Want a female point of view on behaviour

Hopefully time tested secrets will be revealed ;)--- I am just looking for various points of view from the female gender. Not Polish, UK, American or any other to be singled out. I can say I am dating a Polish girl, but that is not to say she is any different than any other girl as it seems to run in most of them I have had relationships with. What I can't understand is the more I "profess" my love, the more she takes it for granted and seems to say it less her self. When I try to be less forthcoming, she takes it as a reason to be insucure or upset. Maybe that is it. I don't know. She always says she follows my mood. She can be the most affectionate person, then the most distant. We have been together 2 years and it is weird that only in the past few months I have noticed this recurring theme in the women I have known. We are spending much more time together now as some things have changed with school/work..etc. It could be my fault, but I'm not so eager to admit that if it is not. I want to be politically correct here and not steriotype anyone. I hope this is not some game she is playing to keep the upper hand. As it is known, "the one who cares the least, controls the relationship." I may have been able to get this across in fewer words, but I am not much on simple explanations. So, girls, why do some of you do this to us guys? I can take it.....give it to me. Guys, you can comment as well. I just would like things to be on an even level with my gf. Maybe a pipe dream. Ask questions if you like. I will be around. Thanks to anyone who wants to play psycologist here. Always willing to learn.

Never mind. I think I have women all figured out now. woohoo !!!

Please post your theory.

ok so what was the deal ?

i will not read this as i HAAAAATE reading monster paragraphs. how about putting some breaks into it so one does not get lost whilst reading

like most humans we get in moods we blow hot and cold and get p*ssed off...we are affectionate, we like having fun we like to laugh...we like to have our own space we like silence now and again and we hope that you can read our mindes :)

Forget Einstein, Newton, Freud or Socrates....if you really have figured out women then its the greatest discovery in the history of mankind.

Only joking, couldn't resist that one.

I do think (at the risk of wrongly stereotyping Polish women) based on my recent experience and other threads on this site from guys who have ex Polish girlfriends that they really blow hot and cold and once they know you have fallen for them it is more and more cold and very controlling. It is cruel. Eventually you have had enough but it is painful because you always remember how they were when they were hot and wonder how can they now be so cold.

As you said, you are dating a "girl" or have dated "girls". Have you ever dated a woman who truly knows what she wants? I'll admit, back in the days of my youth, I was very fickle....hot one minute, cold the next.....it was about control and game playing.....as one matures, they realize the games get boring and want to actually have a mature relationship of sharing and not just one giving and the other taking.....


As I see it, this is playing games......when people are mature adults, they can express their love for one another without playing games (which is what you are doing....telling her how you feel, then witholding your feelings as a form of control and/or fear). Also, we can tell someone every hour we love them, but as the old cliche goes, "Actions speak far louder than words." Maybe check your own motives and actions and see if they jive with your words. If you are being honest with your feelings for her, and she's not responding the way you would like, then maybe it's time to rethink the relationship.....:)

alternatively you could take a tried and tested approach and say...

listen
you little sleezy slut
dont tease me
and believe me
she'll free up easy

then again... some people think its best to ignore my relationship advice... especially when it comes to shagging best friends...

oh well...

That would be my suggestion! ;-)

More textbook examples of what i descibe and give examples of how to solve in my thread "what women REALLY want"

polishforums.com/ok_guys_women_want_stop_acting-9_10997_0.html#msg169756

Booo get him off, he's like a bad comedian....

Nah..........a bad comedian is sooooo much better ........

i was gonna say that a bad comedian isnt funny... but this guy is