so what if you trust .. and then find out that your trust was misplaced? but by that point you love someone and have small children and a life with them?
You end up like my friend who was 3 months pregnant and her partner of 10 (nearly 11 years and already have an 8 year old daughter) was shaggin some Polish dog at work...My friend kicked him out (new years day this year), had the baby and he's a prick! But all's well that ends well, he cries every time he comes to see the children, that he's made a big mistake and that this girl is off her head and my friend, despite the fact she has two kids, is back with her first love..arrrr dont you just love a happy ending :D
She found him out when he started buying new clothes and acting differently, she went on the family computer only to see in the history that he'd been looking at hotels and a Polish / English translator...BTW, this girl was already married (all of 7 months)..Some poor South African guy who will probably get deported...
To the OP, I always say "evil thinkers evil doers" so she was checking your phone out because she probably knows what she's capable of!