Cheers folks, straight forward, honest and to the point. Precisely what I needed to hear. My sincere thanks.
The e-mail, flowers and phone call are a form of cheating on your present partner.
To a point but this was all after I told my partner everything that happened and we ended up having a blazing row. This despite the fact that I regulary listen to her tell me about the guys who give her their phone number or the conferences she attends and the guys who tell her what hotel room they are staying in.
You haven't mentioned the bit where you broke up with your long term partner, so I'm assuming you are still with her, despite acknowledging problems you can't be assed to do anything about......why are you still with your curent partner?....keeping her in reserve in case it doesn't work out with the barmaid?
Actually I was trying not to flush the last 13 years of my life away but the crap I've had to put up with of late on top of many other skeletons that have come rattling out of various closets makes me less inclined to do so.
My guess is she found out about your partner and doesn't want to go out with a cheat
There was no way for her to find out and anyway I am not a cheat, I simply responded to a jealous outburst, perhaps not in the best way but do we ever in these situations?