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Advice for an Irish girl meeting mother of Polish boyfriend


Aniolek 2 | 22  
13 Apr 2007 /  #1
Anyone got any useful advice for me please?
I have to meet my Polish boyfriends mother for the first time!!!! HELP!!!
Anything I shouldn't do or should do???
miranda  
13 Apr 2007 /  #2
how long is the meeting?
OP Aniolek 2 | 22  
13 Apr 2007 /  #3
I'm not sure yet.....
Probably only for a couple of hours
miranda  
13 Apr 2007 /  #4
well, I think that being yourself is the best, however mothers are mothers. Does she speak English? If not that the communication will be a little difficult. Can you find out form your boyfired what she is like? I am sure that will help.

I think the issue here might be if she is open to non-Polish cultures, wheather she has traveled often, what kind of values she stands for etc. Some Polish peole are very traditional, yet very warm, so it really depends on who is is in general.

I am sure you would be a little stressed out, but so would she.
You will be meeting her in your country,so that's a bonus.
anywas, I am talking too much. Do you have any particular concerns? Are you meeting her in a coffee shop/ restaurant or at home?
OP Aniolek 2 | 22  
13 Apr 2007 /  #5
I will be meeting her in her house. She lives here (ireland) and from what my bf has told me she is quite open minded (she's lived in Italy also)

Thanks for your help Miranda. I think I'm just a little nervous :(
miranda  
13 Apr 2007 /  #6
Oh, so she has travelled. Good for you. I think that the positive thing is that she wants to meet you. I am sure you will do just fine.

If you bake, you will score hight with any mother:)

Have fun:)
OP Aniolek 2 | 22  
13 Apr 2007 /  #7
Thats a good idea!
I think I'll bake her a yummy chocolate cake :)
Giles  
13 Apr 2007 /  #8
yeah and make sure you like her cooking, even if you don't. Plus, make sure she can see a little crucifix around your next.:)
OP Aniolek 2 | 22  
13 Apr 2007 /  #9
Plus, make sure she can see a little crucifix around your next.

I better not tell her any of my opinions on Organised Religion then :)
Frank 23 | 1,183  
13 Apr 2007 /  #10
Not heard of this Organised religion...is it some sort of offshoot of the Free presbyterian church...or........you know......

Plus be careful to wear the crucifix around your neck...not your "next" ...where ever that maybe...:)......................just a tip ...thats all....:)
miranda  
13 Apr 2007 /  #11
religious topics is probably a NO NO on the first meeting:)

Ask her a lot of questions. I always find that people like to talk about themselves:)
szarlotka 8 | 2,209  
13 Apr 2007 /  #12
Not heard of this Organised religion

Is it based in Palermo?
Frank 23 | 1,183  
13 Apr 2007 /  #13
Palermo, Sicily...or Palermo, Utah?
szarlotka 8 | 2,209  
13 Apr 2007 /  #14
Not sure which organisation is more dangerous - mafia or mormons. I'll go with Sicily
Giles  
13 Apr 2007 /  #15
More moms, definately more dangerous, and the more Polish moms the more dangerous it is. They might hang you by your NEXT.:)
szarlotka 8 | 2,209  
13 Apr 2007 /  #16
They might hang you by your NEXT.

Sh*t no. I thought this was banned under the Geneva Convention :)
Jenni - | 19  
21 Apr 2008 /  #17
HI!! Ok its been a while since anyone posted on this thread so i hope people will see this.. im in almost the exact same position :-) im Irish too and my Polish boyfriend's mum will be coming here maybe next month to visit him so i'll meet her for the first time! She seems nice, i've said hello to her on the phone and she's asked about me before :) But she doesn't speak English and me? TROCHE mowię po polsku.. but i will be nervous no doubt!

So any advice on what i can say to her and how to make a nice impression, despite the fact that we won't understand a word the other is saying?? :-)

Also what is the first thing I should say to her - maybe "Miło mi cię poznać" ?? or maybe thats not the most appropriate form for addressing his mother..? And also is it traditional for us to shake hands or kiss on the cheek?? Yes, i've thought this over quite a bit....... any opinions? hehe :-D

Would really appreciate some guidance!!
miranda  
21 Apr 2008 /  #18
"Miło mi cię poznać"

Miło mi Panią poznać is more appropriate, since you wan to address her in an official manner.
z_darius 14 | 3,968  
21 Apr 2008 /  #19
Jenni

In your profile it says "Speak Polish?: trocheczka"

It's so damn cute. I'm sure the meeting will go well.
Jenni - | 19  
22 Apr 2008 /  #20
Tak to prawda, tylko trocheczka :-D ale moj chlopak powiedz mi ze jestem dobra studentka!! My speciality is diminutives haha :-P i love them i think they're so sweet!!! i say EVERYTHING in diminutives hehe.. eg mleczko, domek, smska.. whether its big or not :-D

And thanks miranda that was exactly what i was looking for :) So happy to be on this site now!! You all give really good help :)
sapphire 22 | 1,241  
22 Apr 2008 /  #21
If you are a Protestant.. be very afraid. If not, be a little afraid.

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