanged anymore. You are one of her family and can ignore you and focus on her own. It is a polish way of showing acceptance to new family member (vanishing but still performed mostly in eastern regions of the country)
Sounds like the mom blames you for whatever the problem is....and your "hush-hush" approach leads some of us to believe that mom may have some justification :)